Tyler Paul Carnese

March 22, 1994October 18, 2020

Please view the video recording of the Celebration of Life held Saturday October 24, 2020 by clicking the "VIEW VIDEO" tab below.

Due to the pandemic and to reduce the risk of any COVID-19 spread, Tyler's family regrets that it will not be able to offer food and refreshments at either the calling hours or Tyler's Celebration of Life Services, except water on Saturday. We thank all attendees for understanding our need to minimize the possibility of any transmission. Please plan accordingly.

OLD LYME, CT. With the deepest sorrow, we announce that our beloved son, brother, family member, friend and bright spirit, Tyler Paul Carnese died suddenly in the early morning hours of Sunday, October 18, 2020 while at Yale New Haven Hospital from an extremely aggressive and undiagnosed form of leukemia with family by his side. Tyler was born on March 22, 1994 in New London, the son of Gregory P. Carnese and Dawn Hellier and younger brother of Christopher Ryan Carnese. He attended Old Lyme schools and was a graduate of Roger Williams University (“RWU”) in Bristol, RI. Tyler was wonderfully unique, caring, creative and kind. He was passionate and sensitive about personal and global injustice and cared deeply for the environment. Spending time with family and close friends in the Berkshires, Maine and Vermont, fishing and being out in nature were his favorite pastimes. He loved music and while at RWU, worked DJ gigs with his brother. His tragic passing at the age of 26 did not allow him to fulfill the dreams and desires he had for his future. We miss his quirkiness, his smile, his hugs, his ability to make us all laugh already and he will remain forever in our hearts. Feeling the loss of this beautiful soul are his brother, Christopher Carnese, his mother Dawn Hellier and her partner, Tom, father Gregory P. Carnese and stepmother Shannon Carnese, his maternal grandparents John R. and Susan Hellier and JoAnn H. and Peter Heinz, his step grandmother Eleanor Osbourne Carnese, step grandfather William Perzan and his large extended family and dear friends. We know Tyler is now with his paternal grandparents, Paul J. Carnese and Caroline Carnese, his step grandmother Elizabeth Perzan, his fellow fishing group member James Bogdanoff and his beloved cat Mia. Tyler’s family extends their heartfelt thanks to the health care professionals at Westerly Hospital and Yale New Haven Hospital for their efforts, empathy and professionalism.

Calling Hours will be held on Friday, October 23, 2020 from 3:00 until 7:00pm in Fulton-Theroux Funeral Home, 13 Beckwith Ln., Old Lyme, CT. A Celebration of Tyler’s life will be held on Saturday, October 24, 2020 at 2:00pm at Tiffany Farms, Sterling City Rd., Lyme, CT. Tyler's family invites everyone to participate in Saturday's service whether to share a memory of Tyler, provide a reading or offer some other tribute to him. For all services please wear a mask and abide by social distancing and all COVID-19 guidelines. Please visit for photos, directions and online guestbook. Random acts of kindness, personal actions or monetary donations which support caring for our environment or pet adoption in Tyler's memory would be appreciated in lieu of flowers.



  • Calling Hours

    Friday, October 23, 2020

  • Celebration of Life

    Saturday, October 24, 2020


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Robin Eising

November 2, 2020

Dearest Dawn ,
Although Mom , Dad and I hadn’t had the pleasure of seeing Tyler except as a little boy we are entirely heartbroken about his passing . He seemed like such a vital , compassionate and caring young man , something that doesn’t surprise us coming from an incredibly loving multi generational family that we so blessed are linked to us .
On Tyler ‘s behalf and his love for animals we made a contribution to The Pet Connection in order for them to continue to perpetuate the caring and nurturing of animals there in Old Lyme .
Sending you much love and comfort during this extremely tough time .
Robin, Peter & Sharlee Eising

Alejandro Treviño

October 24, 2020

Even though I only saw them a few times when they were little, Tyler and Christopher are very special to me. One afternoon when Tyler was little, I took him with me to a quick run to Home Depot. To make sure he was safe, I placed him inside the large section of the cart. He was small, 3, 4 or 5 years old. I went straight into the ‘Power Tools’ section of the store so I can get what I needed and get back to Dawn and Gina. As I pushed the car towards the end of the power tools section, the six or seven rugged-biker-like individuals that were there browsing around for tools, did not give us the time of day. All the better. I was on a mission and no one seemed to be the talkative type. The room was silent. Everyone kept their distance like lions do when marking territory. Suddenly Tyler asked me, can I have a saw? The high pitched voice of this innocent boy filled the room and, like an invisible power tool, it melted all territory markings. All the rugged and unfriendly-looking individuals proceeded to give me firm arguments as to why this child should get the saw he was asking for. Get him this one, it has a safety lock. No, that one is too big, get him this one, it’s smaller. No, get him that one over there. Oh come on, just get the kid a saw, this one here is red. Etc. Etc. Needless to say I didn’t get Tyler any power tool, but that little incident has been a never-ending source of smiles and laughter for Dawn, Gina and myself ever since. The power this little boy has to unite even the most unlikely individuals was palpable then, as it is now. Dear boy, please keep uniting us all in love and friendship from wherever you are. The world still needs your super power.

Denise Lang

October 24, 2020

My dearest brother Greg, Shannon, Christopher and Dawn,

As we celebrate Tyler's life today, know that you are all surrounded by the embracing love of family and friends, both near and far. We will always remember and miss Tyler's smile, his joyful laugh, his wonderful bear hugs, his crazy dance moves, his funny shirts, and mostly his unconditional love for us all. When I see a butterfly dancing among the flowers, I will think of Tyler, and smile.

With our deepest love and sympathy, and big bear hugs,
Denise and Rich Lang

Carol and Bill Ban

October 24, 2020

Dear Greg, Shannon, Dawn, Chris and the entire Carnese family,
We are deeply sorry for the loss of your beautiful child, brother, cousin, nephew. There are no words for this unimaginable loss. May all the love you have for each other, along with your many friends, comfort and console you and help you heal. We are thinking of you, you’re in our hearts, and we send prayers to all of you.
With love,
The Ban Family

Anita Perry

October 23, 2020

Greg, Shannon, Dawn and Christopher, our hearts are broken for all of you. We will always remember Tyler for his huge, warm hugs and fun personality, especially up in Saratoga! We love you, and will keep you all in our prayers. Love, Anita and Tom

Mary Beth Schreindorfer

October 23, 2020

Tyler was a student of mine who lit up the room and made everyone laugh down to their toes. He was a joy and always brought a smile to my face. I was so sad to hear of his passing.
Sending thoughts and prayers.
Mary Beth Schreindorfer
Lyme-Old Lyme HS

Barb O’Leary

October 23, 2020

My thoughts and prayers are with all of the Carnese family. Tyler was such a joy to teach and coach at LOLHS- always a pleasure to be around - He would light up the room with his smile. Special hugs to Chris- you two were always such good friends and had such a special bond.
May the many happy memories of Tyler help you get through this difficult time.
Love to all the family❤️❤️❤️
Mrs O’Leary

Steve and Ruth Dube

October 23, 2020

Greg, Shannon, Chris and the entire Carnese Family.
We are devastated and shocked at the untimely passing of Tyler. Please know that our thoughts and prayers are with you at this time and forevermore.
With all our love.
Ruth and Steve Dube

Janet Feldman

October 23, 2020

Greg & entire Carnese family: our hearts go out to you on learning of Tyler's passing. We send our deepest sympathy and hope that your wonderful memories will ease your pain in time. May prayers comfort everyone. Our condolences and love. Janet & Marty Feldman

Bobbie Seebeck

October 22, 2020

Greg.....You have my heartfelt sympathy in the loss of your son.
I will keep him and you and your family in my prayers
Sincerely, Bobbie Seebeck


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