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Walter B. Cooke Funeral Home

352 East 87Th Street, New York, NY

OBITUARY

Henry Samuel Kaufman

April 23, 1998July 30, 2019

In Lieu of flowers please make a donation in Henrys memory to the Student Scholarship Fund at Fordham Preparatory School or Fordham University.

Services

  • Funeral Service Friday, August 9, 2019

Memories

Henry Samuel Kaufman

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Alex Ranieri

August 9, 2019

If there could be one story that sums up who Kauf was as a young man, it would have to be the one from his Junior Emmaus Retreat at Fordham Prep, of which I was a senior leader. We asked them to write down an ordered list of the importance of things in their lives: God, family, friends, school, and material possessions. We asked them to be honest, not tell us what we want to hear. A lot of kids put school, because there was so much pressure to succeed in the classroom. Most kids put God or family. Henry wrote nothing. When I asked him why, he put on a smug grin and said “this is a trick question.” I asked what he meant and he simply replied “well if there’s anything all the Jesuits have taught me, it’s that all of these things are God and come from God... these are all one in the same. God is in my family, He’s in my friends, and he’s blessed me with the education and possessions I get to call my own.” Henry was a logical, insanely smart person. But when you got him into a deep mindset, he could blow you away with his multidimensional, thoughtful mind and truly amazing heart and soul. I don’t have many memories with Henry, but the ones I do have, I’ll remember forever. It’ll be harder to sleep at night knowing there’s one less infectiously positive, intelligent, genuine people here with us. But there’s one more watching over us now. Rest easy, Kauf. Please keep telling us you believe in us from up there.

Tom Brady

August 8, 2019

I was lucky enough to know Henry as a neighbor and a member of the St. Iggy's crowd for many years. I know he was a great brother, a loyal son and a true friend. He was also a demon collector of Subway coupons and I enjoyed the fine cuisine from the Broadway and 107th Street restaurant "on the arm," as they say, multiple times, thanks to Henry's astute ways with coupon manipulation.

We had some basketball games in Riverside Park and some touch football as well, with Charlie, Henry, their dad Peter, my son Ethan and I. Henry was a stout competitor and a good sport in just about every way.

In fact, that's probably the best word I can think of to sum him up, in one word, if I had to. A good sport. Behind his twinkling eyes and mop of hair, we all knew there was a lot going on with Henry, since he was such a brilliant and insightful guy. Like all of us, Henry had his secrets, but he shared so much of himself that it was always a pleasure to be around him. I'd bump into him on the street in the neighborhood on occasion and always feel like my day was just a bit brighter after our badinage. Because if anybody could engage in badinage, it was Henry.

The world is a poorer place with the unfathomable loss of such a fine person, and we will never get over it, but perhaps we can find some comfort in the knowledge that we did know this guy, this good sport, a guy from the 'hood, a St. Iggy's kid, a Fordham man, who somehow managed to find a way to brighten your day no matter the circumstances.

I'm glad I was one of the lucky ones who shared some special moments with Henry in this lifetime. I know I'll never forget him.

Meg Bratt

August 8, 2019

I was one of Henry's Speech and Debate coaches at Fordham Prep. Henry was so talented! He had a poise and maturity far beyond his years. I was deeply shocked and saddened to hear of his passing. I wish I could be at the service tomorrow, to pay my respects, but I am unable to attend. Words are inadequate--I can find none that express my heartbreak.

Jackie Dooley

August 7, 2019

Henry is the beloved son of my dear cousins Ellen and Peter. Because I live on the West coast, I wasn't able to see him often enough to know him well, but Henry always left the impression of a warm, inquisitive, fun-loving boy. I saw him when he was about eight and asked him what he was particularly interested in. He said he wanted to be an astronaut when he grew up. (I reminded him of it when he was about 14, and he responded ... I said that? Really?) Henry's family got to know my stepdaughter and her kids, and I recall his amazement and excitement when he discovered that their backyard with totally full of cool bugs! He hadn't ever lived in a house with a yard, so this was a revelation. Then there was our visit to Woodstock, when he met my brand-new granddaughter, Tigerlily. He and Sophia fell in love! Rest peacefully, dearest Henry. You will always be in so many hearts.

Ben Ryan

August 7, 2019

I met Henry my first day at Marquette, he was my RA but to myself and everyone else on our floor in O'Donnell he was a great friend. Henry was the type of guy you could talk to about anything with, from light hearted conversations to the most serious of topics Henry was always there to listen. I can speak for everyone on our floor and I bet many more by saying Henry was one very special person who was easy to be around. I can not imagine how those of you who knew Henry for his entire life feel right now but even for only knowing him for a year he changed my life forever and his memory will live on in my heart. Rest easy up there Henry.

Janel Fitzgerald

August 5, 2019

I met Henry this year at Fordham. My favorite memory of him is definitely sitting on his couch burning our tongues on tea that was too hot. We sat there just talking for three hours but it felt like three minutes. I loved getting to know Henry even in the short time that I knew him. I’ll always remember those sweet smiles and waves in the hallway. <3

Joseph MCMENIMON

August 4, 2019

Back in my 8th grade year, Henry joined up with me, my brother John, and the rest of us at Dave and Buster's in the palisades mall along with Matt Gioia, it was now 5 years ago since then, him and Matt were one of the first Fordham Prep friends of John I met Alex Hartson being the first, that was the only time I've seen him in person

John Godfrey

August 4, 2019

I worked with Henry at Marquette’s writing center. For our job training, he and I exchanged papers several times and gave each other feedback. It was through his writing that I came to know Henry best. He was never shy about showing exactly who he was, and it was a privilege to know him in any capacity. My heart breaks for his family and all those who knew Henry; it also breaks for all those who didn’t have the opportunity. The world needs more kind and caring souls like Henry, and I pray he’s found peace.

Grace Cavallo

August 4, 2019

Young enthusiastic love of life! My heart aches for the loss of this young man who will be missed by all. Sending his family and friends prayers of comfort and strength.

Anna Scanlon

August 3, 2019

I met Henry working at the writing center on Marquette’s campus. As an assistant director, I would observe his conferences and was just amazed at how wonderful he was with writers. His insight was always phenomenal and he made connections with writers that really pleased them. I showed him survey responses a few times where the writers were so grateful for his expertise and it seemed to make his day. I was sad when he left MU and am devastated to hear of his passing. He was a wonderful young man and will be missed by many. Eternal rest grant unto him, Oh Lord, and let perpetual light shine upon him. May he rest in the peace he so richly deserves.