OBITUARY

Elaine Rose Venezia Necklas

June 28, 1955July 26, 2018
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Elaine Rose Venezia Necklas passed away suddenly on July 26, 2018. She was an administrative assistant for BenHaven School, in Wallingford, CT for 30 years.

Elaine was a gentle and kind soul. She enjoyed the simpler things in life….a good book, a jigsaw puzzle, poker with family every weekend or just sitting in her rocker on the front porch with her husband Socrates on a warm summer night. She loved interacting with her students at BenHaven, especially Brendan. She loved spending time with her entire family, especially her daughter, her son, and her 4 grandchildren. Elaine also enjoyed hosting numerous family parties. Above all what she missed most in life was speaking to her beloved mother, Ida (Muma), on a daily basis.

She is survived by her beloved husband, Socrates Necklas of East Haven. Her children, Keith Crumb of East Hampton and Erica (Scott) Meyer of Woodbury. Sisters Carol (Glen) Prentice, Joanne (Gene) Pendakiwskyj and brother Joe (Kym) Venezia. Mother-in-law Georgia Necklas, brother-in-law Michael (Antoinette) Necklas, sister-in-law Barbara Necklas. Four Grandchildren that were the love of her life, Madeline and Tyler Crumb and Scott and Ethan Meyer. She is also survived by numerous nieces and nephews also by a very special friend Mary Psybyski.

She is predeceased by her parents Joseph and Ida Venezia.

Calling hours will be held Monday, July 30 from 4 p.m. to 8 p.m. at Spadaccino's Funeral Home, 315 Monroe Turnpike, Monroe, CT. A mass will be held on July 31 at St Jude Church, 707 Monroe Turnpike at 10 a.m. Burial immediately following at Gate of Heaven Cemetery, Daniels Farm Road, Trumbull. Contributions can be made in Elaine's memory to St. Jude Children's Research Hospital, 262 Danny Thomas Place, Memphis, TN 38105.

Elaine was deeply loved and cherished by all and will forever leave a void in our hearts.

  • FAMILY

  • She is survived by her beloved husband, Socrates Necklas of East Haven. Her children, Keith Crumb of East Hampton and Erica (Scott) Meyer of Woodbury. Sisters Carol (Glen) Prentice, Joanne (Gene) Pendakiwskyj and brother Joe (Kym) Venezia. Mother-in-law Georgia Necklas, brother-in-law Michael (Antoinette) Necklas, sister-in-law Barbara Necklas. Four Grandchildren that were the love of her life, Madeline and Tyler Crumb and Scott and Ethan Meyer. She is also survived by numerous nieces and nephews also by a very special friend Mary Psybyski.

    She is predeceased by her parents Joseph and Ida Venezia.

Services

  • Visitation Monday, July 30, 2018
  • Funeral Mass Tuesday, July 31, 2018
  • Interment Tuesday, July 31, 2018
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Elaine Rose Venezia Necklas

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Colleen Roberts (Hannah)

August 3, 2018

Erica & Family,

I’m very sorry to hear of your Mom’s passing.
Please know your family is in my thoughts.

With sympathy,
Colleen

Mary Komar-Hodge

July 30, 2018

I am sorry to hear of Elaine's sudden passing. May she Rest In Peace. My thoughts and prayers are with with her family in this difficult time.
Mary Komar

Alexandra, Jake and Lisa Westerkamp-Crumb

July 30, 2018

Our sincerest thoughts and prayers are with Elaine's family, especially Keith Jr., Erica and their kids, as well as, Keith Sr, LouAnn and her family. Elaine was an extraordinary women full of grace and loving presence. She is now in the Kingdom of Heaven continuing to shine down her love to those she left.

I will never forget how she welcomed us to her family parties with the awesome banquet of her delicious and one-of-a-kind Italian food. She was always accepting with her friendship and hospitality.

With loving support,
Alexandra, Jake and Lisa Westerkamp-Crumb

Maryanne Dumas

July 30, 2018

Elaine i can't believe we have to say goodbye to you. I hope you knew how many lives you touched while you were on this earth. I will always remember your smile! You truly were the epitome of grace and kindness and i feel blessed to have known you . Your bright light was extinguished much too soon. I will never walk into the school and not think of you. My sincere condolences to your family who you loved so much.
Love,
Maryanne Dumas

Sarah Cyr

July 30, 2018



There are no words to describe the loss of our dear Elaine. She was the heart and soul of Benhaven. We laughed and cried together and shared our highs and lows. I will cherish the years I had the privilege to work Elaine and hope she is looking down and guiding us in how we can carry on without her.

Sarah Cyr

Kristen Provo (Mazzara)

July 29, 2018

Erica & Keith,

I’m so sorry to hear of your mom’s passing. Please know that you and your families are in my thoughts and prayers.

Kristen Mazzara

Lorraine Spivack

July 29, 2018

Funny story to share ... We'd often laugh remembering our one & only extended vacation together in 1996. We were both single and I had been trying forever to get Elaine to go away. She reluctantly agreed to take a trip to Cancun with me, but probably mostly as a favor to me. Well, by Day 2 in that intense sun and heat, she was toast...literally. We had the Mexican hotel doctor called to the room! It was all downhill from there. My frail, fair skinned friend had subjected herself to severe sun poisoning just so she didn't disappoint me. She stayed inside for the remainder of the trip, trying to make the most of it, surely wishing she could just click her heels together and get back home asap. After that, I learned to respect her desire and love to just stay close to home. Now that's a friend!

Heather Prentice

July 29, 2018

Oh Auntie E. Gone too soon. I can’t believe I got that call on Thursday morning. It just can’t be true. There is so much I am going to miss, so many sayings I’ll never forget. Crowded around a table at family event and you callin out, “hey isn’t this fun guys?” It was fun.
You always thought something funny was “such a riot” or “oh gosh, that’s hysterical”. How you’d bring your hands to cover your mouth while laughing.
If I ever come across an orange slice candy or a spearmint gumdrop, I’ll know its a sign from you. I’d give anything to hear one more time “hiya Heddy?” followed by a big hug. Why can’t we have one more poker game? One more pot of your delicious coffee - how did you make it so good? I want to throw one more party so you can ask me what you could bring - it was always a stuffed bread and always appreciated. “Don’t leave us, Aunt Elaine.” But you’ve gone, we will weep. We are sad. You were an amazing person who didn’t know all the lives you’ve touched. Muma and Pa are probably as shocked to see you in heaven as we are to see you go. I love you. See you on the other side.
Love,
Heddy

Frank P DeGennaro

July 29, 2018

Sorry to hear the loss of Elaine Necklas was a very kind sole and a great friend. My heart goes out to both family especially my best friend Socrates. RIP Elaine.

Lorraine Spivack

July 29, 2018

So… what do you do when a loved one has died unexpectedly, and your heart is broken? You hold fast to the memories.
Elaine…my sweet friend of 35+ years. Our connection was immediate & enduring. We were each other’s sounding boards, confidants, secret keepers. Nothing was off limits. Two peas in a pod. I can’t even recall an argument or disagreement throughout our whole friendship. BFFs before it was even a thing. She made it so easy. We shared great, wonderful, joyous times but also trying, awful, sad lows.
Our conversations included everything. Family. Husbands. Children. Grandchildren. Parents. Sisters. Brothers. In-laws. Boyfriends. Friends. Coworkers. All those personal relationship dynamics.
We navigated & supported each other through divorce & breakups, raising kids, living the single life, dating, job seeking, wedding planning, grieving the loss of our mothers, caring for failing fathers, then grieving them too and trying to hold the rest of the family together.
We talked about serious stuff. Faith. Religion. Current events. Fears & regrets. Love. Health. Aging. Dying. Death.
We also shared the girl talk with all its’ laughter and silliness. Music. Concerts (Richard Marx, Don Henley & OMG…Michael Bolton). Fashion. Hair (keeping it long). Body image. Cooking (gravy). Baking (lots of birthday cakes). Holidays (what theme Christmas tree this year?) Cars (always something classy). Sports (Jets? Giants? Mets? Yankees? Can never remember- that Venezia family is so divided) Collecting (tea cups, cookie jars, Bessie Pease Gutman infant paintings). Pets (Ha! the parakeets). Gambling (poker anyone?). Birthdays (turning 30, 40, 50, 60…whaaat?) And those really, personal topics only meant for the ears of your best girlfriend… sex & menopause!
To Soc & the Crumb, Venezia, Necklas & Benhaven families, I say I am so sorry. I say goodbye but promise to think of her often with a smile & thankful to have shared with her this thing we call life.
Love you...BFF
Lorraine