Robert W. Barnes Sr.

January 12, 1931May 11, 2019

NORWICH – Robert W. Barnes Sr., 88, died peacefully on Saturday, May 11th at Harrington Court in Colchester.

He was born in New London on January 12, 1931 to the late Charles D., and Ruth (Gardner) Barnes Sr. After high school he enlisted in the US Marine Corp which would positively impact and shape his life and all those around him until his passing. He received his Honorable Discharge as a Corporal on Feb, 23, 1952.

Robert married his beloved wife Elizabeth (Fratus) on Dec. 30, 1950, another event that molded his life’s course. They were the quintessential story of how the “two became one” until her passing on Oct. 24, 2009. Throughout his life, Robert was a representative of right over wrong, making good decisions, and working together to lighten the load and be a cohesive force. This was his philosophy in his family life, his military life, his career, and his duty to our areas youth to do the right thing.

He worked as a Grocery Manager at the former Beit Brothers and First National grocery stores, retired from that and had a second career in restaurant sales at the Liberty Store in Norwich. His Norwich Little League involvement was legendary.

Robert is survived by his son; Robert W. Barnes Jr (Patricia), daughter; Debbie Dumphy (Paul), four grandchildren; Michael McGuire Jr (Monica), Miranda Farmer (Kurt), Melissa Orlando (Joshua) and Brittany Huta (Brian), seven great-grandchildren; Shane, Charlotte, Adam, Nicholas, Mila, Dillon and Juliet along with countless extended family members and friends.

He was predeceased by his brothers; Charles Jr, Ronald Sr. and Richard Sr. Calling Hours will be held on Sunday, May 19, 2019 from 2pm – 4pm at Church & Allen Funeral Home, 136 Sachem St., Norwich, CT. A Celebration of Life with Military Honors will begin at 4pm. Burial is private at the convenience of the family.

In lieu of flowers, please make donations in Robert’s memory to the Norwich Little League.

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  • Calling Hours / Visitation Sunday, May 19, 2019
  • Celebration of Life Service Sunday, May 19, 2019
  • Military Honors Sunday, May 19, 2019


  • Burial is Private at The Convenience of The Family


Robert W. Barnes Sr.

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Donna Signore Sisk

May 17, 2019

Oh Debby and family,
What fun years they were in our neighborhood! From working in the Little League and Rose Arts concession stands to playing in your backyard or dancing to 45's in your house to celebrating Christmas Eve in the basement room. One especially funny memory was camping at Hopeville Pond and his quarter expired while he was showering! Your dad was always welcoming, kind and gracious. I know he's happy to be with your mom now. I will miss his "Good to see you dahlin'."
Love, Donna

Cheryl Mish

May 14, 2019

What a great picture of your Dad. I didn't know him as a younger man but what I do know is that he always made the time to stop and spend a few minutes chatting. I especially remember our Florida trip and how much fun we had with you and your parents. I am sure he was grateful to Bill for sitting next to your Mom on the plane so she could squeeze him to relieve her flying anxiety. They are together again at last. I can almost see his eyes roll at something she has said as he arrived so long after her passing. A great loving couple.

Cathie Ballard (McGovern)

May 13, 2019

I am so sorry for your loss. I have such vivid memories of your dad and mom being the heart of our neighborhood on County Fair and Manwaring Roads. They were the center of happy times; and their smiles, warmth, and generosity made our little world there at County Fair a kids’ paradise. In later years, my grandchildren enjoyed visits with them, showing off amateur cartwheels and crazy dance steps to their apparent delight. So many wonderful memories of them, from Friday Nite Bingo and basement dances with hit 45 rpm records to sleep-outs in forts and blanket tents under the stars. I’m sorry those times have faded into the more distant past now. Please accept my condolences and know that your mom and dad are always a huge part of our warmest and happiest memories.

Judy Hunter

May 13, 2019

So very sorry for your loss. Thinking of you all ❤️

Jolene Beauregard Ruffo

May 13, 2019

Dear Debby and Family,
Your father was indeed a wonderful man. I can still picture him and your sweet mom always together making memories. As a couple they were a vision of love and dedication.
As a young teenager, I spent many, many hours at your home and both your parents always treated me as one of their own. They gave me special memories that I will forever treasure. I loved going to your house because I always knew it would be a fantastic time. We always had a great time at the Little League field and working the Rose Arts Festival food booth, also.
You and family have nothing but special memories of your dad and mom to forever hold close to your heart. Rejoice in the thought of your parents being rejoined in eternal life. After all, he could not remain apart from your mom for another Mother’s Day. That brings a smile to my face.