Violet P. Accomando

November 19, 1919February 25, 2014

VIOLET PEARL NORBERTA ACCOMANDO, 94, of Northridge, CA, passed away at home on Tuesday, February 25, 2014, surrounded by her loving family.

Violet was born on November 19, 1919, in Chicago, IL, to Roy and Olga Neufeldt. She married the love of her life, Anthony Joseph “Tony” Accomando, on September 28, 1940, in Chicago, and together they had three children, Carol, Barbara, and Raymond. Violet worked as a secretary for five attorneys during the first six years of her marriage. Once she had children, she was the typical stay-at-home mother of the 1950s and 1960s. In the mid-1960s, Violet returned to the workforce out of necessity when her husband suffered debilitating back injuries and couldn’t work for several years. She got a job as an intake worker for the Los Angeles County Department of Public Social Services, and she retired from that job in 1976.

In 1952, Violet and Tony moved their family from Chicago to Southern California’s San Fernando Valley, living first in a rental unit in Van Nuys for a year and then buying a home in Granada Hills, where they lived for seven years. In 1960, Violet and Tony bought a home in Northridge, where Violet lived until her death.

Violet enjoyed life to the fullest, and she had such a positive attitude toward everything in life, even in her darkest hours. She loved to talk to everyone everywhere she went, and she loved to tell jokes and stories. She was a piano player her entire life, and she enjoyed knitting, sewing, crocheting, doing genealogical research, doing word-search puzzles, playing solitaire, and playing Bingo at the Wilkinson Senior Center in Northridge.

Violet was preceded in death by her husband of 55 years in 1996, her son, Raymond Accomando, in 2013, and her special friend, A. J. Cosindas, just four days prior to her death. She is survived by her daughters, Carol (Bitner) Winckler of Agoura Hills, CA, and Barbara Huber of Valencia, CA; her grandchildren, Michael Winckler of Agoura Hills, CA, Brian (Kimberly) Winckler of Silver Lake, CA, Jessica Huber of Raleigh, NC, Joshua (Astrid) Huber of Columbus, OH, and Alicia (Jerrimy) Healy of Bremerton, WA; and her great-grandchildren, Milo, Ginger, and Hudson Winckler (Brian’s children), and Ingrid Huber (Joshua’s daughter). Another Huber great-granddaughter is due to be born in about four weeks.

There will be a visitation and viewing today, February 27, 2014, from 3:30 - 5:00 p.m. at the Bastian and Perrott, Oswald Mortuary, 18728 Parthenia Street, Northridge, CA 91324, 818-886-8600. A funeral Mass will take place at 10:30 a.m. on Friday, February 28, 2014, at Our Lady of Lourdes Catholic Church, 18400 Kinzie Street, Northridge, CA 91325. Burial will be at Oakwood Memorial Park, 22601 Lassen Street, Chatsworth, CA 91311, after the Mass.

Arrangements under the direction of Bastian & Perrott, Oswald Mortuary, Northridge, CA.


  • Visitation Thursday, February 27, 2014
  • Funeral Service Friday, February 28, 2014

Violet P. Accomando

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Lea Bartolotto

May 1, 2014

Dear Vi,
We spent many joyous occasions together in the past.
You were always happy and outgoing and added to the fun. Those memories are part of my history and upbringing. I am sure your family misses you very much.

May 1, 2014

Aunt Violet was such a special lady. She was always full of life and a pleasure to be around. My husband Joey's aunt, she welcomed us for two trips to California with our special needs child, Angel. These trips were a blast and full of fun an excitement as Aunt Violet would plan the itinerary for the few days we were there. Our last trip, she managed to plan a reunion between us, Carol and Bit, cousin Gloria from Tennessee and cousin John, who just returned from Italy. I still have the beautiful sweater and cap that she made for Angel when she was an infant. We will miss her!

Cathy, Joey, and Angel

Denise Neufeldt

May 1, 2014

Love you Aunt Vi, you were an inspiration to me. I will dearly miss being able to call you every month. The sound of your laughter, your singing to me that you loved me a bushel and a peck, your jokes and most of all our reminiscing about my dad, your brother. Thank you for all the memories and the time you spent with me. I wish I could have lived closer to you and seen you more often. I love you dearly and will always miss you. I know you are in a better place without any medical problems. Hopefully you are with Mooster, Aunt Pearl, Your Mom, my Dad, your Dad, Tony and Raymond and the rest of the gang, Christi, Walter, Agnes and Sylvia... I bet they are all singing while Pearl plays the piano. What a wonderful reunion... LOVE AND MISS YOU ALWAYS, DENISE

Delores Bonner Carbone

April 29, 2014

Vi you were a friend to me when I was struggling to raise my 3 daughters. We sat facing each other while we typed in the transcribing dept. at the DPSS. You were always so kind to me and helped me so much. You gave me a prayer 45 years ago and though it is tattered I've carried in my wallet for all those years. It's true that people are sent to you when you need them the most. You were that wonderful angel that was sent to me. God Bless You Violet. What a beautiful soul you are. I've never forgotten all you did for me. Love, Delores

March 11, 2014

Oh Mom, how I will missing you. I can't imagine life without you. How can I possibly put into words how much you mean to me. Thank you for being the best Mom anyone could ever have. I always told you that you were an angel and that we just couldn't see your wings. Now you have your wings. When we talked you never wanted to say "Goodbye", but rather "Good Night". You are now in Heaven with Dad and Ray and all our loved ones who have gone before us. So Good Night, Mom, not Goodbye. Rest in peace. We shall be together again someday for all eternity. I love you with all my heart my sweet, precious Mom.

Taylor T

March 9, 2014

I express my sincerest condolences. May God, who has the power to provide any and all comfort, give the family peace at this time.

Carol Accomando Winckler

March 4, 2014

To my precious mother, who went through intolerable pain and suffering during the last weeks of her life, I bid you adieu. I am so glad your suffering is over and that you are with Dad and Ray and all the people you loved who went before you. We will meet again someday, and I know you will be there to greet me when my time comes. Please watch over us from Heaven above. I love you, Mom, with all my heart, or as you would say, "I love you a bushel and a peck and a hug around your neck!"

The Lord Bless you and keep you! The Lord let His face shine upon You and be gracious to you. The Lord look upon you kindly and give you peace. Amen.