Jack M. Graves

December 12, 1926June 1, 2020

Jack Graves, son of Benton Havely and Davie Sullenburger Graves, was born 12/12/1926 in Morristown TN and died peacefully at home with family by his side on 6/1/2020. He was affectionately called a “double Aggie” (or Agginoid by his Sooner family) attending both Texas A&M and Oklahoma A&M with advanced degrees in Architecture and Engineering. Jack proudly served in the Navy during World War II and was fortunate to fly on Oklahoma’s first Honor Flight. His professional career included partnerships with Gruen Associates (NYC) and Oklahoma firms of Sorey Hill & Sorey; Caudill Rowlett & Scott; Binnicker-Graves; the Benham Group; and ADG. In addition to his design of the Gateway Center in Newark NJ & OKC’s first underground pedestrian concourse, Jack’s projects included the Lloyd Noble Center (Norman); OK School for the Deaf (Sulphur); research laboratories for both OU School of Pharmacy & the US Dept. of Agriculture; HE Bailey & Indian Nations turnpikes; OK Publishing Company’s headquarters; Fifty Penn Place; Jamestown condominiums; and specifications for a million sq. ft. Ford Motor plant in Romeo, MI. His last project serving as the State’s representative on the construction of the OK State Capitol Dome was one of his all-time favorites. Jack served as President/Chairman of the OK Chapter of the American Institute of Architects (AIA), the OKC Section of AIA, Construction Industries Council of OK & State Board of Registration for Engineers & Land Surveyors and as member on numerous professional boards & commissions and after retirement enjoyed giving back through gifts of his time and talent. Jack was married to Rosemary Champlin Graves from 1957 until her untimely death and they were blessed with four children -- Sydney, Claire, Laura & Paul. Almost 45 years ago Jack enrolled his twin daughters at Harding Middle School and met their counselor Susie Davis. He and Susie ran into each other at the OKC Tennis Club a few days later, were married less than a month after their first date and greeted their “first, fifth & last” child David Benton two years later. Predeceased are his parents, brother David Benton & sister Nancy. Jack is survived by his wife Susie Ray Graves; daughters Sydney Carey, Claire McGrath, Laura Zimmerman (Scott); and sons Paul Graves and David Graves; grandchildren Rosemary Clary (Kyle), Hope Palladino (Rob), Mallory McConville, Chip Carey, Jack Graves, Natalie Carey; great grandchildren Grace & Skylar Clary, Havely Graves, & Benton Palladino. Jack served as a deacon and Stephen Minister at Westminster Presbyterian Church where his Memorial service will be held Friday 6/5 at 11am. Please wear a touch of his favorite color yellow. Social distancing will be honored and a mask required. You may also join via live stream. Gifts in Jack’s memory may be made to WPC Foundation ( ) or the Parkinson’s Foundation of OK ( )


  • Benton Havely Graves, Father (deceased)
  • Davie Sullenberger Graves, Mother (deceased)
  • Susan Ray "Susie" Graves, Wife
  • Sydney Carey, Daughter
  • Claire McGrath, Daughter
  • Paul Graves, Son
  • David Graves, Son
  • Jack is also survived by his grandchildren, Rosemary Clary (Kyle), Hope Palladino (Rob), Mallory McConville, Chip Carey, Jack Graves, Natalie Carey and great-grandchildren, Grace & Skylar Clary, Havely Graves and Benton Palladino.


  • Memorial Service

    Friday, June 5, 2020


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Linnie Connor

June 8, 2020

I knew Jack and Rosemary many years ago as a little girl. My sisters and I spent alot if time at there home. We lived behind them. They were both beautiful people that I have never forgotten! Always kind and made us feel at home. I am glad he found happiness and love again after Rosemarys' passing. The world has lost a wonderful man. My thoughts and prayers go out to all of you! Sydney, Claire, Laura and Paul I have never forgotten any of you. You were wonderful friends!

Terence McCain

June 5, 2020

Always the dearest memories of time well spent with all of the Graves kids...

Evan Collins

June 5, 2020

Jack was one of the finest gentlemen I have had the privilege to know, He was kind, wise, totally sincere and a true Christian. It was Juanita and my great good fortune to live next to Jack (and Susie) for a decade and that experience greatly enriched our sojourn in Oklahoma. He will be greatly missed.

Bart Binning

June 4, 2020

Jack always seemed to have a smile, and seemed more interested in knowing what you had been doing. He will be missed.

Kelly Misuraca

June 4, 2020

Always a smile, always a great story, and ALWAYS interested in exactly what was on one’s heart...! A TRUE gentleman and one of my very favorite people to get to know- ever. A huge loss for us, but what a great gain in Heaven..... another someone to look forward to seeing again. My prayers for Susie and the whole family- I know this is a huge loss!

Vladislav Berdnik

June 4, 2020

I am terribly sorry to hear about the passing away of Jack. May God comfort you, and your family. You are in my prayers.

Mariana Verga Lloyd

June 3, 2020

As the former Executive Director of the Oklahoma Chapter AIA, I had the honor to work closely on many AIA events and projects during Jack's year as President. I will never forget the excitement Jack had for the internet. It was the beginning of internet research. His hope was to see the AIA leading the way. He was a great President. We didn't always agree on everything, but his heart was always in the right place. He cared immensely about Art and Architecture and the built environment. You will be missed! Mariana Verga Lloyd

Monica Randall

June 3, 2020

Susie and Sydney-You are in my thoughts and prayers. Jack will be dearly missed. He was such an amazing person and always in high spirits when he came in for his appointments. Lots of love and hugs!!!! Monica