O.B. Davis Funeral Homes - Miller Place

1001 Route 25A, Miller Place, NY


Alan R. Lapham

June 12, 1984September 4, 2020

LAPHAM, Alan R. on September 4, 2020 of Coram, New York. Beloved son of Salley Henderson (Peter). Loving brother of Jennifer Lapham, Danielle Henderson and Dawn Henderson. Dear boyfriend of Antonella Sclafani. Also survived by many loving aunts, uncles, cousins and friends. Reposing at O.B. Davis Funeral Homes, 1001 Route 25A, Miller Place, New York Visitation Friday, September 11, 2020 from 2-9 pm. Services Friday, 7:30 pm. Funeral Saturday, September 12, 2020, 10 am. Cremation 11 am Washington Memorial Park, Coram, New York.


  • Visitation

    Friday, September 11, 2020

  • Services

    Friday, September 11, 2020

  • Cremation

    Saturday, September 12, 2020


Alan R. Lapham

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Sean Murray

September 15, 2020

This is so crazy. Me and Alan only became close in the last 3 years or so. We worked together almost every day. We carpooled together damn near every morning. We fought, we laughed, we hung out at night. He made fun of me for my lack of style. But Who could compete with his style right. Idk how to say this but until i saw him lying there on friday, i never understood just how much i loved him. I hope he knows he was my guy and I will never forget him.

Lea Leone

September 15, 2020

Your spirit was contagious. I enjoyed the short time I got to hang out with you and Dan when I still lived in NY. You were such a good person. You will be so deeply missed. My condolences, love and prayers to your entire family and anyone effected by your passing.

Desiree Morris

September 12, 2020

My Prayers for all his friends & family. He was a funny guy right off the bat when I 1st met him years ago with my sister Vanessa. Definitely can see he was the life of the party. I'm so sorry for the loss of his light in the world and hope your hearts begin healing soon. My prayers and thoughts are with you all. Sending Light & Love,

Antonella Sclafani

September 10, 2020

Our first picture together. Where it all started. We cleaned up well and you always went the extra mile to look good. You’re presence was extraordinary and your aura was delightful. You had a beautiful soul. Irreplaceable to say the least. You brought my heart so much joy, and the way you would look at me sometimes made me feel like I hit the lotto. I’m grateful for the time god let me spend with you, even though I wish it was more. You are my world, I’m going to miss you more then words can express. I love you so much. ❤️

Simone La Rosa

September 9, 2020

I remember the first time I met you, you said "wow you have a lot of tattoos". I replied "you too" and then you asked if I liked Metallica and we were instant friends. I am glad my husband introduced you and Annie into my life, despite my hesitance at first. The hesitance was silly of course because you and Annie were amazing and sweet always. You never let us fall. Always there to offer a hand, a bed to rest our heads when we were homeless, a home cooked meal, a drink, or just to hangout. We always had too much pride to accept help but we enjoyed the few hangouts we had with you. I enjoyed our talks about Metal and Tattoos and food. You were always so happy. I never was, and it was a great spirit to be around. It felt calming, a nice change from my usual existence. You lit up everything for everyone. Dutch and I were at a loss of emotions, words... everything, when we heard you had gone to God. I know you'll always be there for Antonella and watch over her, and for your family. Rest easy my friend. See you later. Shine on!

Cici Deptola

September 9, 2020

Alan you were always there for me to vent to. I'll miss our talks about jordans. You are the light of the party to a lot of people. You gave so much joy to those in your life. Your one of the good ones and you'll forever be missed.

Allie Hart

September 9, 2020

Always a good time when Alan was around, and always making everyone laugh.You will be missed dearly my friend, RIP❤️

Lydia Martinez

September 9, 2020

Rest easy Alan, I still don't believe this is really happening. My condolences to Alan's family, and friends. My deepest sympathy to Annie, and Sally. My heart breaks for both of you. May angels lead you in my friend.

Rob Edlund

September 9, 2020

One of the best “work” vacation’s could ask for lol. 3 day weekend full of laughs and good times

Nicole Schober

September 9, 2020

Fourth of July was so much fun in North Carolina I’m so happy I went with you and Annie


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