James Darrell Haffner
March 28, 1932 – November 25, 2019
James Darrell Haffner, age 87, passed away on Monday, November 25, 2019, in Norman Veterans Center in Norman, Oklahoma. Darrell was born on March 28, 1932 in Altus, Oklahoma to James Clifton Haffner and Betty Lorene Graves - Haffner. He attended Capitol Hill High School and married the love of his life, Alma Joyce Thompson shortly after graduation. Together they had 4 children Joyce, Jimmy, Ken and Dan. After graduation, Darrell and Alma delayed marriage because they suspected Darrell would be drafted to the army. After months without being drafted Darrell and Alma married. He was drafted two weeks later.
A patriot, Darrell loved his country and honorably served 2 years active duty and 8 years in the reserve where he was the recipient of numerous awards including a medal of good conduct. After being honorably discharged, he worked 27 years in the sheet metal trade before transferring to insurance and investments. He was an avid fisherman, camper, and lover of the outdoors and a devoted OU Sooner football fan. He kept a flourishing garden every year out of necessity, in the early years, and enjoyment in the latter. He also spent many years as a successful golfer winning many tournaments and trophies. He was an exceptional provider for his family and was loved dearly by his wife and children. Darrell was also an active member of the church with a deep seeded faith in God. Darrell was well known for his quick wit and good humor, but more than that, was an honorable, hardworking, Godly man. He was exemplary in the way he lived his life.
Darrell is preceded in death by his wife Alma, his son Jimmy Darrell Haffner; his parents James Clifton Haffner and Betty Lorene (Graves) Haffner as well as three brothers Stanton, Kenny, and Steve Haffner. He will be remembered for his faith, integrity, and sense of humor and his memory will be forever cherished by his children, Joyce Loraine Manis (husband Steve Manis), James Kennon Haffner (wife Rosie) and John Daniel Haffner; his grandchildren, Tanya Michele Shade (husband Kenny), Jeremie Allen Manis, Krystal Nicole Black (husband Tyler), Chris Daniel Haffner, Lindsey Danielle Thomas (husband Justin), Kenberly Ann Williams (husband Junior), Alyssa Meagan Haffner, Ashley Danielle Haffner; many great-grandchildren, as well as, many other family members and countless friends.
The family would like to express their sincere appreciation to the staff at Norman Veterans Center, Frontier Hospice, and Laneigha Shuman for the compassion and exceptional care they provided Darrell and the Haffner family during his final days. Fond memories and expressions of sympathy may be shared below for the Haffner family.
- James Clifton Haffner, Father (deceased)
- Betty Lorene (Graves) Haffner, Mother (deceased)
- Alma Haffner, Wife (deceased)
- Jimmy Darrell Haffner, Son (deceased)
- Stanton Haffner, Brother (deceased)
- Kenny Haffner, Brother (deceased)
- Steve Haffner, Brother (deceased)
- Joyce Loraine Manis, Daughter
- Steve Manis, Son-in-law
- James Kennon Haffner, Son
- Rose Haffner, Daughter-in-law
- John Daniel Haffner, Son
- Tanya Michele Shade, Granddaughter
- Kenny Shade, Grandson-in-law
- Jeremie Allen Manis, Grandson
- Krystal Nicole Black, Granddaughter
- Tyler Black, Grandson-in-law
- Chris Daniel Haffner, Grandson
- Lindsey Danielle Thomas, Granddaughter
- Justin Thomas, Grandson-in-law
- Kenberly Ann Williams, Granddaughter
- Junior Williams, Grandson-in-law
- Alyssa Meagan Haffner, Granddaughter
- Ashley Danielle Haffner, Granddaughter
- Darrell also leaves behind many great-grandchildren, as well as many other family members and countless friends to honor his memory.
- Jeremie Manis
- Brandon Cook
- Justin Thomas
- Junior Williams
- Chris Haffner
- Aaron O'Dell
- Visitation Friday, November 29, 2019
- Funeral Service Saturday, November 30, 2019
James Darrell Haffner
December 1, 2019
Sorry to hear of Darrell's passing. I met Darrell about 1980. He helped me learn about insurance products and guided me to getting my insurance license. Darrell also helped me set up my first IRA. I still remember many of the tips that he gave me to this day. I regret I can't thank him in person. The obituary picture is the Darrell I knew. Thank you sir.
Wayne and Kathy Fagala
November 29, 2019
Dear Joyce and Steve and family,
We just learned of your fathers passing...never an easy thing to let a parent go. Please know that our thoughts and prayers and love are with you, especially during this holiday and birthday season. May Holy Spirit truly be your comforter...
Wayne and Kathy
November 27, 2019
First I would like to thank you for sharing this incredible man with me. I spent so much time listening to his stories about each of you. He worried constantly about where you were and if you had all you needed. He wanted to remain able to provide for you.
Joyce, he talked about bringing you home from Alaska. He couldn’t wait to get you home so you could be with Alma’s mom. I think you were always his little girl. He thought the world 🌍 of you and Steve. He told me about your big two story house.
Rosie & Ken you guys were a joy. Rosie’s cooking, Ken’s way with making things. He told me many times Rosie made the blanket he sat with on his chair. He loved his blanket.
Dan, I have more than I can write here but he wanted you to be safe. He loved you and knew you were taking care of him.
Memories - I have so many crazy fun stories. He was constantly trying to sneak up on me while I cooked to see if he could get me to jump.
He loved to sing Hank Williams Jr songs to me. Many days we didn’t watch TV we just listened to music and sung. He liked playing cards.
He liked being at the lake, a cabin with a cool breeze blowing in.
He told me about the 34 pound catfish that fed the whole camp so many times.
John Wayne movies by the dozen 🤣
But mostly he loved to eat.
He worried that my feet were cold. He would always get me a blanket no matter if I was cold or not.
He was a gentleman in ever way.
I will always be thankful for him. And do my best at taking care of my residents in his honor. He taught me well.