John Silva

May 17, 1936October 15, 2020

John Silva of Norman, OK, entered into eternal rest on October 15, 2020, at the age of 84.

He is survived by his wife, Dawn Butner Silva, and children:

Danny Silva of Lewisville, TX, wife Suzy and children: Sarah Jones, husband Jason, and children Mackenzie, Katlyn and Sophia; Angela Silva Holloway and husband James; and Megan Silva Butkovich and husband Rory;

Scott Pearson of Harrah, OK, wife Marianne, and children Abby, Garrett and Jake;

Joni Silva Hunt of Glenpool, OK, husband Bobby, and son Adam;

Lisa Pearson Calhoun of Dallas, TX, and husband Tom;

Mary Lisa Silva Wallace of Broken Arrow, OK, husband Dale, and children Jacob and Joshua;

Tina Silva Cooper of Branson, MO, husband Clay, and children Cassidy, Colton and Caden;

Shane Butner of Appleton, WI, and wife Layla Cowper;

Casey Butner of Norman, OK, wife Kelly, and children Liam, Rory and Riley;

Avery Butner of Norman, OK; and

Ali Grant of Las Vegas, NV, and husband Elijah;

and first wife, Seletia Oxford.

He is preceded in death by: his parents, Tony and Sally Silva of Tulsa, OK; his former wife of 37 years, Paula Helmcamp Silva of Norman, OK; his twin brother, Joe Silva of Tulsa, OK; and grandson, Matthew Clark of Tulsa, OK.

Born in Tulsa, OK, John graduated from Central High School and attended Draughon’s Business School. He worked at Warehouse Market before starting a successful 50-year career in the wine and spirits industry. He retired in 2013. He never met a stranger, and everyone he met became his friend. He was a generous man whose words were always kind. He was proud of his family and enjoyed spending time with his children and grandchildren.

John was an avid sports fan. He loved playing golf and coaching his sons’ baseball teams. He may have been the University of Oklahoma’s most dedicated sports fan. He never missed a football kickoff or a women’s softball first pitch. He proudly displayed in his “OU room” all the Sooners memorabilia he collected over the years.

John supported many worthy charities including Relay for Life, Sip for Sight, The American Cancer Society and organizations supporting American’s veterans. He attended Generations Church, Norman, OK.

The family would like to thank Dr. Paul Ayers and Loving Care In Home Health Services for the care and compassion provided to John.

A private memorial service is planned for 10/23/2020 at 10:00am at Primrose Funeral Home in Norman.

Because of COVID-19 restrictions, attendance is limited to immediate family only, but the service will be streamed live on Facebook:


23 October

Private Memorial Service

10:00 am

Primrose Funeral Service

1109 North Porter Ave
Norman, OK 73071

Memorial service attendance is private, family only. For all friends wishing to attend Memorial Service, please tune in via Primrose's Facebook Live Stream at


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Sheila Douglas

October 22, 2020

Nothing but beautiful memories of John. Did pageants and dance with John and Miss Paula for a our 14 years. He was one in a million. Always so positive and such kind loving human being treating everyone the same always. Totally one of the kindest and caring person I have ever known and always greeting everyone with his big infectious smile. We miss you papa John!❤️🌹

Lu Holding

October 21, 2020

I will always remember the wonderful wine dinners at Carino's. Thank you John for making them so memorable and fun. My sincerest condolences to Dawn and family. Sincerely, Lu Holding

Christie Luna

October 20, 2020

Johnny was a true original and one of the kindest men in our industry. He loved his work and could work circles around those half his age in mornings spent at Byron's. He was a mentor to many and a friend to all who met him. I can still hear him saying "Hey baby....." a phrase he used for pretty much everyone! He did so much for so many in a quiet way & always with his signature ornery smile & twinkle in his eye. I was proud to be his co-worker but even prouder to have been his friend. Our thoughts and prayers go out to Dawn and his family.

Gigi Summers

October 20, 2020

I have so many special memories of John and our Miss Paula! His devotion to his lovely family and his baby girl Tina will always be admired. Heaven just got a one of kind soul. My thoughts and prayers to his family.❤️

Frank and Pat Allums

October 19, 2020

We want to express our deepest sympathy for the loss of Papa John. We fell in love with him when first met, although he did not share our love with Box wine. He will be missed very much, great guy. I got more to go to Heaven for than we had yesterday. This glass is for you Papa John. Love you Tina and Dawn.

Vedia Ming

October 17, 2020

Cheers John! I'm sure you are toasting family and friends who have gone before. No better friend. I'll miss your smile and laugh.

John was dedicated to his family, his work......AND OU! We will be here to cheer them on for you. Doubt I'll ever watch another game without thinking of you.

Leslie Phillips

October 17, 2020

I am sending my most sincere condolences to Johnny’s family and to his wife, Dawn. He was a true ambassador for Banfi wines. I don’t know if the folks at Banfi ever realized just how valuable an employee he was for them, or to what extent folks bought Banfi wines just because he recommended and represented them!
Johnny was always happy to share his wines and educate all of us “newbies” in the wine
business. He was generous to a fault and made everyone feel like a friend. I will miss his laugh and his kind heart—what a loss to us all, but to his family, most especially! I am so sorry!

Paul Dudman

October 16, 2020

A wonderful person, friend and role model to many young people in the Oklahoma wines and spirits business.
I will miss that smile and infectious laugh!
He will be missed by many.
My love to Dawn and sincerest condolences to his family.


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