Fairhaven Memorial Services

27856 Center Drive, Mission Viejo, CA


Ryan Lee Lake

September 24, 1967August 4, 2019
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Ryan Lee Lake was born on September 24, 1967 in Baton Rouge, Louisiana and passed away on August 4, 2019 in Mission Viejo, California.


  • Funeral Service Friday, August 16, 2019
  • Celebration Reception Friday, August 16, 2019


Ryan Lee Lake

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kris & marc hood

August 20, 2019

Our hearts are so very heavy hearing about Ryan. We only met him once in Houston but felt like we knew him well after being on our first Bechtel assignment in Kenai Alaska with Butch and Bonnie, who were so lovely and kind and we have always considered them family. Bonnie - you and your family are in our thoughts and prayers and we hope you all find peace, comfort and strength to get you through this difficult time. Seeing the photos of Ryan and Joanna's beautiful children, we know Ryan will live on through them. Much love to you all...kris & marc hood

Liz Yoast

August 18, 2019

Ryan entered my life when I was 12 years old, over three decades ago. He was a perfect male role model for me and my family. The best brother-in-law anyone could ask for. Always happy, kind, sincere, funny and genuine. The world lost and amazing person. One of the happiest, most kind, funny, caring people I know. He was and is loved by EVERYONE. My heart aches but my memories of him and how he treated every single person like first class and made everyone feel his happiness are what I will remember most. Life will not be the same without you. RIP brother, you are missed so much. ❤️

Jean Vogtli

August 15, 2019

Ryan is my husband's nephew.
As with many Bechtel families, we spend most of our lives away from home, family and friends. In my 20+ years in the Vogtli/Lake family I was only able to meet - in person - Ryan and Joanna 10-15 times. But oh, how I know Ryan through family memories. The man I got to know, whose character and personality is echoed in the many tributes, was a true man of love, humor, and grace.
Ryan was also a product of his mother Bonnie and father "Butch". Bonnie gave him the nurturing characteristic and Butch his sense of humor, hospitality and the famous phrase "it doesn't cost more to go first class: you just can't stay as long". Ryan talked with his hands. I always thought he missed his calling as a symphony conductor.
Ryan took everything to heart. I remember when Joanna was pregnant with Riley, Ryan was so nervous as he was taking in and embracing the awesome responsibility of being a new father. I'd say that he mastered that role.
I never speak Ryan's name without saying "Ryan and Joanna". That's how I knew Ryan... and Joanna. Part of a union. A strong union.
Ryan: we all love and will miss you terribly. Joanna, Riley and Makena: we love you. Your deep sorrow and loss is our pain.
We are praying for peace and comfort now and always.

Hans and Carol Willemse

August 14, 2019

As Ryan's father-in-law, I know there aren't enough pages to describe the good in him. He was a tremendously great person. I could not have searched this world to find a better man for my daughter and grandchildren. His positive in life with an uncanny sense of humor cannot be matched by anyone I know. He leaves us all with a feeling of emptynes and sadness, yet the memories will bring some sunshine through our tears. Thank you Ryan, for the time and joy you always have to others and for the example of who we all need to be like. He had only one enemy and it took him from us.

Rock Sterling

August 14, 2019

I first met Ryan many years ago, when I was coaching with Joanna for Makenna's 8U soccer team. Ryan was always smiling and positive. He was great to have on the sidelines. He would just pull up seat in a chair and begin cheering. He had a real love for the game and was his family's BIGGEST FAN!
As we moved on, as it happens in rec soccer, every time I saw Ryan at the fields, he remained the same, his family's BIGGEST FAN! We would always share kind words and talk about our families. He was very sincere and listened intently as we talked and listened to how our families and kids continued to grow.
Any time I would see Ryan, he was a joy. We spent many days just talking outside my house as he was waiting to pick Makenna up from school. Again, we would share in our stories and even up to the end remained positive and up beat.
Ryan was a great man! He will be missed. I'm glad to have known him.

Adam Micklin

August 13, 2019

I was an assistant AYSO soccer coach with Joanna for a couple of seasons here in Mission Viejo, CA. Ryan was always there to both cheer on their daughter Makenna but also be there to support Joanna (not that Joanna ever needs it :) ) He'd always be running a timer to let her know how much time was left in the half. I really appreciated how he showed this support - you'll be missed Ryan out on the soccer fields of MV.

Beckie Baugnet- Stefely

August 12, 2019

I was Ryan’s music teacher at OVS 1983 -85. I’ll never forget when he sang blue moon as a solo with our swing choir! He was such a big help as this was my first job as a music teacher and I came all the way from Wisconsin. . He was always such a positive young man and for years I wondered what he was up to. I am so sorry to hear of his passing. I always hoped that one day I would be able to reconnect with him and hear about his life. You will all be in my prayers!

Adam and Ivana Shepard

August 12, 2019

Never gonna forget this guy...

Cindy Verne

August 9, 2019

One night I was at soccer practice at Cypress High School. Just as we were about to finish a man walked up to me and said that his wife was coaching the small kids practicing next to us and she was interested in joining our team.

The next week Ryan and Joanna came to practice to try out and from that day on Joanna and "Ryan" were on the team.

Ryan showed up to every game, every tournament and everything else the team was doing. There was not a more proud husband than Ryan was of Joanna.

Joanna always wore her hair in a very high pony tail that Ryan lovingly referred to as her bird turd. Since Joanna was clearly the tallest on the team, it never mattered what position she was playing (even goalie) Joanna always stood by the keeper whenever we took a corner kick. More often than not she scored a goal with her head. Ryan would run up and down the field yelling “BIRD TURD’. The team was always joyous to score but no one had a bigger smile on their face than Ryan.

Ryan could make friends with anyone. When my husband came to the field Ryan was his buddy. When my boys turned 21 and we took them to the Vegas tournament, Ryan was their buddy. If we played butts up in between games, Ryan was the first one on the field.

There was never a time that we had to put the nets up or take them down that Ryan was the first one out there helping us, even after we dropped a very heavy goal post on his foot.

Ryan always brought joy, fun and laughter to everyone on the team.


Trace Fitz Landberg

August 9, 2019

I had the good fortune to meet Ryan when we were freshmen in high school, and it was an instant “sibling” bond - we laughed, we cried, we were those obnoxious teenagers (oh the inappropriate humor). Ryan pushed me to do more and be better. Our senior year our class went on a ‘back country’ adventure which included a turn at rock climbing. I will admit (now) that I was scared outta my wits – going up wasn’t so bad, it was the repelling down that ‘3 million’ foot high rock. As scared as I was I was determined to show up Ryan, there was no way I was going to give him the satisfaction of teasing me mercilessly for giving up. That “sibling rivalry” got me to challenge myself, and we succeeded.
Ever grateful to know Ryan, he is/was/always will be the example we want to see in the world.
Well done my brother, well done …