Ruth Louise DeSilver

July 22, 1933November 20, 2020

Ruth Louise Meradith was born July 22, 1933 to Paul and Justine Coyle Meradith in Taylor Ridge, IL., a small town only six miles from the Mississippi River. She moved at an early age with her parents to other cities in Illinois as her father was a Methodist minister who served churches in many places in Central Illinois. Ruth graduated from high school in 1950 at Spoon River Valley Unit District No 4, a consolidated school near Fairview, IL. She attended college at the University of Illinois in Champagne-Urbana. She returned to college in the 1980s and received her Bachelor of Arts degree from the University of Oklahoma in Norman. Ruth was married to Harold Wallace Hardy Jr. at East St. Louis, Ill. They had two children. She then married Jim DeSilver on March 3, 1972. He had three children by a previous marriage. Ruth Worked at several jobs throughout her working career in Illinois, and in Chandler, Oklahoma City, Tulsa, and Norman, OK. She retired from the University of Oklahoma staff on August 1, 1998, serving there for 17 years. Ruth was preceded in death by her parents and son, Paul M. Hardy. Ruth is survived by her husband, Jim DeSilver, one son, David Hardy of Norman, three stepchildren, DeAnn Gatlin of Lawton, Debi DeSilver of Chickasha, Jay DeSilver of Lawton. Three grandchildren, 10 step-grandchildren; and nine great grandchildren. Memorial Services with be held at Primrose Funeral Services Chapel on Saturday, November 28, 2020, at 2:00 PM.


  • Jim DeSilver, Husband
  • David Hardy, Son
  • DeAnn Gatlin, Step-Daughter
  • Debi DeSilver, Step-Daughter
  • Jay DeSilver, Step-Son
  • Ruth DeSilver also has 3 Grandchildren, 10 Step-Grandchildren and 9 Great-Grandchildren.

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Steve Hoelscher

November 29, 2020

James and Family,
So very sorry to learn of Ruth's passing. We have such great memories of Ruth not only in the our office but OU football games and coffee.
We've been out of town a lot with family/grandkids in other states.
Our prayers are with you and your family.
Steve & Lucy Hoelscher

Kim Ward

November 26, 2020

Karen Crane and I are so sorry to hear of Ruth's passing. We pray for you Jim and all of the family.
We knew Ruth and Jim because Karen and I sat next to them at OU basketball games during the Billy Tubbs' era. We had some great times at those games. Years went by and later I saw Ruth and Jim at an OLLI class at OU.
May memories of Ruth's life be a blessing for all.

Ann and Dick Porter

November 21, 2020

We were so sorry and sad to learn about the passing of Ruth. She was such a lovely and sweet lady. Heaven gained a beautiful angel. Our thoughts and prayers are with Jim and the family.


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