Robert M. DeCarlo

September 13, 1966March 20, 2018
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Robert Michael DeCarlo, 51, beloved husband of Wendy (Johnson) DeCarlo of Sandy Hook, CT passed away on Tuesday March 20, 2018. Born September 13, 1966, in Stamford, he was the son of the late John and Theresa (Luberto) DeCarlo.

Bob was a graduate of J.M. Wright Technical High School in 1984, and UCONN with a BS in Mechanical Engineering. He was Past Master for the Ancient Free & Accepted Masons (2000) of Union Lodge #5, Stamford, CT. He was also Past Potentate (2012) and a member of the Motor Patrol of Pyramid Shriners #9, Stratford, CT for many years.

Bob loved his career as a mechanical engineer and loved to talk about all the projects he designed over the years. His favorite past times included photography, hiking and camping to name a few, but his most cherished times were spent with family, friends and most of all he loved playing, building airplanes and painting with his best buddy Zackary. Bob was a kind man and was very giving. He was always there to help whenever someone needed and he never had to be asked. His laughter and humor were contagious. His smile lit up the room! He was a kind, generous, and funny soul who will be missed by all that had the pleasure of knowing him.

In addition to his wife of nearly 10 years, Robert is survived by his daughter Jenifer Burke and grandson Zackary; his brother John and wife Susan of Trumbull, and their daughter Kelly; sister, Jean Briese and husband Don of Arizona; and many aunts, uncles, nieces, nephews, cousins and dear friends and several “adopted step-children”.

Visiting hours will be held Tuesday, March 27, 2018, from 4:00 PM to 8:00 PM at Spadaccino and Leo P. Gallagher Funeral Home, 315 Monroe Turnpike, Monroe, CT. A funeral mass will occur Wednesday, March 28, 2018, at 10:30 AM at Saint Rose of Lima RC Church, 46 Church Hill Rd, Newtown, CT, followed by a burial at Resurrection Cemetery, 208 S. Main St., Newtown, CT.

In lieu of flowers the family requests donations be made to Shriners Hospitals for Children, 516 Carew St., Springfield, MA, as well as the American Liver Foundation of CT, 127 Washington Ave., North Haven, CT. Fond memories and expressions of sympathy may be shared at for the DeCarlo family.


  • Wendy (Johnson) DeCarlo, Wife
  • In addition to his wife of nearly 10 years, Robert is survived by his daughter Jenifer Burke and grandson Zackary; his brother John and wife Susan of Trumbull, and their daughter Kelly; sister, Jean Briese and husband Don of Arizona; and many aunts, uncles, nieces, nephews, cousins and dear friends and several “adopted step-children”.


  • Visitation Tuesday, March 27, 2018
  • Funeral Mass Wednesday, March 28, 2018
  • Burial Wednesday, March 28, 2018

Robert M. DeCarlo

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Jean Briese

March 30, 2018

The first thing you noticed about Bob was his warm, welcoming smile and his joyful spirit. His joy was contagious and just talking with him lifted your spirits.
Bob was a courageous fighter... no matter what life in this world threw at him, he bravely and joyfully continued to fight.
No more fight, sweet brother.
You have taken flight.
Time and distance and money and circumstance all conspired to keep us apart. No more. I look forward to seeing you face-to-face in eternity.
Until then, my heart will forever have a missing piece.

Michael Burke

March 30, 2018

"Two Dads Moving Company"

The day we moved Jenifer and Tony from an illegal apartment in Norwalk when she was pregnant. Bob was under Dr.'s orders not to lift anything heavy and the ceilings were not even 6'-0" high. I would take boxes Bob was attempting to pick up and telling him I got it as I'm all hunched over. He would say, "Wendy isn't watching she wont get made at me." I said, "She'd be yelling at me." As I stood and turned at 6'-3" I would bang my head hard (door frames were 5'-9"). Bob said, "See... I don't have those problems with these high ceiling."

We laughed with each other at each other and ourselves.

Cathy Springer

March 29, 2018

I didn't know Bob very well, I'd only met him and saw him a few times but he was a nice man and very loved by his family. I am honored to have met him. I walked the liver walk for him a year or two ago (even though I didn't have any donations) and I'm so glad I did. Rest in peace Bob.

Jenifer Burke

March 29, 2018

Well we made it through the past few days. Seeing so many people come to your services was not a surprise to me, you are one of the most amazing people I’ve met. I love you more than you’ll ever know. You were the best step dad... no, dad... to me even though you didn’t have to be. I can’t believe you’re gone. I will come visit you always as I already have, and I’ll take care of mama just like i promised. I love you always. Rest easy. 💕

Jessica Reyes

March 29, 2018

I know I don't have as many memories of Bob as Wendy and the family does. The few that stick out always involve him smiling or laughing or just being adorable and cuddly with Wendy. Those smiles are the images that flash in my mind when I remember Bob. At the wake, through tears I thanked him. I thanked him for being such a good man; for taking my son Malachi through the woods to search for frogs; for taking the knots out of my balls of yarn when crocheting with Wendy; for all the dad jokes he told; for all his hard work and dedication to doing all the good deeds Shriners vow to do; for fighting as long and hard as he did; and for loving Wendy and Jen and Zach. How heart broken we all are is a testament to what a great man he was and to how dearly he will be missed. My deepest sympathies to all who loved him. May he rest in peace and continue to watch over, love, and help guide his family from above.
Love Bubbles
Bravery Bubbles
Healing Bubbles
Peace Bubbles

Karen & Peter Simmons

March 28, 2018

Peter and I will always remember our Potentate year with Bob. He was kind, thoughtful and will be greatly missed.

Tony Bowers

March 28, 2018

I am so sorry for your loss, I met Bob thru the Shrine and we will always be counterparts. He was a kind caring and quiet person . I loved to see his smile, it is his smile that will stay in my heart forever.
So sorry we couldn't make it to calling hours or service but know you are in our prayers.
PP Tony and Carmel Bowers

Joyce Fritz Beck

March 28, 2018

Wendy I did not know Bob personally! But as I can see with all your post! He was a fabulous guy! You both had such a special love for each other and he fought a good fight!You stood by his side every step of the way! I am so sorry that God called him home at such a young age! HUGS

Janet and Andy Hencler

March 27, 2018

Andy and I are so sorry! What a time this has been for you both! He fought so hard and went through so much. You had to be so strong! Not easy!
We will always remember our Visitation weekends traveling the Northeast with our friends. So many wonderful memories. I hope those memories bring you joy as the days pass. Bob will be always thought of fondly and never firgotten.
Jan & Andy

Kelly Reilly-Ennis

March 26, 2018

Dear Wendy,
I’m truly sorry for your loss. Although I have never met Bob, I followed all your post, the journey of your life has been filled with many memories, cherish them. He wasn’t a stranger I felt as if I knew him through your post, I prayed along with you during his health issues hoping for the best. I wish I can take away the pain you are feeling, just know you are in my thoughts and prayers. I believe one day you will meet again. This is a quote I have always found touching “ Death leaves a heartache no one can heal, Love leaves a memory no one can steal”. Sincerely, Kelly