Today is your 39th Birthday bubba. I’m sad you’re not here for us to spend it together. 39 would have looked so great on you. I hope you love your resting place. I finally got you and mom back to Albuquerque. Enjoy the sunsets off the mountains bubba. I love you and miss you so much. 
Until we meet again 
Love your little sister Amber🖤

Hi bubba, it’s been 9 years without you and 5 years without mom. I hate being the only one left. I miss you and mom so much. My son Rhett reminds me of you in so many ways. He is so damn smart and too damn kind for this  mean world. Cambrey is now 12 years old and remembers so much of you. I’m so sad that my children with never meet you and know you the way I did. You were my big brother, my protector, my hero. I will tell them memories from our childhood in hopes that they feel like they know you. You were taken from me way too soon and way to harshly and I will never ever forget you bubba. I love you so much.

Hello all, I am Amber Allen’s little sister. For those who do not know my mother, Allen’s mother passed away in 2019 due to cancer. They now have each other. 

Hi Allen. You aren't forgotten. You're in our hearts as long as we live, in our thoughts, and you'll always be a part of us. The other day, I heard someone say, "COME ON!" You immediately popped into my mind, just as vividly as if you were standing right there. I envisioned your arm up in the air when I left Granny and Grandad's a couple of weeks ago. You're here, in little ways that I never expect.
I love you, Buddy.

Thank you sweetheart for allowing us that privaledge I am always here Kim and I love you and Allen Hang in there you are a great person.

Thank you to everyone who have shared feelings and memories of our sweet Allen. He will be forever loved and missed and cherished. I look forward to being reunited with him❤

This will be my last entry here. Fixing to order your book. Also going to the river to fish in the morning . You know how nervous I was  about going. So nervous that I asked you to send me a sign it would be ok. I found the heart sticker. Then I asked for another sign. I found the nickel on my table at work. Then I asked you for one more sign, maybe having to to do with fishing. I found the state quarter with a fish on it. Your signs let me know you heard me and that it will be ok to go on this fishing trip!! Thank you so much my sweet dear son for all the signs. I tried to send a pic to this book but I guess we have already sent all the pics we can. I'm so happy you hear me when I talk to you. There are no words for how much I miss and love you Allen. I am honored to be your mom and when I get there I will never let you go!! Love you so much baby boy!❤❤. You are my angel!! . Til we meet again my son! Love you forever and always!

I love you Bubba. I wish you were here to see how my kids are growing. I miss you so very much

Allen this seems like having to admit to myself that you're gone. I have a few more minutes on this clock and I want to use them I told granny Faith that this means I have to finally let go and let you be free and happy it's just selfish on my part but I really have not made myself face reality.. I mean it's my Alby and it should not be like this. I need you so bad and miss you horribly I guess I'm just slow but dang it Alby. You are one of the most wonderful gifts I ever got to share with you're little blonde hair oh what a special person you are. You're the best Alby I love you so much I hope I will always see reminders of you or see you in a dream. You will be forever in my heart kiddo cause you were such a big chunk thank you Allen for every special second with you that you were just being you
 A fantastic kid I love you I hope we both hear that siminole wind and I know Ozzie said it right Mama I'm coming home  You knew Allen God bless you

Allen I just wrote   a huge message to you but I guess I erased it. Alby one fine day my friend and nephew and my reputation protecter you wouldn't let anyone talk bad about Auntie
. And Alby my arms were always open for you cause you brought so much life and laughter to everyone. Oh I miss you so much my kiddo and old bobbles misses you to. Vonnie still can't bring herself to hold him lol till we meet again my nephew my friend my hope love Ajntje

Thanks everyone for the lovely messages! We have the best family.you are all very kind and I also am thankful for the help leaving this site open. It has been wonderful to be able to let your feelings out. Thanks so much.Alby we miss you so much they say time heals all but boy it's slow going.I guess nobody said it was quick.well miss you so. Love you son.

Allen you always wanted to be big and tough
You were bigger than life.Vonnie told you to stand straight and you did. Next thing we know you were asking a guy "Are you looking at my sister" (Mim)i no no ) and he left quickly Lol

Allen I really and appreciate your Mom  for providing an extra year for us to write to you. It has helped so much

Allen I just couldn't pull it together on the 28th. Not now either. I remember two years ago. It still haunts me the worst news I ever heard and your parents at the viewing. Oh Allen I still can't believe it and I still can't deal with it. Allen I love you so much I just can't text thru the tears . I miss you so much

Allen I miss you everyday but today is really hard. Happy heavenly birthday. I love you Alby

Love you so oooo much Allen happy birthday!

Happy heavenly birthday Allen! I have your candles lit. I'm at the lake wishing you were here with me. We didn't get to fulfil our last plans to come here. I always feel you are here with me when I come. There are not words to describe how much I love you and miss you. Everyday baby, everyday. I know you are in a wonderful place with all the loved ones we have there with you. And you now have your dog, Bo with you. I will find comfort in that til I get there honey. Can't hardly wait for that glorious day! I love you tons baby boy! Thank you God for letting me be Allen's mom. He still blesses me everyday!

Hey there buddy boy want to wish you a happy birthday!!! Can't believe it has been two years.we all miss you soooo much.Happy birthday to Grandma Mamie too same day as you you know! We will send your balloons up! Hope you catch them. We love you so very much Alby. Anna misses you also well we all do and always will till we meet again what a day of rejoicing that shall be.

Happy heavenly valentines honey. I of course bought the i❤U candy I have bought for you your whole life. I so wish I could give it to you. I love you and miss you so much!

today I had to do one of the hardest things since you had to go away. Bofus joins you today in heaven. Hard for me to let him go, but I can imagine the joy you both have in being reunited. I will miss him terribly. He is a great dog. He is your dog. I look forward to also being reunited with you. I miss you so very much and today it hurts a lot to have had to let go of part of you yet again. I will keep the image of you and bo together again. What a beautiful time you will have! I love you and tell bo I'm sorry.

Well buddy it's getting closer to the day you left us.I will never forget that phone call.Its the one no parent ever wants to get.Ripped my heart right out of my chest.I just thank the Lord for being there along with all the wonderful people in my life.Thank you lord!! Miss you Sonny boy!!

Allen im just shaking trying to write to you. Oh that i could see your beautiful face. I tell you each time how much I miss you so no need for the rest. I haven't moved on any since the day it happened. That piece of my   was ripped out. I love you Allen. Oh that you were a phone call away

Hey old buddy I sure do miss you wish you were still a phone call away.I know there's no doubt you feel all the love! Boy what a popular guy your kind heart is why.your the best Sonny boy love you.

Think of you and miss you every single day my boy! I just want to see you, please come to my dreams to say hello and tell me how good you are. I love you so much Allen .

Grandmas birthday was a few days ago. (Also still a hard day). I miss her greatly! I am glad the two of you are together and I will be seeing you both again. Sometimes I can hardly wait! I love you my son.

Merry Christmas Allen. i was busy on facebook writing to you so i am a day late on  here. it seemed to be a united missibg you worse by the minute day yesterday. i was writing and returned to my page and your mom, mimi and auntie Rayna had already been at work This is just not getting any less painful. i think that was really evident on Christmas. i love you

The holidays just can't be the same anymore but for you I will try my best. Just know, I will cry. They will be tears of wonderful memories of you and Christmas in the past. I love you so very much

Well, it is Christmas Eve. I'm missing you tons. Bo  is hanging in there. I am doing everything I can for him. I so wish we could be together dear Allen. I love you baby boy! Merry Heavenly Christmas my dear son !!! Hugs and kisses to you and mom. Christmas must be amazing in heaven!

Hello my dear son, 
A day I have been fearful of is now fast approaching. Bofus is not doing well. He can barely get up anymore and his legs keep collapsing. Just like his mamas, only worse. It looks like this mama may be sending your dog home to you for Christmas. Maybe it is your request and God is granting. I know how much you love Bo.  He will be so happy to see you as you will him! Don't know what I'll do without him. It's like losing apart of you again.  I know you and grandma and God will help me to get thru it. I love you with all my heart and soul!! Merry Christmas sweet Allen!

Alby,
The holidays bring so many memories of you. I guess for me, that's because that's when me, B, and Kay got to come to Granny's and visit, and you were always around. I love you and my heart hurts for all of us, and it hurts for the pain you went through, but I know you have peace now. You were such a fun fellow, always laughing, and making us laugh. Come ON! That's what I hear you say in my head. Love you. Love to your mom, dad, Auntie Fonda, Amber, and those who miss you so.

I have gone this long with out reading all these messages and today it just happened. I feel like I lost you all over again! Everyday my heart hurts for you bubba. Words can not describe how much I miss you. I love you so much bubba.

Allen I think you did have clues for us when I think back too. It's still too hard kid. im crying too hard to write. it was so untimely I love you so much. I have been having some heart trouble and I know 1reason is because losing you took a having huge piece out of it. you were that important to me. I don't know how long till I can finally say it's for real.  Can't

Try as I might, tears just flow. The pain just comes.,I so miss you. The last few months you were always saying "are you ok mom, I just want you to be ok"
You said it so often it sometimes freaked me out. I would tell you that I would be fine when you were. I think we both knew somehow that something was coming. Just not sure what it was. Well, now you are fine in heaven! I know I need to be ok because that is all you wanted. My pain is just my love for you. I'm gonna be ok my son! Even better when I join you in heaven. All my love!!

Allen I miss you and still cry so hard when I think about you. But I have been so sick so while I was having. to stay in bed, I have been studying the Bible and finding scriptures that describe what heaven is like. it sounds so awesome. I feel some comfort finding out that you are free with no tears. we cry about not having you here but happy you are in a much better place. I love you Ably.

Here come the holidays. They don't get easier. I know you would not want me hurting . I know 
You are happy and free. That pleases me. But I 
Miss you and can't always stop the hurt.  I try because I know you would not want it. I love you
So very very much.

I love you Allen Kenneth Coffey. The holidays and every other day for that matter are hard. But for this Thanksgiving I am going to praise God  For having you in our lives.  The Blessed Day that I got a call in New Orleans. Fonda, the baby has got here. Praise Be

Oh Allen it is so hard without you this must be a nightmare that we will all wake up from. It just doesn't seem like this is real. I hate it but I love you, such a great guy I love you Allen

Hey Allen....the weather is changing, another season come and gone without you here with us. Sometimes it feels like this can't be real. You had kind of a rough time of it here, didn't you? I know you wouldn't want your mom to hurt like she does, though. Love you sweet boy,
Auntie Rayna

Missed you and my cake you always made on my birthday. I don't celebrate them anymore. Or at least as little as possible. I don't deserve to be having them as you don't get to have them anymore. I love and miss you so very much. My biggest desire is to join you in heaven my son!!!

Kim you chose the perfect song. I don't think any of us could have gotten through simple man and I think Allen may have had special feelings for mama I'm coming home. No girl you did just perfect on that choice in many ways. Everything fit exactly how you all did it.  Wouldn't change one thing. Love you and love Allen just miss him so much

Such a mess honey. I just can't seem to do the things in life that I must do long enough to be any good. One step forward to many back.  I know you understand this.  I am so sorry I didn't when I should have. Hardest thing ever. I love and miss you so mix there just isn't a way to express and get over. I should have been able to save you, I am your momma. I was my job. My only job. I failed. I know you would not want me this way but I don't know how to change it. I hate the fakeness I but up every day. I hated it before. Life means little with you gone. I just want to see you again

Thank you Lord and Allen! I got my voice mails back. It may seem silly, but hearing your voice helps me so much. Sometimes it makes me happy sometimes sad . But it helps the terrible missing you so much!  I look forward to the day I get to hold you again my sweet boy! I love you forever!!

Simple man was always my song to Allen. I often told him to listen to it and we did together a lot. I so wish that was the song I had played at his service. I chose momma I'm coming home because Allen would tell me that all the time.,I always thought that meant I was gonna have my son forever by my side. I love you and miss you so much Allen !

Allen I can't listen to skynard either but I do still have to laugh about you and Jason starting big recording of simple man and you
started with your big strong voice but what came out was. Obama told me,,,we all laughed so hard. Granny Faith just got a knee replacement. She's doing good. There is no replacement for you Alby. Just can't stand this.  I know you can't come to me but I will be so happy wheni can go to you. It just don't add up. You made everything so wonderful, yet left here are so many terrible people. Maybe that's where it adds up  you don't have to deal with them it's getting rough down here Alby. So much crime. I love you sweetheart. The pain will just always be there. We must continue to ask God for comfort. It hurts so bad!!

May God's blessing be upon each of you in these tough times we are going through don't forget he's always there he will help you we will never forget you I will always think about you love you

Hey buddy I threw on some skinyrd simple man couldn't handle and busted up. I miss talking to you so much you always understood me. I love you  buddy.

Allen, 
Send your mom some peace and comfort. The loss of those voicemails is devastating. Another piece of you gone. She needs something to hold on to, as do we all. I've still got your last fb message and I can't fathom the idea of it not being available. Your parents love you so much. We miss you, boy. 
Auntie

I had two voice mails from you that I had saved.  Some how they are gone . I wanted to hear your voice. I wanted to hear you say mom.  They are gone. I will never hear again.  It's like loosing you again. It hurts so bad baby boy. This does not get easier it only hurts

Found a home in Colorado for the dog I have been fostering. Wish you were here son. I love you! I think of you every day.

This just doesn't get easier. I miss you so very much. Like Fonda, every minute of everyday I think of you. Sometimes I cry, sometimes I smile. But every minute. Some days I can't move. I love you!

Hi my boy. I am going to foster another dog., 3 yr old Shepard mix.  I pick him up tomorrow. Helping the animals helps me feel closer to you. Miss you so much baby boy. I often still can't wrap my head around this. Help me find a good home for this doggie Allen ., I love you , I love you, I love you !!!!

Allen it's too much not having you here.  Why why why but the "Lord knows and we'll  understand it all by and by.  It's  just as hard today as it was when you passed.  Oh Allen I hugged you and hung on to you even though you were gone on.  Oh Allen I love you more than you could know.

Your always on my mind Son. I have good days and bad days.  My heart is always aching though. I love you so very much!  If it wasn't for the little signs you send me, and my faith in God, I would not make it. Thank you for helping me! I love you

Oh my gosh Allen,  it's Auntie.  I have just gotten a phone back that I can write to you on.  I miss you so much and then I didn't have a phone good grief I  love you Allen and I just can't get over not having you here in person to talk to.  I will be so glad when we meet again

Well another reunion come and gone. Our group seems to be growing smaller. We had a great time at Ruidoso. I think you would've enjoyed it. Miss you and love you. 
Auntie

Heavy on my mind tonight.  Please visit me in my dreams.  Please. . I miss you so

Hey buddy looks like me and your uncle Ned will be going deer hunting this year.I know you would have tried to go with us and I would have loved nothing more. Maybe in heaven we will have bows made out of gold and big 12 point silver bucks will run up the mountains made of pure turqoise. We will see who scores the biggest one. I miss you so much my friend. Love dad

He only took your hand. I love that poem and when I read it, it helps me. I am going to the lake again. I always get nervous about leaving town.  I don't know if that feeling will ever go away. Hoping grandpa will come with me this time. Wish you would come to. Today it's hard to hold back tears. I love you my boy!

When I feel saddness I feel guilty because I know you don't want that.  You don't want me sad . When I feel any joy or happiness I feel guilty because how can that be. I no longer have my first born son. I miss you so I love you so .  I didn't do enough,  I didn't save you. This journey is impossible .  I miss you so

Allen,
Reunion time is coming up. You will be with us in spirit. We love you so much. Your mom is having a rough time. I know your dad has really tough days too. Please give them comfort and peace any way you can. Love your Auntie.

Having a hard night.  I wish I could talk to you. Or about you. I love you!

Oh Allen I miss you everyday not a day goes by o don't think of you! You were such a great friend! And I'm so happy to have gotten the chance to be your friend. You always made me smile even on a bad day! We were like two peas Ina pod! And I'd give anything to see your face again! I hope the Angels know what they have and you're dancing in the sky! Rest easy my friend for ever and always!

The dinosaur exhibit it coming again. We were supposed to go last year., I couldn't bring myself to go. I was gonna take your neices this year but they have plans already.  You and I would have been going. You just can't out grow Dino's . Lol.  I love and miss you every second. Take that sweet two year old that got killed by gator under your wings my boy. I love you!!!!

Lighting a candle for you tonight.  Praying to find you in my dreams tonight . Missing my boy. I love you sweet Allen !

Hey ol alby boy sure do miss you I kiss your picture everyday and give your heart a little rub. Your a great son miss you so much love dad.

Missing you so much.  Bofus is having a lot of problems with his hips and legs.  It breaks my heart.  I have tried three meds.  Nothing has helped.  I am ordering that cannibis oil ( spelt that wrong lol)  I have heard it can help so I'm gonna try. It is good for seizures to so maybe it will help that also. We both love and miss you baby.  I know you may want him with you now and I will understand. But I'll keep him as happy as I can til then.  He often goes to your picture and smells it. He does help me a lot just because he was yours. love you my son.

Allen, 
You're on my mind today. Our reunion is coming up before too long.  We will be missing you. 
Love you dearly....
Auntie Rayna

Saw a video on Facebook today from the Indian village in alb. It was an Indian dance.  Made me think of when you went through your Indian stage as a young boy. Always wearing the Indian outfits you had and doing Indian dances.  Lol. You were so cute and so good at the dances.  Mainly the eagle dance.  I have video of you dancing and lots of pics with you dressed up like an Indian.  Man do I miss you.  You could always make me laugh and smile.  You are so loved my son.

Allen, 
Cambrey's birthday party is Saturday. She will be five on the 31st. Then after party I am going to the lake.  I so very much wish you were here and could come with me to both. I wish you were here to meet your nephew. He is gonna be blonde like you were when you were young. Every time I go to lake I think about our plans to go. We would have had so much fun. I know you will be with me in spirt. I love and miss you and mom so much.
Mom

Hi Allen....send your Mom and Dad some peace on those really rough days. They miss you so much. We all do. I know you wouldn't want them hurting so much. I wish I could here you say, "Come on!" again. No one can say it quite like you. Love you, buddy.

2nd Mother's Day without you here. What I wouldn't give for just a moment with you. ( anything ). I'm so sorry I didn't do more.  So sorry I didn't save you. I miss you terribly and I love you so much Allen. Give grandma a big hug and kiss for me. And hugs and kisses to you my sweet baby boy. ❤❤❤❤

Thinking of you always.  Missing you and I love you❤

One quick question,,, OLD AUNTIE LEWIS?  More like ancient . lol. Allen did you know that you brought fun wherever you were. You kept me tickled all the time.  You went to Albertsons with Miranda and finally you said does everyone look like aliens to you? Miranda looked around and yes all of them. Lol  And you and Vonnie would laugh at,,,,,, everything. Ned and Katrina were laughing telling me how I got the name AUNTIE LEWIS. Wow. We talk about the times we were together. They miss you horribly like all of us. Your time here was about making it count and you did.  Love you so,    old Auntie

Im thinking about you a lot today. I think about you often, but today I'm really thinking of you , your laugh , your arm in the air proud, I miss you much and I love you so....

Dear Allen  We just miss you more all the time.  Still can't believe you're not with us, but you will never leave our hearts.  You were a wonderful grandson and we love you.  Granny Faith  Grandad Leon

Tonight thinking about you as always. But tonight it's been good memories.  I was just laughing and smiling about the time we watched that movie about White Castle burgers. Not sure of the name of the movie., but we drove all over town until we found some of those burgers.  Lol that was a great time baby boy!  I love you.  I cherish the time we had.

Allen,
I'd so love to hear your laugh again. It was such a great sound! Yours and Miranda's laughs....I've always loved so much. What a great family we've been fortunate to have. Old Auntie Lewis loved you so, as well as your Mom and Dad, your Grandparents, Granny and Grandad, your sisters and Aunts and Uncles, your cousins, friends.....you were and are still loved. Good night, Allen. Can you see thousands of stars, or an infinite galaxy? Hearts that love you and hurt to think of losing you, but are glad you're at peace? This world is full of pain, but full of good things as well. We have lots of good memories, Allen. Love you,
Auntie

Today is one of those days I just repeat your name and tell you I love you and how sorry I am over and over again.  I love you so much son.

OBITUARY

Allen Kenneth Coffey

February 26, 1986 – February 28, 2015

Ellis Resthaven Funeral Home and Memorial Park

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