Mary Ellen Carfi

April 3, 1945February 13, 2019
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With profound sadness we announce the passing of Mary Ellen โ€œMemeโ€ Carfi, our loving mother, grandmother and friend to all whose lives she touched, on February 13, 2019. She passed peacefully while surrounded by her loving family and friends. She was born April 3, 1945 in New Britain, CT to Peter and Margaret (Brennan) Bernabucci. She graduated from New Britain High School, going on to hair dressing school where she later owned and operated her own salon. She served many loyal clients until she retired as a hairdresser and started a new career in real estate. In her younger years she was an active mom involved in Boy Scouts, Girl Scouts and helping out in the community with the Junior Womenโ€™s Club. She was a strong independent woman raising two children on her own and working two jobs when necessary. Mary Ellen married her soulmate, Donald in 1980. It was love at first sight and they were inseparable from the day they met. They had many adventures, including starting multiple businesses together. Upon his passing, she became the owner of Meadow Meat Company in Middletown CT and enjoyed the gift of running the family business alongside her two children, David and Rhonda and their family dogs, Charlie and Bowzer. She always felt blessed to have so many loyal customers and to be such a large part of the Middletown community. She was always on the go and happily stayed at the helm of the ship up until the day she passed. Meme was an incredibly generous person whose laughter and smile were contagious. Always in a good mood wherever she went, she brightened the room with her smile. She loved to cook for her family, clean her home, and then relax every night with her favorite merlot and talking on the phone with her favorite people. After the passing of her husband, life took on a different purpose with the birth of her grandson, the second love of her life. Nothing made her happier than being with her grandson and making family memories down the beach. It was also a place for newfound friendships with the Hawks Nest crew. She cherished her new friends and so enjoyed being in their company at the weekly Friday night happy hours in the sand. She is predeceased by her husband, Donald Francis Carfi, her parents Peter and Margaret Bernabucci, her brother Peter John, and her sisters, Patricia Diorio and Theresa West. She is survived by her son David Sargis Jr. of Southington CT, her daughter Rhonda Sargis Montana of Bristol CT, her beloved grandson Jake Montana of Bristol CT and her sister (and best friend) Eleanore and husband Joseph DeSena of Bristol CT. She is also survived by many nieces and nephews. All of these she loved and touched deeply. She was loved by many and will be truly missed. Funeral services will begin Monday, Feb. 25, 2019 9AM from New Britain Memorial Donald D. Sagarino Funeral Home, 444 Farmington Ave., New Britain, followed by a Mass of Christian Burial at 10AM at the Church of St. Dominic, 1050 Flanders Rd, Southington. Burial will be at the convenience of the family. Visitation will be held Sunday, February 24, 2019 from 3-6PM at the funeral home. For directions or online messages, visit


  • Peter and Margaret (Brennan) Bernabucci, Parents (deceased)
  • Donald Francis Carfi, Husband (deceased)
  • Peter John Bernabucci, Brother (deceased)
  • Patricia Diorio and Theresa West, Sisters (deceased)
  • David Sargis Jr., and Rhonda Sargis Montana, Children
  • Jake Montana, Grandson
  • Eleanore and husband Joseph DeSena, Sister and Brother-in-Law


  • Calling Hours Sunday, February 24, 2019
  • Brief Gathering Prior to Church Monday, February 25, 2019
  • Mass of Christian Burial Monday, February 25, 2019


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Paul Liseo

February 24, 2019

I will always remember and cherish all of my short visits to the store where the conversations and funny stories with Mary Ellen "momma", Dave and Rhonda were never in short supply (some visits not so short). Her kindness and loving personality was infectious. Mary Ellen will be missed dearly. My thoughts and prayers are with Dave, Rhonda and the entire family at this difficult and very sad time.

Jerry Beagle

February 23, 2019

Will always cherish the memories of the many summers we spent having fun together. Am truly sorry for not having been able to spend more time as a family. Will always keep you in my heart forever!

Cherryanne Bartolotta

February 21, 2019

Meadow Meat was always a pleasant experience due to Mary Ellen. She had deep respect for her customers. Along with having great product's and pricing. The dog would meet and greet you at the back door as if it was a private home. You will be surely missed. I do hope that the business stays functioning with the rest of the family.๐ŸŒป members at the helm. I do hope the continued business in the community. God Bless Mary Ellen, you will be missed.๐Ÿ’”๐ŸŒน๐ŸŒน๐ŸŒน๐ŸŒน๐ŸŒน๐ŸŒน๐Ÿ’๐Ÿ’๐Ÿ’RIP

linda wilson

February 20, 2019

Mary Ellen was my sister-in-law for so many years and we were "sisters forever" in spirit and love. Her family get togethers at the beach will be sadly missed. My brother Donald and Mary Ellen were such a wonderful couple. I am shocked and saddened by her passing. Our thoughts and prayers are with her family.

Marylou Westling

February 19, 2019

Will always remember her sweet smile and giggle laugh.

Staci McKelvey

February 18, 2019

Mary Ellen has been a part of my life since I was 16. She was part of major milestones in my life - my high school graduation, living with her and Don until I got my first apartment - which she co-signed because I was too young to get my own place, my wedding photos at her home, and so much more.

She was the sweetest, most caring person and her cute little voice and laugh will always make me smile.
Thoughts and prayers are with Rhonda, Dave, Jake and the rest of her family. Mom #2, you will never be forgotten and always in my heart.