Joseph A. Abate Jr.

December 23, 1937August 9, 2012

Joseph A. Abate Jr., age 74, husband of Marie Tine Abate since 1959, passed away on August 9th after a long and courageous battle with brain cancer at home in Farmington, surrounded by his loving family. Joe was born December 23rd, 1937 in New Britain to the late Joseph and Giovina (Tomasso) Abate. He attended Brown University, Central Connecticut State University, and in 1976 he graduated from the PMD program at Harvard University. Furthering his passion in music, Joe received a certificate of completion from the Berklee College of Music. Mr. Abate was employed by Tilcon Tomasso Inc. retiring in 2003 after a successful career as the President and CEO. He was a parishioner of the Church of St. Patrick in Farmington, as well as active in The Boys and Girls Club of New Britain, The Tunxis Plantation Country Club Men’s League, Trustee of Saint Patrick’s Church, and was inducted into the Knights of Saint Gregory, the highest station a layperson can hold in the Catholic Church. Joe was an outstanding athlete, receiving many awards and honors, and was an enthusiastic sports fan, with a love for the New York Giants and the New York Yankees. He enjoyed golfing and was an avid guitar player with a deep passion for music which he fulfilled by being a member of Suite Roc and First Class. He will be most remembered for his unselfish dedication to multiple youth sports programs with financial donations, time, and resources. Joe was known for putting others first, and will live on through the countless people’s lives that he touched.

Joe was a devoted family man, always caring for and spending time with his numerous relatives. In addition to his wife Marie, who he adored, Joe is survived and will be dearly missed by his son Dr. Joseph A. Abate III and his wife Joanne of South Burlington, VT, his daughters Lynne Gagliardi and her husband Thomas of Southington, Joanne Couceiro and her husband Alfredo of Newington, and Kristen Daigle and her husband Eric of Southington. Joe will also live on through his numerous grandchildren; Joseph, Michael and Tyler Abate, Danielle and TJ Gagliardi, Ashley and Ryan Dibble, and Matthew, Erica and Brooke Daigle. Joe will also be remembered and missed by his sister-in-laws Mildred Sullivan and Elizabeth Tine, many nieces and nephews, and his dearly loved cousins Angelo and Joy Tomasso, Dr. Edward and Lucy Scheer, Michael and Linda Tomasso, Nancy Tomasso, Paul Tomasso, Jimmy Tomasso, Billy Tomasso and Carol and Carl Ficks. Joe is best known for being with his family, and he was the foundation to the strong family that lives on in his name.

Joe will be joining his brother Carmine Abate and his sister Lucia Houlihan in his new life beyond the one he shared with us.

Joseph’s family would like to give a special thanks to Nurses Milissa Collins, Mary Ellen Gaul and Darla Vaughns and his caretakers Jonas Agyekum and Nana Mensah, for all of the help and care that they provided Joe and his loved ones during his final days.

Joseph’s Funeral Services will begin Monday, August 13th at 10:30am at the Church of Saint Patrick, Farmington. Burial will follow in St. Mary Cemetery, New Britain. Visitation hours will be Sunday, August 12th from 4-8pm at the New Britain Memorial Donald D. Sagarino Funeral Home, 444 Farmington Ave., New Britain. In lieu of flowers, Joseph’s family asks that Memorial donations be made in his memory to Memorial Sloan-Kettering Cancer Center, 1275 New York Ave, New York, NY 10065 or the Joseph Abate Memorial Fund at the Church of Saint Patrick, 110 Main Street, Farmington, CT 06032. For directions or to express an online message, please visit


  • Visitation hours Sunday, August 12, 2012
  • Funeral Liturgy Monday, August 13, 2012

Joseph A. Abate Jr.

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Joseph LaRiviere (Rivers)

February 16, 2013

Joe was a good friend and a favorite customer at Rivers Music on Farmington Ave in Bristol. I loved Joe and his musical abilities. I'm so sorry to hear of his passing. Joe Rivers currently living in Nokomis, FL

February 1, 2013

I looked up to you everyday of my life and now I will miss you everyday of my life. Joe DonAroma (New Britain CT.)

Claude Berardi

September 9, 2012

Dear Marie and Family,
I am very sorry to hear of Joe's passing. Joe DonAroma just called me with the news. I live in Florida with my wife now. We all spent many nights playing music with Draper and Joey D. and had such great times. You and your family were always so good to all of us at a ton of rehearsals at your house. I was blessed in knowing you and Joe and your wonderful family. Claudio Berardi, drummer with Suite Roc

Sharon Ryan

August 18, 2012

My deepest condolences to you and your family Joey. I fondly remember hearing Joe's band while I was in high school. He was a a talented musician, as well as a strong role model for his children. I am sorry for your loss.

myrna johnson johnson

August 18, 2012

myrna johnson former employee of tilcon tomasso in cncrete

August 13, 2012

Dear Marie and Family,
So sorry to read about the loss of your husband. I did not know him but it sounds like he was awonderful person. I am sure he is with the Lord up there.You and your family have been in my thoughts and prayers.
Sincerely, Nancy Soucy Doyle Plainville Weaver class of 1957

August 13, 2012

I am so sorry to hear of your family's loss. May your family take refuge and find strength with God who is readily to be found. Psalms 46:1

Bonnie Eaton

August 13, 2012

I would like to extend my deepest sympathy to the Abate family at this sad time for your your loss. Just to know Joe Abate was a pleasure his warm smile & humble spirit will always be remembered by me & all who knew him. He will be truly missed but never forgotten. I want to say to the family God makes no mistakes & just hold close to eachother & he will give you the strength to press thru although it's difficult to accept God is in control. Just know Marie your husband is at peace now with heavenly Angels smiling down upon you & his family much love to all & i will keep you all close in my prayers.


B. Eaton

August 12, 2012

Marie and Family. You are all special to me. My deepest sympathy. May God comfort you all. Joe will be sorely missed. God has a new guitar player....... Love, Bob & Bernice Yuskis, Waddell, Arizona

Robert Serio

August 12, 2012

Joe I will miss you deeply. I will always treasure our talks in the kitchen eating some of Marie's wonderful Italian cooking. You always made me feel like family.
as they say. in Italian " Non dimentichero", I won't forget.