Labenski Funeral Home

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Patricia H. DeSario

November 20, 1932January 8, 2020

Norwich - Patricia Helen DeSario, 87, of Sheraton Lane, Norwich, Ct., passed away at home, surrounded by her loving family and friends, on Wednesday, January 8th, 2020, after a courageous battle with Alzheimer’s disease.

Patricia was born on November 20th, 1932, in Norwich, Connecticut, the daughter of the late Joseph A. and Cecile (Adams) Selvidio.

Patricia graduated from Norwich Free Academy in 1950. She met her husband, Paul F. DeSario, at a basketball game at NFA. They were married at St. Mary’s Church in Greenville, CT., on December 30th. They spoke fondly of their early marriage when they lived in a small travel trailer and the happy adventure it turned out to be for both of them when Paul was serving in the National Guard and the Marines. Last December, they celebrated their 69th year of marriage.

She was an administrative assistant at Silverman Insurance Company in Norwich, Ct, and an executive secretary at United Nuclear in Montville, CT.

Patricia loved her family, above all else, and she was a devoted wife, mother, and grandmother. She would often host Italian dinners for her family and friends. Everyone knew there was a place for them at her table. She assisted her daughter at Little Rascals Daycare in Bozrah, Ct., where she was known as “Grammy.” It brought her great joy to be with children. Patricia was a devout Catholic and a communicant of Sts. Peter and Paul Church in Norwich, CT.

In addition to her loving husband Paul, she is survived by her son, Paul DeSario, and lifelong partner, Carol Young of Venice Beach, Florida; a son, Thomas DeSario and wife, Urith, of Venice Beach, Florida; a daughter, Dawn Mazzarella, and husband, Salvatore, of Bozrah, Ct.; two sisters, Catherine Camillucci of Norwich, Ct., and Paula McNulty of Mardela Springs, Md.; five grandchildren; granddaughter Julie DeSario and husband Marc Oddo of Charlotte, North Carolina; granddaughter, Leah DeSario, of Old Saybrook, Ct.; grandson Jordan DeSario of Old Saybrook, Ct., and their mother, Gertrude Zorn, of Old Saybrook, Ct; grandson Joseph Mazzarella and wife, Ashley, of Branford, Ct., granddaughter Deborah Mazzarella Perez and husband, Michael, and great-grandson, Bradley Alexander Perez, of Newport, Rhode Island, and many nieces and nephews and cousins, related by family and by love which are too numerous to name.

In addition to both parents, she was predeceased by her brothers Robert S. Selvidio and Gerald J. Selvidio and sister Jean Selvidio Nickerson.

A Mass of Christian burial will be celebrated at St. Peter and Paul Church, 181 Elizabeth St., Norwich, CT, on Saturday, January 18th at 9 a.m. Reception to follow at the church. Burial for the immediate family will follow at St. Joseph’s Cemetery, 815 Boswell Avenue, Norwich, CT.

The Labenski Funeral Home, 107 Boswell Ave., Norwich, Ct., is assisting with arrangements. There will be no calling hours. Please visit www.labenskifuneralhome.com if you wish to leave a message of condolence for Patricia’s family.

The family of Patricia would like to extend our heartfelt thanks to Kristen Mahan, APRN, FNP-C, LLC, and Darlene Burlingame of Beacon Hospice for the many hours they devoted to the care and well being of Patricia.

Patricia’s love for God was present in every aspect of her life. She left us with a legacy of unconditional love that will continue to live on through her children, grandchildren, and great-grandchildren. We will cherish her in our hearts forever.


  • Mass of Christian Burial Saturday, January 18, 2020
  • Burial Saturday, January 18, 2020


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Katrina Kilpatrick

January 16, 2020

Our family has so many fond memories of Grammy at Little Rascals. She rocked our boys when they were little and always shared her love of all the Little Rascals when she spent time with them. Her warm heart and beautiful smile made everyone feel loved.

Josie & Peter Schessauer

January 14, 2020

Josie & Peter of Switzerland

Such a cheerful and personable woman! We will never forget the delicious pasta dinner that you and Paul made and shared with us in August 2007.
Our sincere condolences to Paul & the whole family,

Gertrude Zorn

January 12, 2020

The best Grammy (deedee)ever to her 5 grandchildren . All my friends wanted a Grammy like her for their children. Unconditional love.