Frederick W. Brumder

September 22, 1943December 4, 2012

East Haddam- Frederick W. Brumder, 69, of Three Bridges Rd. and Miami Beach, FL, died at his residence on December 4, 2012. Born in Milwaukee, WI, he was the son of the late Edward J. and Marion Brumder. After graduation from Cornell University, Mr. Brumder began an extensive career in international private banking. He was the founder and president of Three Bridges Group, LLC.

Mr. Brumder is survived by his partner, K. Mac Thames of East Haddam, a sister, Anne McKinney of Portland, OR and a brother, E.J. Brumder of Milwaukee, WI.

A memorial service will be held on Thursday, December 20, at 1:30 pm in St. Ann’s Episcopal Church, 82 Shore Road, Old Lyme, CT 06371. Interment will be held in Forrest Home Cemetery in Milwaukee at a later date.

In lieu of flowers, contributions may be made to the Dana Farber Cancer Institute, 1309 Beacon St. Brookline, MA 02146. Please visit for photos, tributes, directions and more service information.


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Beth Casey

March 2, 2013

Dear Mac,
There isn't a day that goes by that I don't think of something Fred taught me.
Do one thing at a time, so things never get messy. Use the good napkins and placemats even for yourself. Take time to do more than watch Bloomberg and CNBC. Wake up in the morning and give belly rubs to my dog to make my day right. Laughing and smilng a lot=fewer frown lines.
If I miss Fred this much, Mac, it must be so terrible for you.
Know that you are both in my daily prayers. Love, Beth and Lucy

January 10, 2013

Dear Mac,

We would like to express our deepest sympathies for your loss. We had been fortunate to reconnect with Fred in recent months, and will certainly miss his ever-present laughter and positive nature. Our thoughts and prayers are with you and his family.

Dolfo & Inday del Rosario
and family
Manila, Philippines

Daniel M Schiavone

December 20, 2012

Mac, I am deeply saddened to here of the loss of Fred. My thoughts and prayers are with you, Fred and his family, may he rest in peace.

December 20, 2012

Dear Mac and EJ,
After a long intermission Fred called out of the blue about 10 years ago to wish me a happy birthday and revisit times past. He had uncovered a photo taken during our travels on a ship from Norway to England the summer after my senior year in high school (his junior year). Earlier that summer we had met briefly in southern Germany. Caught up in conversation, I neglected to keep tabs on a tub I was filling and it overflowed flooding the dining room below. Needless to say we were the talk at everyone's breakfast table with much finger pointing. As always his character-istic laugh and humor flew thru the phone lines and the intervening years dropped away.

After his phone call we had several opportunities to see Fred and both of you. We are thankful for those shared times and memories, especially now. We send our love.

Liz (and Roger) Peirce

Beth Casey

December 20, 2012

Dearest Mac,
As always, my love and prayers are with you both. Fred taught me so much and was so much more than just a friend. He truly touched my life. You are my Macadoodle and Fred will always be my Pappa Fritz. As so many others, I am blessed to have known Fred. My gracious mentor and the man of a million smiles,,,,,,,,,,,,,the happiest birthday of my life, so many wonderful life lessons...................
I am here for you dear Mac, always. I will have a Mass said here for celebration of his life.
God bless you Mac.
Beth Casey (Palm Beach Gardens, FL)

Michael M. Moody

December 14, 2012

Dear Mac, I can not tell you how incredably saddened I was to hear of Fred's passing. Fortunately, I was able to have a long talk with him on Dec.3rd. Although my "professional" relationship with Fred extended over 20+years, I also had a very close personal friendship with him do to his genuine kind/caring/funny personality. He will be sincerely and deeply missed. My thoughts and prayers are with both you and Fred's family, and am so sorry, I will not be able to attend the Dec. 20th service. However, as it turns out, i do have a surrogate, as I am an old friend of the good Reverend Mark Robinson.
With warmest and deepest condolences, Michael M. Moody

Carol Carpenter

December 12, 2012


How very sorry I am. I think it would be very hard to lose a sibling.

Carol Carpenter


December 11, 2012


Thanks to Lois, our paths crossed on this life journey. You and Fred, always the ultimate, gracious hosts, spreading laughter, warmth and fun among everyone on all occasions. Let this continue, honoring the man who was loved by so many. My heart is filled with thoughts of Fred--a life well lived. Queenie

Tom and Lynn

December 10, 2012

I will never forget your Smile, Laughter and Wonderful Humor. The world has lost a Happy Fun-Loving Human who will be sorely missed. Lynn and I wish you much
Happiness and Joy in your new travels as we wish Mac great Strength and our Love in his new Travels. Our Thoughts are with you all.


December 10, 2012

Dear Mac, We are so sorry to hear of Cousin Fred's passing. We will remember his insatiable sense of humor and love for life. We thank you for your love and dedication to each other and encourage you to visit Pine Lake at any time. You have been a true friend and companion to Freddie for these many years. Both of you are in our prayers.
May God bless you for all you have given to your life together.
With Love Katie and Charlie