Stephen David Szalay

January 30, 1967October 25, 2020
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Stephen David Szalay, 53, son of Julius and Valeria Szalay, lifelong Monroe resident, died suddenly October 25th, 2020, at his home in Monroe, CT.

Steve, was a talented stone mason and a tireless worker. His sense of humor put people at ease, and he was always ready to help a neighbor or friend in need. Steve looked back on his years of football at Masuk with pride; he was All State and declined a full college scholarship to pursue his desire to be a mason. He enjoyed carving knives, fishing, spending time with friends, and what he called “watching chick flicks.”

Years of hard physical work took a toll on Steve’s body; over the years he suffered from a great deal of pain. His dependence on controlling the pain took so much from his life, a life that he was finally able to get back these last several months. Surrounded by caring friends his eyes shined brightly, he was hopeful and had plans to get back those lost years.

Our family is grateful for those who touched Steve’s life, as so many did, in so many ways. Your kindness, generosity and patience is a true blessing.

Steve is survived by his siblings Aniko Ferincz, Hungary, Susanne Smelzer, Myrtle Beach, SC and Julius Szalay, Monroe. In-Laws Quentin Smelzer and Lorna Szalay. Nieces and nephews Julianna Kerek, Gyula Ferincz, Travis and Ryan Szalay, Brian Smelzer, many cousins in Hungary, and devoted friends. Steve was pre-deceased by his parents Julius and Valeria Szalay, his nephews Adam and Christian Smelzer, his brother-in-law Istvan and his dear friend Chris. In addition, he leaves behind a legacy of beautiful stonework that will stand strong and memorialize him for years to come.

Stevie’s boundless strength was matched only by the size of his heart. He will be sorely missed.

Calling hours will be - Saturday 10-1 at Spadaccino and Leo P. Gallagher & Son Community Funeral Home, 315 Monroe Tpke, Monroe, CT. This will be followed by an outdoor remembrance around his fire pit at his home for family and friends.

In lieu of flowers please bring a small stone to place on his memorial.


  • Visitation

    Saturday, October 31, 2020


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Chris McPadden

November 15, 2020

I have known Steve since high school and nearly 30+ years after. We played football together and hung out many a night with our Motley bunch of friends, enjoying many a laugh goofing on each other and others too. Staying in town I saw him at my restaurant off and on over the years and and as of late shared a few rides, as I saw him on his daily walks to and fro to Walgreens and other places. He had a heart of gold and I still to this day I’ve saved his voicemail he left me after the sudden passing of my brother Ray years ago in the snowstorm. His words were heartfelt, sincerely kind and made me really appreciate the small town we shared growing up to create these bonds of friendship. I will miss the visits he made and his funny comments reminiscing about those crazy and fun high school memories. RIP big guy :-/

Miles deMayo

October 31, 2020

My sincere condolences for the loss of Steve. I attended Masuk with Steve and while we went our separate ways after graduation I have fond memories from our four years of football. Steve was the anchor, our rock on the line, both on offense and defense and we were all pleased that he was recognized and offered an opportunity to play at Slippery Rock. It was only fitting then that Steve chose Masonry as his vocation and I’m not surprised to hear that he excelled at his craft. I am sad to hear of his passing but it is comforting to know how he positively impacted many, and that his works provide a lasting legacy for friends and family.

Miles deMayo

Rick Jurzyk

October 30, 2020

Sue and Urch,
Although I have only know Steve 4 Years we have become very good Friends.
He was in all Honesty one of the nicest sincere and loyal guys I have become to know. He was an unbelievable mason who took pride in all his work, when I would give him a ride home he would make me stop at jobs he did to show them off.
But one of his secret favorites was demolition him and I would get into just tearing demo jobs up, was always a blast with him.
Steve also along the way met my Family & Friends and everyone loved Steve, Sorry AKA (ASS) because when he bent over it always showed, matter of fact I met his ASS before I actual met him, he was bent over smoothing out concrete for a job.
I am so glad I was able to met Steve and have so many good times, especially the last day of his life, our good friend Steve Wilson who introduced him to all of us invited us out on his boat for the day and It was a Great Day for all of us.
Rest in PEACE my GOOD Friend you will be deeply missed by so many loved ones, You have left behind so many of your wonderful works of Art that we will all be able to remember you by and enjoy.

Love you Man!!!!!!
Rick j

Linda Pelletier

October 29, 2020

To my dear friends Suzie and Urch,

No words can describe the heartbreak that I feel for the both of you. Despite this tremendous loss, remind yourselves of how you knew just when to step in to provide Stevie with your guidance, protection and most of all, your love. Always remember that.

May Steve's heart of gold shine on you, your beautiful family, and all who knew and loved him.

With love,

BriAna Pechin

October 29, 2020

Dear Sue, Quentin and Brian,

My thoughts, love and prayers are with you and your family. May Stephen's light continue to shine in your heart!

With sympathy,
BriAna Pechin & Family

Nina Stachenfeld

October 29, 2020

This is a truly big loss. We will always have the beautiful stone work Steve did at our home, the wall in the front is so beautiful and our patio among the other work. He was a true artist with immense talent. I feel so lucky to have this surrounding our home.

To Steve's family, I am so sorry for your loss. Please take care.

Laura Lee Hornby

October 28, 2020

So sad to hear of David’s passing much love to family

Kjersten (Keniston) Lazar

October 28, 2020

I will always remember his kind smile and big heart, he will be missed. May the peace he found be a kindness to family and friends.


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