OBITUARY

Connie Rae (Eltoft) Adcock

August 28, 1950May 14, 2018
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Connie R. Adcock, 67, formerly of Lombard, IL, passed away peacefully at her home on May 14, 2018.

Beloved mother of Siobhan (Andrew Roth) and Gillian (Matthew) Fletcher; adoring grandmother of Averil Roth and Harvey and Emelia Fletcher; cherished sister of Gary (Donna), Wayne (Janice), and Kevin (Patricia) Eltoft, and Erin (Ed) Moltzan, and sister-in-law of Penny (Gerry) Haynes. She is also survived by three treasured nephews, seven beloved nieces, and much-loved grand-nieces and -nephews. Preceded in her passing by her husband of 24 years, the late Richard, her daughter Athena, and her parents, the late Ralph and Lillian Eltoft.

Connie attended Willowbrook High School in Villa Park and later the University of Illinois. She built an award-winning career as a client services executive for companies around the world and was a respected mentor and colleague. She inspired friends and family with her warmth, humor, and generosity, and changed many lives for the better.

Visitation will be held on Sunday, May 20th 5:00 p.m. to 9:00 p.m., at Chapel Hill Gardens West Funeral Home, 17W201 Roosevelt Rd, Oakbrook Terrace, Ill. Funeral Service will be held on Monday, May 21st 10:00 a.m. at Chapel Hill Gardens West Funeral Home. Interment at Chapel Hill Gardens West Cemetery. Contributions may be made in memory of Connie to the National Women's Law Center (nwlc.org).

Services

  • Visitation Sunday, May 20, 2018
  • Funeral Service Monday, May 21, 2018
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Diana Carbone

May 24, 2018

I didn’t work directly for Connie at 18F, however, I’ll always remember how she always had a smile on her face and was admired by the people who worked for her.
Such a loss at a young age.
RIP
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Monica Hildebrand

May 19, 2018

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Biography

Connie Rae Eltoft Adcock
August 28, 1950 to May 14, 2018

Connie was the beloved mother of Siobhan (Andrew Roth) and Gillian (Matthew) Fletcher; the adoring grandmother of Averil Roth and Emelia and Harvey Fletcher; cherished sister of Gary (Donna), Wayne (Janice), and Kevin (Patricia) Eltoft, Erin (Ed) Moltzan, and sister-in-law of Penny (Gerry) Haynes. She was also the aunt of three treasured nephews (Michael, Marc, and Callahan) and seven beloved nieces (Tracy, Jessica, Shannon, Carly, Charlotte, Devon, and Victoria), and grand-aunt to their much-loved children. Connie is preceded in her passing by her loving husband of 24 years, the late Richard, her beloved daughter Athena, and her cherished parents, the late Ralph and Lillian Eltoft.

Family was the most important thing in the world to her. As the third of five brothers and sisters growing up in Champaign and then Lombard, Connie was blessed with a caring, encouraging family led by the gentle example set by Ralph and Lillian. Connie's close bonds with her parents, her brothers Gary, Wayne, and Kevin, and her sister Erin were a source of strength and comfort throughout her life. (Usually. Except when Connie's big brothers Gary and Wayne hid Connie's sock monkey in the basement.)

Connie grew up on Edgewood Avenue in Lombard, where families up and down the leafy block knew each other, and kids played on the sidewalk. She attended Willowbrook High School in Villa Park, where her father taught German, which may have inspired Connie's ambition of becoming an interpreter for the United Nations. At Willowbrook, Connie's sense of style stood out—she made her own clothes, and was a fearless fan of miniskirts. Her stylish, hilarious, slightly-rebellious tribe of friends called themselves The Candles. ("Up with Candles, Down with Pants.") In high school Connie also had a passing acquaintance with a handsome, Buddy-Holly-meets-the-TBirds young man named Richard Drake Adcock, a senior when she was a sophomore.

As a young woman, Connie was very much a product of the 1960s: A passionate Beatles fan (George forever), an artist and writer with an abiding interest in politics and the wider world, and a Sunday School teacher at the United Methodist Church in Lombard, whose mission of service appealed to her sense of social justice. The Vietnam War and the 1960s counterculture changed her life. She was proud to have been teargassed at the Chicago Democratic Convention in 1968, and was a committed advocate for women, civil rights, and equality her entire life.

Connie studied at the University of Illinois in Champaign-Urbana, pledging the Alpha Xi Delta sorority because it had the prettiest house and the edgiest girls. Meanwhile, Richard Adcock served two tours of duty in Vietnam in the United States Marine Corps. Connie and Richard reconnected after his return from the war and fell in love. Dick in fact brought his mother along on their first date because he wanted her to meet the woman he planned to marry. Castalia Ramos Adcock (a loving mother who could be a bit salty) told him, "Dick, you're not good enough for her."

The pair married in 1971, running off to California together. Connie loved to tell her kids that they threw their wedding rings into the ocean to declare their love and their freedom. Their life in Santa Monica wasn't all romance, though—they loved the atmosphere, but dinner was often beans eaten out of a can. In 1972 while they were living in Santa Monica, their first daughter was born, Athena Cressida, nicknamed "Beaner." After Beaner's birth Connie and Dick moved back to Illinois, where in 1973 their second daughter was born, Siobhan Caitlin.

In 1975, when Connie was just 25 years old and Dick was only 27, one of the defining tragedies of their lives occurred when three-year-old Athena died in an accident at home. A bright, beautiful, affectionate girl, Athena is buried here at Chapel Hill Gardens.

By November of 1976, Connie, Dick, and Siobhan had settled in Bolingbrook IL, and were expecting Gillian Castalia, who was born on Thanksgiving, fitting for a baby whose arrival was a blessing. The family lived in Bolingbrook for the next 10 years, during which time Connie worked at the Holiday Inn Reservation Center in Oak Brook, where as a colleague, mentor, and manager, she made many lifelong friends. The "Holiday Inn crew" was a smart, fun-loving support network that helped Connie kickstart what would become an accomplished, decades-long career in client service operations.

In 1986 Connie was offered an opportunity to advance her career, managing the Embassy Suites Reservation Center in Dallas, TX. The family moved to the Dallas suburb of Carrollton, which felt like another world: "Deep in the Heart of Texas" singalongs at the Piggly-Wiggly, big (big) 1980s hair, Tex-Mex food, armadillos and fire ants, and a particular kind of fierce Southern charm. In Texas, Connie perfected the art of "gentle pressure, relentlessly applied" that defined her many career successes.

During the early 1990s, Dick struggled with increasing physical and emotional health challenges, and was eventually hospitalized at the Veterans' Administration Hospital in Waco, TX. Connie rose to these challenges and many more, keeping everything together for her family, working hard and rising in her career to yet another opportunity in Memphis, TN, and putting her two daughters through college on her own. Dick's health struggles ended with his death in 1995, and his broken-hearted, deeply-loving family laid him to rest here in Chapel Hill Gardens Cemetery next to his little girl Athena.

Connie's hard-working, determined, generous spirit carried her through the years that followed. She lived in (and loved) many cities, including Minneapolis, MN, Charleston, SC, Northport, NY, Ft. Lauderdale, FL, and San Jose, CA, and worked for companies with headquarters around the world, from Manchester, England to St. Petersburg, Russia. She mentored dozens of people and helped them build their careers. She proudly watched her daughters graduate from college and start their own careers and families. Her greatest joy was in her children and her grandchildren. In fact she was such a superb grandmother to Emelia, Averil, and Harvey that a new name had to be invented for it: "Glam-ma."

Connie created beautiful, comfortable homes in city after city, and welcomed friends from around the world with open arms (and open bottles of wine). She traveled widely, from Oklahoma to Paris. She sustained close, deeply meaningful relationships with friends from every part of her life. She remained an intelligent and very funny observer of politics and current events—it was always fun to watch the news with Connie. Wherever she lived, wherever she worked, whoever she was with, she was always her extraordinary self: Warm, wise, encouraging, thoughtful, patient, good-humored. She was well-loved by many, and will be remembered and honored for making the world a better place, in hundreds of ways big and small.