Jennifer Mary Grossman
June 9, 1959 – September 2, 2019
We have too soon lost our sister, our aunt, our best friend, Jennifer Mary Grossman. Although we are staggered by her loss, we are comforted that her final days were as happy for her as any of us could hope for. On Sunday evening, September 1, after thoroughly enjoying the opening football game festivities around campus, she watched her beloved Oklahoma Sooners convincingly defeat their opponent; the following day, Labor Day, September 2, she exchanged happy, positive texts with friends throughout the day, and did her vigorous workout that was such an important part of her daily routine. That evening, consistent with that routine, she prepared for bed, finished a bowl of mint chocolate chip cookie ice cream, turned out the light, and turned off ESPN. She passed peacefully in her sleep sometime that night. Jennifer was born at St. Anthony Hospital in Oklahoma City on June 9, 1959, to Stanley Grossman and Mary Suzanne Grossman. Photos confirm she was possibly the cutest infant and toddler who ever lived. She was a perfect little sister in that she enthusiastically joined in all games and pretend activities with her big brother and the other neighborhood children. Her adult friends will not be surprised to learn, however, that as a child she could be exceedingly stubborn, and that her happy, sunny face could dissolve quickly into tears if faced with sudden disappointment or stress. Following in the footsteps of her grandfather, a semi-pro baseball player, and her father, a point guard for the University of Oklahoma basketball team, Jennifer developed into an elite, multi-sport athlete. She was particularly talented at softball, choosing to work behind the plate like her idol, Johnny Bench. Her older brother was jealous and embarrassed that his little sister could throw a ball harder, farther, and straighter than he could. Her talent and dedication led to her being selected for elite softball teams, one of which finished runner-up in the national 17-and-under tournament while in high school. She won a full scholarship in softball to the University of Oklahoma, and she has been a proud and active alum of the softball program in its recent glory years. Jennifer continued playing softball for many years after finishing her varsity eligibility at OU, and she made many of her best friends and enjoyed her best times on the diamond. After finishing her college degree in 1983, Jennifer worked some for her father’s company, Grossman and Keith Engineering, but a traditional office job was not really where her interests were directed. She was happiest having fun with friends and her beloved dog (first Sandy, then Gracie), expressing herself through physical activity, and enjoying OU and professional sports events. After many years in Norman, she spent time living in San Diego, Sacramento, and Alabama for several years, before returning to Norman in 2011 to help take care of her father in his final illness. After his death, Jennifer then devoted herself to caring for her mother in her final years until her mother’s death on September 7, 2018. Jennifer was a generous and constant friend, companion, and mentor to so many people. She adored her nieces and nephew, and she loved to celebrate their accomplishments. She was consistently positive and encouraging with everyone close to her. So many people have described her as their “best friend” that listing all of them here is impossible, and risks leaving out mention of someone important. One of her favorite expressions was “yes, yes, yes,” which was more than an expression of approval—it was a statement of philosophy. We will all miss that positive encouragement. Jennifer is survived by her older brother, Mark, her sister-in-law, Cynthia, her nieces, Kathryn and Mallory, her nephew, Steven, her aunt, Joanna Brown, and her cousins, Wade and Wes Brown. If you would like to make a gift in memory of Jennifer, please donate to the Stanley J. Grossman Memorial Scholarship Fund at the University of Oklahoma Foundation, www.oufoundation.org. Jennifer was emphatic that her passing should not be an occasion for sadness, but that her friends and family should hold a celebration of her life, at which everyone can share stories and be happy in being together. We are honoring her wishes by gathering together on Saturday, September 14, 2019, between 2 p.m. and 4 p.m., at the Mercury Event Center at 426 East Main St. in Norman. Please come celebrate Jennifer’s life with us on Saturday, and please think of her when you shout “Boomer Sooner” at the next OU game.
- Memorial Service Saturday, September 14, 2019
Jennifer Mary Grossman
September 13, 2019
I was very saddened to learn of Jennifer's passing. I can only add another voice in saying what a wonderful, happy and positive person she was. She could always make me smile ! I will miss reminding her that she was MUCH older than me (3 months, LOL). I regret that I am unable to attend the celebration of her life on Saturday the 14th. She definitely left us too soon, but rejoice in knowing she is reunited with her Mom & Dad.
-John H. Johnson, President - Grossman and Keith Engineering Co.
September 12, 2019
I best remember Jennifer from when she came back from Alabama and stayed with us for a short time. That was the beginning of "Snap Camp". Snap Camp consisted of eating only chicken and broccoli and meeting her at the gym for a couple of hours of torture per day. During that time, I disliked her as much as I loved her.
Jenny was one of a kind, and I will always be thankful that she took such good care of Kim after one of her many accidents, leaving me to be able to continue working. I am most grateful, however, for the friendship she gave Kim and the love they shared. Things are not always easy when involving two stubborn people, but there was always love between those two. And, as we all know, love conquers all.
Until we meet again, Jenny. Love you.
September 12, 2019
Jennifer was my best friend for over 30 years. From the moment we met we were instant friends and inseparable . We were different in so many ways yet had so many things in common. We were silly, oh boy were we ever silly. We loved to laugh, we loved to play softball, we loved baseball, we loved OU sports, and would love to be in the sun. I remember one summer every time it was cloudy in Norman we would pack an ice chest, load up our lawn chairs, and drive until we found sun. We would pull over at the nearest park unload our chairs, turn on the music and sit in the sun for hours. It’s hard to put into words how much I’m going to miss her. I loved everything about her. #ripmysweetfriend
September 11, 2019
September 9, 2019
Jenny I can’t remember seeing you without a smile on your face & sunglasses around your neck. You touched so many in your time here, I hope peace surrounds you. Onward & Upward sweet friend.
September 9, 2019
Jenny always made me smile💜
September 7, 2019
Jennifer will be missed. She always had a smile for us when we saw her. We had the opportunity to go to the Bricktown Ballpark and catch a game at the end of June. We all laughed and reminisced about our many antics back when we were young. She was so happy. This is a memory that I will hold onto.
To her brother, Mark and family, our prayers are with you during this difficult time.
Tina and Jill