Mi amor….  
En mis sueños, tu. 
En mis momentos más difíciles, tu. 
Tu recuerdo me da paz, fortaleza y esperanza.
Missing does not even come close.  
9-7 
MJ

My dear son Joey today is 5 years  i miss you so much 😢

Another year goes by and I am still waiting for your call or txt.  Everyone says is going to get better but that will never happen.   I miss you every day.  I miss our conversations and your hugs.  Until we meet again 💔

Well Joey, another year passes. Another tear drops. Don't know what to do. Can't stop thinking of you.  I Wrote. a little poem? Basically saying I have you on my mind.  And I can't help Myself. I have you on my mind.  cause I love you Missing you forever and ever say hi to everyone  Up in heaven.

I miss you papi, no matter how many days go by I never stop thinking of you. You're always in my heart, my thoughts and everything reminds me of you. I'd do anything to be able to see you again ❤️

Another year go by and it feels like it's not real that you are in heaven I miss our chats and cooking for you I miss my food tester RIP my love 😢 until we meet again 💔 

Well Joey three years has passed since you passed and it gets harder every year I just keep waiting for you to walk in the door or txt me.  I miss you so much RIP 🙏 🪦 my dear son 😢 

Well my son another year you're not here thinking of you always. I can't stop still can't believe you're not here missing you missing you missing you. I love you you're always in my mind forever and ever until I die then we'll be together

Joey, my love;
The last two years have been extremely difficult, I constantly think about you and just wish you were here. I miss waking up to see your msgs, hearing your voice, your laugh, just everything about you I miss so much. You always made me happy, just by being you. With so many things I wish I could just talk to you about, especially the latest Star Wars shows, you would have loved them. I also miss your complaining lol, you made me laugh so much. We could talk for hours every day, and I'd do anything I could to have that back. It's extremely hard, i often read our msgs, some make me laugh, some make me cry because you made me feel so special and I miss that feeling too. You're one of a kind Joey, you'll always forever remain in my heart. We will be together again, i love you ❤️🙏🏼🕊

Well another year pass just thinking about you as always missing you as always wishing you was here as always I never get you out of my mind I never will rest in peace my son

Well Joey is now 2 years but for me is like I am still waiting to hear from you my days and nights have never been or will be the same my heart ❤️ is broken 💔 😢 I miss our talks and laughs we had.  As I promised I been looking over the kids you would be so proud of them.  Your dad is always thinking about you he misses you alot also your sisters.  RIP 🙏 my baby 

Joey, a year has passed and it has not been easy. I think about you daily. The only peace I have is that I know you're with Raffy and Cristina.  You're so missed. I pray for strength for your family. 
Love always! 
Soli

My dear son Joey today is one year you went to heaven there's not a day or a moment I don't think about you my life has and will never be the same I miss you so much. RIP 🙏😢😥😭

My dear son Joey today is a year you been gone my heart is in so much pain I can't believe you are gone . I still wait for your txt and wait for you un Sunday to come and eat and put gas ⛽in my car 🚗does little things you always did for me . I hope you are with Ralph and Cristina.  Your kids are getting so big and Miss you.   Your sisters also.  And your dad is still trying to coupe for your lost but not been able to.  And  misses you too. 😢 Miss you my baby until we meet again ❤

Well Joey been a year now but you passed away still can't believe you're gone keep waiting for you to come through that door to say hi I miss you we miss you hope you're with Grandma and Grandpa rest in peace Joey ❤

My deepest condolences and prayers to you Jose and your family
I want you to know that I’m praying for strength, peace and comfort for you. May the love And grace of God   be with you.  Always think of all the good memories to see you through the days ahead. May Joey’s soul Rest In Peace. God bless.🙏🏽
 Love, Aida

 Joey my son who grew up to be a good man a caring man who took care of his grandparents and his kids ❤  he always had a good heart we will miss him so much not having him here beside us talking about Trump LOL talking about Marvel pictures talking about what he did for the day telling him to be careful he was my friend my companion my wife and his siblings and all his friends we'll miss him very very much it is so hard to look at the door and  think he's going to come inside and say hi Dad how you been and I'll say okay how about you I remember when he was young we would take  bike rides together go to Central Park and Pelham Bay Park and ride our bikes from one end to the other boy that was fun good memories I just want to say thank you my son thank you so much for those memories for those good times rest in peace you're in God's hands now 🙏 PS put in a good word.  I'll see you soon my son 💙 we love you we miss you and never ever ever forget you  for you are forever Edge in our mine and hearts forever and ever

Im just here thinking about you and missing you soo much I love you daddy 

I’m so excited to see you tomorrow I miss you so much 

I woke up this morning hoping I would receive a good morning text back from you but I didn’t it slowly hasn’t settled in yet that your gone I love you daddy 🥺❤️

I’m missing you a little extra today hope your having fun up there in heaven I love u daddy 😘❤️

I just wanna say I love you and miss you so much and that I will be seeing you on Sunday I’m trying my best to stay strong for you daddy ❤️

Just letting you know how much I’m thinking about you today and how much I miss you I love you so much  ❤️ Say hi to grandpa up there for me 

Dearest Joey...

I am struggling to find the words to express the feelings your loss has left behind.  Almost 3 decades of friendship...home team friendship...and now you're gone...just like that.   It hurts to know we've lost another good friend/family member, extremely too soon.  My heart hurts knowing that your 3 kids won't have you here anymore.  When I saw the kids 2 days ago...I could see the pain in their eyes...but I couldn't do anything to make them feel any less hurt.   However, I will never stop checking on them to ensure they're ok.  You leave behind so many memories... you will never be forgotten Joey.  May your soul forever rest in piece and may your love forever live in us all.  With a saddened heart I say goodbye...but we shall see you again one day.  RIEP hometeam.
With so much love XOXO...Wally

For the father of my first born child and old friend. I am still shocked over your loss and it is still hard to find words to express the deep, sad feeling both Devin and I have.  You were a great father who cared deeply for your children and I feel saddened you were not able to experience more of their lives 😢 , my heart goes out to Devin, Chasity and Jose.   I will forever cherish our young crazy times and friendship we shared in the past and our heart to heart conversations we've had through the years and in the recent months. You were a great friend. I'm sorry Devin and I could not be there today but know you are forever in our memories and our hearts ❤

Dear Daddy,
I will always remember that special smile you had , your caring heart , that warm embrace you always gave us you being there for Devin, Jose and I through good and bad times no matter what. I will always remember you Daddy because there will never be an awesome most loving and caring dad to ever replace you in my heart and the love  i have I will always have for you it will never end it grows stronger and stronger by the day.  I will always remember that we asked for little but you gave so much than what we asked for. To us you are truly a blessing you are the best father anyone could have ever and I mean ever ask for there’s no one like you I will hold you in my heart forever until I can hold you again in heaven. You will always be my living breathing super hero i will always love you. I breathe because you breathe, I am happy because your happy I just want you to know that I will always remember you because you my happy place. Not a day passes by , that you don’t cross my mind not all of you departed when you left our earth behind. And in my heart there is only a place that only you can hold filled with memories more priceless than gold. I know you still hear me daddy so please know this is true that the woman I am today is because of you and I thank you for that. I love you daddy till the moon and back may you Rest In Peace i love you so much even though you knew that already you will be missed dearly  . Love chase 😘❤️ 

Joey, my love; 

We had a connection the moment we met, a connection that built so strong that we have never experienced before. 

You taught me how to fall in love, and see the world differently. You bought out the best in me, always made me smile and laugh every day. We confided in each other, taught each other, and fell very deeply in love. 

You were such a devoted father and a dedicated family man, the most loving, caring, stubborn, charming, and the most sweetest man I have ever met. 

You are and forever will always be my soul mate as I will remain yours. 

I love you forever & always, your Mamita 

Dear Joey, 
Although we weren’t related, I will always consider you my uncle. You were such a positive attribute to my life and for that I thank you. I will cherish every memory and every life lesson you taught me. I wish you had the chance to see me grow up, but I know you will always be watching over us. Without you I wouldn’t be here, so I thank you for being my dads best friend. You were definitely taken from us too soon, but I know you are in a better place now. May you Rest In Peace Tio Joey!
With love, Angie. 

Joey, Mi amor Bonito..

Distance and separation was our destiny in this lifetime; however, our souls have never been apart. You taught me to accept the hand we were dealt and so I learned to hear your voice in the wind and to feel your touch with the sunshine, to enjoy every call and every text, the countless letters sent to me and the endless phone conversations.  I treasure every little moment I got to spend next to you.  
Our love story will forever remain my first and last thought of the day. 

Papito Bello, que mi Dios te dé el descanso eterno y que brille para ti la luz perpetua.  Se que hoy duermes con tu esperanza puesta en Jesús y esperando su promesa de vida eterna. Hoy mi esperanza sigue puesta en Él y se que nos volveremos a ver.

Meet you heaven my love, I know you will be waiting by the window to help me sneak in.  Agape!

To his loving family and close friends, Please know that you are all in my thoughts and prayers.

I’ll never forget you Joey. You were a huge part of my childhood growing up. A great friend to me, and truly regret we lost touch. I pray for you, your path in light and to the divine. May God bring your family comfort in this difficult time. Memory Eternal.

Bleedin’ tears at Sunset
(Dedicated to Joey)

These bleedin’ tears saturated my heart 
long before my cheeks
tasted the sharp brine of your loss.

Denial came for a time, that changes nothing;
it doesn't care enough to last.
Besides society won’t let you live that way.

I won’t dilute the memories we’ve shared, 
won’t forget the very best of you
or the childhood that brought us together— 

before we had a care, 
before Maria, before Craig,
before high school changed everything.

But we never let things change our dynamic,
we were true friends, since and always,
nothing can change that.

I cherish these mindscapes more than ever now,
it’s all we have left. No more 
calls, texts, jokes, laughs, lessons,
only tears and memories linger now—

of the children we were, the golden era
a pack of yellowed Polaroids, our yesterday
bathing in the hazy sun of our new reality.

[Copyright] by Julie Adams 

Joey is and was a wonderful person. Sweet and caring. Great father that’s for sure. I remember the last message I got for him was thanking me for being kind and welcoming. It’s easy to be kind and welcoming to people whom are the same. Picture is of Joey and my Grandma finishing a race together. He wouldn’t leave her alone. 

So devastated to hear this news. I've known you since 4th grade. You mean the world to me. You were my best friend and confident. I pray that you are in peace and that we will see each other once again. I pray for strength and understanding for the family.
Xoxo, Soli and family

Will always be in my heart and never forgotten !! To my great  friend .Love u Brother!! Till we meet again and plays ♠️..  Love U Brother!!  

OBITUARY

Jose Manuel Oquendo Jr.

December 18, 1977 – April 22, 2020

Caballero Rivero Southern

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