Antonio "Tony" Lam Gruenberg

May 16, 1941August 6, 2019
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Antonio L. Gruenberg “Tony”, son of William and Mercedes, passed away peacefully surrounded by his loving family on Aug 6, 2019.

He is survived by his wife of 54 years, Josephine, and his six doting children; Norman, Yvette and her husband Norman Esteban, Karen and her husband Rich Reyes, Claudine and her husband Manny Go, Bryan Gruenberg and his wife Jessica and his youngest Rachel Gruenberg. He leaves behind seven wonderful and talented grandchildren; Josh, Miguel, Chelsea, Jordan, Ben, Sabrina and Dylan.

He was an extremely accomplished airline pilot in his early years, making captain when he was only 22. He was an avid amateur photographer, often developing and printing his own work, and an adept fisherman. A self taught culinary artist, he enjoyed cooking, especially for his family, his biggest fans. He loved all of his grandchildren deeply and spent hours humming lullabies putting them to sleep. He had a soothing deep voice, great sense of humor and an infectious laugh and he will be sorely missed.

Friends and extended family are invited for visitation at Spadaccino and Leo P. Gallagher & Son Community Funeral Home, 315 Monroe Turnpike, Monroe, CT 06468 on Thursday, August 8th between 5-8pm.

A funeral mass in honor of Antonio is scheduled at St. Margaret Mary Catholic Church, 50 Donovan Lane, Shelton, CT 06484 on Saturday, August 10th at 11:30 am.


  • Visitation Thursday, August 8, 2019
  • Funeral Mass Saturday, August 10, 2019


Antonio "Tony" Lam Gruenberg

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Judy Ladores

August 13, 2019

It was in 2010 when Tito Tony sent me a message to introduce himself. I can feel how happy he is from the messages he sends me. I was really moved by his kindness and genuine heart because he really made an effort to find and communicate with me in messenger. So when I met him personally last year, I could'nt contain my happiness. It was our first meeting, yet It felt like I have known him for a very long time. I felt comfortable talking to him and it felt like the emotional attachment has always been there. He will always have a special place in my heart. Rest in peace Tito Tony...say hi to daddy for me. Tell him I miss him badly and I love you both so much.

Rey and Joy Gruenberg

August 10, 2019

Tony our "keep it coming " brother as what he always say when he does the dishes..In a short span of 2 months of stay here in Manila, he had shown his affection not just to me but to the whole family as well.. we will always remember all the fun and laughter that we shared during our family bonding moments. Your presence is very much treasured..Utol, i will never forget those times when you used to cuddle me when i was a little boy, my fondest memory of you.
We will always love you ..
Our deepest sympathy to Jessie and the rest of the family.

Felicidad Santos

August 9, 2019

I'm fortunate to have crossed path in life with you, dear Tony: the gentleman, the caring husband and father, quiet in his ways and noble in his actions. The past years I got to know more through those who know you best.

Now you're called as your work on earth is completed to the true joy of Rest and Peace with our Lord.

Ashley Poppa

August 9, 2019

My sincere condolences go out to the Gruenberg family. My thoughts are with you in this difficult time.

Doy Sievert

August 9, 2019

As they say, “ the road to a friend’s home is never long “. Yes, the three of us with Evelyn, all made it to the Philippine Islands to be with relatives which was long overdue, despite the arduous travel.
We found ourselves in Baguio, a place you last visited 60 years ago and savoring the seafood appetizers and salpicao at The Manor with the musicians singing our requests. After which, we were in the beautiful island of BORACAY, which you only knew and saw from the vantage point of your cockpit, flying over hundreds of times as a commercial pilot of PAL. Then off to Batangas for an overnight stay at Pico de Loro with was relaxing as well with us praying fronting the sea with Popoy’s spiritual nourishment and your daily Tai Chi.

As you embark to the heavens high above once again, your legacy of character , the life that you have lived embracing the virtues of hope, charity, honor, integrity, humility , gratefulness , love of family and live of our Creator , will always be remembered. Hoping that people that are close to you can live their lives with courage, maintaining composure under pressure and selflessness, that pertains to all of us.

You have always been and will continue to be our CAPTAIN, taking safely in understanding what truly what life is all about. We will surely miss you Tony most specially Evelyn, Eva, Rey, and Herbert. As evidenced by the outpouring comments felt and articulated, Tony , you are LOVED and will be with us forever.

Chilet Gruenberg

August 9, 2019

.My deepest heartfelt condolence to your family dear Jessie. It was such a blessing to my family to have the opprtunity to be with Tony when he came for a much awaited vacation with us relatives in the Phils. I will always remember those happy moments of fun , jokes and laughter that we shared . His laughter always was a joy to hear. Tho our family are thousands of miles away we share the bond of family . I believe that God's will finally prevailed in Tony's life .. No more pain , no more sickness , no more tears , no more fears only rejoicing in the presence of the Lord. Rest in peace dear Tony..

Jonesy Gruenberg

August 8, 2019

I remembered every time we would have a party at Mamang's house, every time he arrives he will make sure he would acknowledge you. My brother Judd's fondest memory of him was that he would always fix his toys so he wont be scolded. Thats how we remembered him before his family migrated when my siblings and I were too young. So he made it a point that we remembered him by greeting us on our birthdays reminding us that he is our Tito just in case we can't remember him. We are so lucky that he went home for a visit and we got to meet our kind hearted Tito again after all those years. Rest in peace Tito, you will never be forgotten, till we meet again.

Cielo and Popoy Vilchez

August 8, 2019

Tito Tony is such a joy to be with because of his simple, quiet and pleasant demeanor. We were fortunate enough to spend a weekend with him at the beach, which he appeared to have loved so much! He talked of his love for cooking and trying different recipes. So many jokes exchanged, and memories shared. We even quickly planned a getaway next year when I mentioned we 'd like to do a road trip to see Vermont. While Im saddened that will no longer come to pass, Im happy at the thought that he could now be cooking his favorite recipes or simply enjoying his time in the loving arms of his Creator. Farewell Tito and be at peace. You will surely be missed.

Jim and Tess Sarenas

August 8, 2019

This is what Jim shared on Facebook
Tito Tony always finds time to sit down and have a good talk about his past experiences. He would spend hrs reminiscing his joy of flying. Especially when he learned my late brother was a pilot too. His level headedness and coolness are traits i will always relish at the times we were together. God Bless you Tito as you take off to your new destination, the Heavens above . Godspeed as Captain, you have made your final approach . Tess, Leslie and myself will never forget you . Love you Tito Tony .

Olivia Pelea

August 8, 2019

Tito Tony has always been one of the “favorite uncles” in the Gruenberg family . He was the tall, dark and handsome one, more quiet and subdued compared to the others.
Some years back, when we got together at Tita Eva’s house in New Jersey ,he repeatedly asked me to come with Albert and visit them in Connecticut because I mentioned that I had never been there.He promised to take us around the “Five Burroughs”- places I said I would like to see. He talked about the glorious colors of fall -being an avid photographer...he spoke of train rides that we could take and boy, was I excited ! More than anything, it touched me that my uncle would take that kind of time for me. I only have regrets that we never got the chance to do it.
This year, the year I was to see him for the last time, he recalled having gone to the house a few years back and said how much he enjoyed the peace and quiet of it. I remember how he seemed to enjoy just being around the table with family , laughing at being able to get away with extra servings of dessert.
This will be the last picture I will have of him in my mind- laughing like a kid at the sweet treats he was having, enjoying his family here in the Philippines, joking us relentlessly! For these memories, I am grateful. -Mavi