Ray Franklin Barhight Jr.
November 15, 1931 – July 5, 2020
On July 5, 2020, Ray Franklin Barhight, Jr. passed away. He was the beloved husband of Margaret “Marge” Barhight (nee Purcell); devoted father of G. Scott Barhight and his wife Yvonne; loving grandfather of Connor G. Barhight and his wife Frances, and Matthew F. Barhight and his wife Lydia; cherished great-grandfather of Caroline and Annabel Barhight; dear brother of the late Ruth I. Stull. A memorial service will be held at a later date. In lieu of flowers, those desiring may make a tribute donation in Ray’s name to St. John Episcopal Church, 11901 Belair RD, Kingsville, MD 21087.
Ray was born November 15, 1931, in Wilkes Barre, PA, to Mabel Drears Flecknoe Barhight and Ray Franklin Barhight, Sr. who already had a daughter, Ruth Irene. In 1941, the family moved to Middle River, MD, for his father to work at the Glen L. Martin Company; WWII was on.
Ray joined the Boys Scouts “so I could get a tent and all of the camping things.” He grew a little wild but never did anything really bad. He didn’t care too much for school “because of all those people telling me what to do,” but changed his mind when he fell in love with a neighborhood girl named Marge Purcell, who claimed she would not marry a guy who didn’t graduate from high school. Ray loved to tell people that he and Marge walked down the aisle twice, once when they graduated from Kenwood HS and then when they were married on January 19, 1952, at Mountain Christian Church in Harford County, MD. Because of their faith in the Lord, they had their rings engraved “Each for the Other, Both for God”; and the couple tried to live their lives with Love and guided by the Lord.
During the Korean War, Ray joined the Air Force and spent a year in Korea before completing his military life in Oklahoma at Altus Air Force SAC Base. He was honorably discharged with the rank of Sergeant. He and Marge returned home to jobs at the Martin Company. They bought a row home in Hawthorne and became parents on June 29, 1957, to a son whom they named George Scott. Scott was and is their pride and joy, along with Scott’s wife, Yvonne, and sons, Grif and Matt, and their wives, Frances and Lydia and great-granddaughters, Caroline and Annabel.
After service, living in Hawthorne, Ray joined Essex-Middle River Junior Chamber of Commerce and served as Cub Master and Assistant Scout Master. He later joined the Maryland Masons to which he became devoted. When Marge had a stroke in 1996, they both retired and moved to their dream house in the mountains of Morgan County, WV. Ray joined the Masons in Hancock, MD and became Master in 2005. They moved back to Maryland in 2017 at Oak Crest Retirement Home where they devoted their time to each other. Ray had bone cancer which was treated for years and then lung cancer which caused his death on the evening of July 5, 2020. When he died, Marge was singing “We’ll Meet Again” to him.
- Margaret "Marge" Barhight (nee Purcell), Wife
- G. Scott Barhight and his wife Yvonne, Son
- Connor G. Barhight and his wife Frances, Grandchild
- Matthew F. Barhight and his wife Lydia, Grandchild
- Caroline Barhight, Great Grandchild
- Annabel Barhight, Great Grandchild
- The late Ruth I. Stull, Sister
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St. John Episcopal Church
11901 Belair RD, Kingsville, MD 21087
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Ray Franklin Barhight Jr.
July 10, 2020
When I returned to St John’s as organist a couple of years ago Ray was one of the first parishioners I met. I loved Ray’s wonderful smile and hug during the Peace! With his full dramatic voice his reading of the scriptures was inspiring! All of us at St John’s admired And loved Ray and will miss him !
July 9, 2020
Ray, my favorite memory of you is your hearty laugh, I always loved that. I will miss you getting on the telephone as you were passing by, saying, " hi good looking", I remember the last time I heard that from you..as I have told you often, you are one of my favorite men in my life, and I will surely miss you. It doesn't seem possible you are gone from here, but myself, Marge, Scott, Yvonne, Matt, Griff, and their families are glad the pain and suffering is over for you, and we know you are in heaven now, so you rest.. You have always been a wonderful friend to me, that brought special memories, those I will hold near and dear to my heart. I love you, miss you, til we meet again, Vicki " the daughter you never had"💕
John Robert Stull
July 6, 2020
My fondest memory of my Uncle Ray was his gruff humor and the way he would look over the top of his glasses at you chuckling and you knew that he had got you, I loved that about him. I smile just thinking about that. I will miss him terribly. Love, Robert