Ramon "Ray" Joseph Arends

Ray proudly served in the United States Air Force during the 1950s. Following his military service, he pursued a career with the federal government, ultimately concluding his professional career with the National Park Service.

After retiring, Ray continued to give back to his community. He spent seven years tutoring students at Bangert Elementary School. He also volunteered with the New Bern Literacy Council, where he taught English to immigrants. Ray found great fulfillment in helping others learn and succeed, generously sharing his time and knowledge.

Ray made New Bern, North Carolina, his home for the last 30 years. He shared 64 years of marriage with his beloved wife, Anne Marie Arends. Together, they built a life filled with family, love, and lasting memories.

Ray was the proud father of two children, Ray Arends Jr. and Margo Arends. Margo and her husband, Glenn Carpenter, blessed Ray with two grandchildren, Glen and Kelly (Gabe). Ray Jr. is happily married to Shirley.

Outside of his career and volunteer work, Ray had a passion for collecting Depression glass, pottery, and antiques. He especially enjoyed visiting antique shops, appreciating the history and character behind the treasures he discovered.

Those who knew Ray will remember him as an easygoing man with a wonderful sense of humor. His warmth, laughter, and appreciation for life’s simple pleasures will be remembered by all who knew and loved him.

A Memorial Service will be held at 11:00 am on November 16, 2026, at Saint Paul Roman Catholic Church, 3005 Country Club Rd, New Bern. Inurnment will follow at St. Joseph Cemetery.

The family would like to extend their heartfelt gratitude to Craven County Hospice for their compassionate care and support. Special thanks also go to their wonderful neighbors, Allen and Bambi, for their kindness, friendship, and thoughtfulness.

Ray leaves behind a lifetime of memories and a legacy of service, generosity, and laughter. He will be deeply missed by his family, friends, and all those whose lives he touched.

In lieu of flowers please send memorial contributions to Craven County Hospice, 2818 Neuse Blvd, New Bern, NC 28562.