OBITUARY
Harold Hal A Soloff
April 9, 1931 – September 23, 2013
Harold (Hal) Alan Soloff, born in Norwich April 9, 1931, the son of Bessie Bruckner Soloff and Simon Soloff, died on Monday, Sept. 23rd at his home.
He is survived by his son, David, of New York, and his daughter Jennifer and her husband Eric Hu of Hawai Kai, Hawaii. Stacy Gould is his Goddaughter.
Hal was married to his beloeve and best friend Phyllis Bernstein of Norwich for over fifty-three years. She predeceased him in August, 2009. He is also survived by his brother-in-law and sister-in-law, Stephen and Barbara Berns of West Hartford, his niece, Attorney Debra Berns of Minneapolis, Minnesota, his nephew Mark Berns, his wife Sol, and their daughters Nicole and Gabrielle Berns of Avon, Connecticut, and his niece Karen Whipple and her husband Richard, and their daughters Ashley and Brittany of Gainesville, Florida. He also leaves his English cousins, Dr. Neville and Rosalind Soloff, of Milton Keynes, U.K., and their children.
When he was in high school, Hal was on the boxing team, and fought in the Golden Gloves competition. He started taking drum lessons at age ten, and began playing professionally at age sixteen. When he was seventeen, he attended the Juilliard School of Music in New York pre-college program, where he studied under Saul Goodman, the premier timpanist with the New York Philharmonic. Hal was in the Northwestern University Marching Band, and at Northwestern, he studied under Edward Metzenger, premier timpanist with the Chicago Symphony. Hal was the timpanist in a symphony orchestra, and played the drums in a dance band while in high school and college. He left college to enlist and serve in the Air Force during the Korean War, and returned to attend law school. Hal was an attorney and Registered Representative of the New York Stock Exchange when he was diagnosed with Cystic Fibrosis at age twenty eight. He was one of the oldest survivors of the disease. His younger sister, Jeanne Soloff Golder, mother of Karen Whipple, died at age twenty of CF. He taught at the Norwich Free Academy for twenty five years, and on the graduate level at Connecticut College for thirteen years. Hal drafted the legislation passed by the General Assembly that gave N.F.A. teachers the same rights to negotiate and due process that had been given to public school teachers. For over forty years, Hal and Phyllis traveled extensively throughout Europe, the United States including Alaska and Hawai, Canada and the Caribbean taking his medications and breathing devices wherever they went. Phyllis and Hal hiked in Glacier National park in Montana, and Waterton in Alberta, Canada, and the Smoky Mountains in Tennessee. They climbed Mr. Cairngorm in Scotland, Snowdonia in Wales, hiked in the Swiss Alps, drove above the tundra line of Norway, and walked the coast of Cornwall to Land's End in the United Kingdom, which they said was their "home away from home." With their children, they spent a sabbatical year at the University of London, living in Greenwich, and both Hal and Phyllis were awarded the title of "Associate, University of London." He also took lectures on British politics at Nuffield College, Oxford University. Phyllis and Hal maintained a close relationship with their former neighbors and friends throughout the U.K. In addition, Hal earned a doctorate, a masters, and a Professional Diploma in Education. Hal served in several capacities in the Norwich City government including four charter revision commissions, and he chaired three of them. He was chair of the Codes Review Committee, and served on the Governor's Task Force for Higher Education. Hal was a member of the Democratic Town Committee, and was elected a delegate to the Democratic National Convention in 1972. In 2007, he was given a national award, "Hero of Hope" for his involvement with helping others with Cystic Fibrosis. Hal established an internet support group for those with CF, and was a member of the Board of Directors of the Connecticut Cystic Fibrosis Foundation. He communicated with those who have CF all over the world through the internet and Skype. Although born in Norwich, Hal grew up in North Carolina, Texas, and Tennessee, but settled with the woman and children he loved in the city he loved, Norwich, the place he always considered his "home town." interment is in the I.O.B.A. cemetery, Greenville, where Hal's wife, great grandparents, grandparents, parents, sister, great aunts and uncles, and an aunt and uncle are buried.
In lieu of flowers, please donate to the Cystic Fibrosis Research, Inc., 2672 Bayshore Parkway, Mountain View, CA 94043.
Services
- Graveside Service Sunday, September 29, 2013
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Harold Hal A Soloff
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RECEIVE UPDATESKristen Morosky Day
September 9, 2014
I was saddened to read about Harold's passing while at the annual teacher's mass this year at the Cathedral. I noticed he had not written any fiery, factual letters to the editor to the Day or Bulletin lately, and was wondering if he had moved out of CT. To live a fulfilling life with CF gives hope to so many and Harold surely lived with gusto. Such a great guy, he will be sorely missed.
Terrie Trainor-Labelle
December 29, 2013
To Sir, with Love
Amelia Avila
October 16, 2013
I am saddened to hear of Hal's passing. I had the pleasure of meeting him and Phyllis many years ago in CT, when my daughter was first diagnosed with CF (she is 18, now). He was an active participant of a CF list that I was also a part of, called Cystic-L, which is how I came to know of him. He was, and will continue to be, an inspiration to us and many who fight CF every day. Many condolences to his family.
October 11, 2013
So sorry for this life lost to CF. It's good to hear of someone this age with CF. His long life gives hope to others with CF. Rest in peace Mr. Soloff. From grandmother of 8 yr old granddaughter with CF
Stefan Keasche
October 10, 2013
Mr. Soloff rest in peace.
You are an inspiration for all cfers around the world.
Mary Duncan
October 10, 2013
Very sorry to hear of your loss, Hal will be missed by all of us that live with CF.
God Bless.
Mary
53w/CF
Donna Vantlin
October 10, 2013
So very sorry for your loss. He was a great teacher/ person.. Very caring
Michael Schurig
October 9, 2013
Hal,
your kindness and advice certainly made a difference for many parents learning about their children's cystic fibrosis.
Your testimony about having a good life with this disease was encouraging.
Thank you and rest in peace.
Michael from Berlin, Germany
Kim Witkowski
October 9, 2013
I met Hal through a Skype interview he did with us in Kitchener, Ontario, Canada about living with his Cystic Fibrosis. A wonderful man who will also be missed this side of the border. As a 44 yr old living with Cystic Fibrosis, his life gives me hope that I can live a long, productive life.
Lesli Contreras
October 9, 2013
I'm so osrry to hear of this sad news about Hal. I'd been on Cystic List for several years, not so much recently in the past couple years, but he was always so kind to me. He wrote me several times and shared stoires about so much in his life, his preicous wife and family. Our hearts and prayers are with you deeply.
Brian DeVantier
October 8, 2013
I've been out of town and was saddened to hear of Mr. Soloff's passing. I was lucky to have known Mr. and Mrs. Soloff for over six years as I was able to help them with their gardening. I will always treasure the stories he shared with me about his life and travels with Phyllis. My memories of them will be fond and my sympathies go out to his family and friends.
Sue Simms
October 8, 2013
Hal was a great man and he will be missed. He was truly a great help to me and gave great insight for all of us with CF. We will keep all ths family in our prayers.
Kathy Russell
October 8, 2013
Hal was a great friend and good man. He will be missed by all of us in the CF Community. I know that he is happy to be back with his Phyll.
Steve Levy
October 8, 2013
Hal was a wonderful guy, devoted to Phyllis and his kids. He was an inspiration to my wife and me for our daughter with CF. He is sorely missed.
ERIC STEINER
October 8, 2013
R.I.P. Harold. Although I did not know you personally, you were a remarkable CF Survivor as well as a proud war veteran. :)
Prayers to your friends and family :)
ERIC P. STEINER ( 54 Yrs Old w/ CF and CF Related Type 2 Diabetes )
Alex Guedes
October 8, 2013
My condolences to the family.
Mr Sloff was an example and inspiration for all involved with CF, I knew him from the posts.
As a father of a 11 years old boy with Cf following his posts during this years brought me hope and wisdom to face life.
Alex Guede (Brazil)
October 8, 2013
I knew Hal,through an on -line chat room for those affected by CF. His comments were always intelligent and frank. He was and is an inspiration to many of us.
K Schulz
October 8, 2013
Hal was 'skyped' into a cystic fibrosis chapter meeting we had in Kitchener, Ontario, Canada a couple of years ago. I was so inspired. There was not a dry eye in the room. Hal gave me hope for my daughter, who lives with CF. Thank you Hal!
Sue Pettit
October 8, 2013
I have known Hal for many years, since the Internet support groups for Cystic Fibrosis began via email. I am going to miss him and his advice and insight terribly. No one could explain like dear Hal. I loved him and will never forget him. Thanks to the internet, I am also in possession of some of the greatest recipes that belonged to his beloved wife, who he spoke of often and shared life stories. See you later my dear friend, I am going to miss you...until we meet again.
Kim Webster
October 8, 2013
I "knew" Hal from the CF forums. When my daughter was first diagnosed, he encouraged me and showed me the importance of allowing her to enjoy her childhood, despite having CF. He will always be a great inspiration to me.
Andrea Fitting
October 8, 2013
Hal was an inspiration to many. I knew him from the online CF groups and I cannot tell his family how much he was loved. His strength and love of family came through all the time. He touched our lives and the lives of so many online. He is reunited with Phyllis and his sister. He is missed.
Eunice Mota
October 8, 2013
My condolences to the family. I knew Hal from CF forums, I held him in much respect and appreciation, a true hero and a kind man R.I.P.
Katherine Krishnan
October 8, 2013
Hal's love for his wife and children made a lasting impression on me. He remains an inspiration to my son, who also has CF. Hal was intelligent, witty, and opinionated, which made our discussions enjoyable and thought provoking. He will be missed. He was someone who challenged himself through travel and education, and challenged others as well. Our thoughts and prayers are with his children and extended family.
Dann Hubbard
October 6, 2013
Mr.Soloff was a great teacher who always taught the importance of being ready for the future!
Reiner Beckmann
October 6, 2013
Harold Soloff is one of the few teachers I actually remember from high school. I was a general student taking his college prep Promises and Problems of Democracy class and I was in way over my head. He gave me a much higher grade than I deserved and I know he must have done it on purpose to me give me an ego boost. I've reflected back to that moment in my life several times through the years and I've always wanted to say to him- thank you, I needed that.
Jessica Bennett
October 6, 2013
I almost wrote Dr. Soloff a letter last year, and then I let life get in the way. So I want to say to anyone else who visits this page that I owe a lot of how I look at the world to the things I learned in his class. He was a teacher who made you believe, through his example, that a single person can make a difference in the world. He would rather you disagree with him than to think that you were being a lazy thinker. He knew that memorizing facts was less important than gaining the ability think critically. I wish I had told him that when he was alive. It's been 23 years since I had him as a teacher, but I think of him often. Thank you, Dr. Soloff.
Paul Ricard
October 3, 2013
Mr. Soloff was one of my favorite teachers. I will always remember him as a wise and honorable man. My deepest sympathies to his family.
Marcie Blaise
October 1, 2013
David and Jennifer and family,
So sorry to hear of your dads passing! I know my mom stopped over today and sent my condolences! Please take care! Please let us know if we can help in anyway! Reading all these lovely messages must make you proud!
Marcie Blaise
September 30, 2013
The MacAdie family and the Soloff family date back several decades. Jack especially liked the debates with Hal. What a fabulous intellect Hal had.Funny, sweet,true to his values. Many lovely dinners with Phyllis and Hal.
Our condolenses. Love Bruce and Liz MacAdie
Tom Theve
September 30, 2013
I'm sorry for your loss. Hal was a colleague mentor to me at NFA and encouraged my participation as a teacher advocate. He helped me be proud to be a teacher.
Tom Theve
Marilyn Lowney
September 30, 2013
Much love to David and Jennifer. Your dad was a courageous, funny, passionate man. I loved our lunches together and his groaningly funny jokes. I am headed to Haiti, so cannot Sit Shiva with you all, but I do send much love and condolences to you both. Hal definitely left an imprint on our world... a legacy you can both be proud of. Love, Marilyn Lowney
Deb Hebert
September 30, 2013
My deepest sympathy goes out to the Soloff family. Harold was my social studies teacher at NFA in 1969 and 1970 and someone I admired from that point on. Phyllis was one of my teachers at Kelly Jr. High - another amazing person! You are so very fortunate to have had someone like this in your family. Knowing the wonderful and life-long impact he made on me, I can only imagine how much richer your lives are having been related to such an amazing man.
April (Yaworski) Korytkowska
September 30, 2013
Dear Soloff Family,
I am sorry for your loss. I had your Dad as a History Teacher
at NFA and appreciated how he taught.
Marie Fishbone Spellman
September 29, 2013
I'm sorry for your loss. He was my US History teacher when I was a senior at NFA. His method of teaching helped me all the way through college! HE was one of my favorites! David - I hope you read this - I hope you have great memories from the ODC.
September 29, 2013
Ada and I wish to express our deepest condolences to the Soloff family. Over the years we have enjoyed lively conversations and hospitality with Hal and Phyllis. Both were loved and will be missed. Don Amaro
September 29, 2013
Dear Hal,
As you embark on yet another new adventure, remember that you were loved and respected by those you encountered on this journey. It was my pleasure to have known such a caring, kind and honorable man. You trusted me with watching your precious children, David and Jennifer. You always helped me with my school work when I was in need. We shared many experiences, but none was more important than you giving me rides to school on those snowy days so I didn't have to wait for the bus. I have decorated your home and sewn your hems. That was the type of relationship we shared. I will miss our talks from politics to travels. Lenny and I still remember the party you had for us when we got married and the beautiful picture you gave us. I will truly miss you, but know that your memories will live on in every person who was lucky enough to have had you in their lives.
Love, Kim Mitchell Begin
Arlene Pollack
September 28, 2013
Dear David, Jen, and family,
I was so sorry to read of your dad's passing. He certainly defied the odds. I have so many memories of both your mom and dad. I loved reading Hal's letters to the editor. We probably would have a much better world if the rest of the world read his letters! Hal is at peace now and with his beloved Phyl.
September 28, 2013
Dear Soloff family; my deepest and sincerest sympathy for your loss. David God bless you! love Robin Ballard-Corbeil
Paul Butcher
September 28, 2013
I had the privilege of having Dr Soloff as a teacher at NFA, and his influence affects me to this day. He was the only teacher that really made me think. He was a truly decent man and will be missed.
September 28, 2013
Our Sincere condolences to the Soloff's family,Gideon and Melanie Loewenstein.
Mary-Ellen Porter-Price
September 28, 2013
Dear Soloff Family,
Although I did not have the privilege of knowing your father, I am a fellow educator. To read all the many tributes to your Dad, it is obvious that he had a lasting impression on many of his students. Thank you for sharing him with the world. My thoughts and prayers will be with you as you continue your life's journey. May many happy memories bring you comfort in the days ahead.
Sincerely,
September 28, 2013
Mr. Soloff was one of the best teachers I had in NFA but also a wise man about life in general. He gave me great advice along the way and for that I am eternally grateful. My condolences to his family - they can be very proud of him. Mary Ellen Ring (NFA '73) Dublin Ireland
Charlene Johnson
September 28, 2013
My sincere condolences to Dr. Soloff's family. I was privileged to have him as my social studies teacher at NFA ('72). He instilled an interest in politics in me that I have to this day.
Mark Graham
September 28, 2013
I was lucky to have participated in Dr. Soloff's (Hal's) "Problems and Promises of Democracy" class, while I was at NFA in the late '70s, and I was honored to have Hal as a friend later in life. Hal taught me (and all his students) to think critically, question authority, speak truth to power, read widely and engage in a life of learning and service. He had, by far, the most influence of any of my teachers and I credit him for helping to set me on a path of progressive politics and activism. Hal was a master teacher who integrated his first person experiences, growing up in the segregated south, into his lessons about the history and evolving reality of the American experience. Hal inspired, challenged, informed and demonstrated by example what it means to live a life of purpose, informed by a keen sense of justice, compassion and selfless contribution to society.
Chelsey Kopplin
September 28, 2013
Mr. Soloff was an amazing man and it was a pleasure to have known him. Prayers go out to this family, may knowing he is with Phyllis the love of his life give some peace in his passing.
Marc Sherrin
September 27, 2013
I had the honor of know Hal for many years. He was one of the most decent and honest man I ever met. A bright light went out in this world with his passing. May he rest in peace.
Mike Twomey (NFA '83)
September 27, 2013
I am sorry for your loss, David. Your father was a kind man, an enthusiastic educator, and a good role model for participating in the community.
Melynda Guillet
September 27, 2013
Jennifer, David & Family,
I feel honored and privileged to have known such a great man. He made such a positive impact on so many lives. My thoughts and prayers to you all. God bless you. Melynda (Sousa) Guillet
Beryl Fishbone
September 27, 2013
A fine man, a dedicated ciitizen and a wonderful and caring teacher. He will be missed.
Sherida Tabaka Antonacci
September 27, 2013
My deepest sympathies. Mr. Soloff was my 6th grade teacher at Poquetanock Grammer school. He was the person at our school who got word of the assassination of president Kennedy and passed that information to us. He was one of the most honorable men I have known. He was my inspiration for becoming a lawyer. He was a very important person in my young life; a fantastic teacher;a great role modeland an inspiration for me to succeed. I am so sad to hear of his passing and I hope that my words can be a comfort to you.
Dean Morse
September 27, 2013
Rest in Peace Mr. Soloff.
George Wezner
September 27, 2013
Mr. Soloff was unequivocally one of the finest teachers I had throughout my life. His knowledge and enthusiasm for teaching and concern for his students was second to none. He also was a fine jazz drummer, appreciating the arts as well. My prayers go out to his family during this trying time - George K. Wezner
MaryJane Cavarnos-Chmielecki
September 27, 2013
My heart felt sympathies to the family. I was one of his students at NFA and I adored him as a teacher. He was one of the few teachers that I had that made going to class worth wild. He was a great mentor.
Mark Kalinowski
September 27, 2013
A man who, as a teacher, made the biggest impact in my life. A man who openly shared his joys of family with people he spoke to. A man who had a passion for fairness, justice and just doing what's right for all. A man who lived life to the fullest even through the trials of his long battle with Cystic Fibrosis. A man who constantly gave to all. A personal hero to me and a man who will never be forgotten. My prayers are with his children and entire family during this most difficult time.
Greg Hawkey
September 27, 2013
To the family of Mr. Harold A. (Hal) Soloff--
As one of the multitude who had the privilege and honor of being educated by this wonderful man, I was saddened to hear of his passing. I extend my sincere and most heartfelt sympathies and condolences to you at this time. His teachings are well remembered, a man of great talent and brilliant mind, he shared with so many of his students through the years. Reading his letters to the editor, always exceptionally written and to the point, made me feel that much more honored to have been one of his pupils. My thoughts and prayers are with you at this time of sadness. He will never be forgotten and he will always be with us.
FROM THE FAMILY
IN THE CARE OF