Betty L Spash

May 16, 1943October 25, 2018

Betty Spash, age 75, wife of Bruce Spash, of Westbrook, CT, passed away on October 25, 2018 at Yale New Haven Hospital after a long illness with her family by her side. Betty was born on May 16, 1943 in Norwalk, CT, to the late Charles and Maud Beach Varian. Prior to marriage Betty previously resided in Norwalk, CT, where she attended and graduated from Norwalk High School. Betty married Bruce Spash in 1963 and they made their home in Westbrook, CT, where she was a parishioner at Westbrook Congregational Church. She was a wife and mother who cherished time spent with her family. Betty devoted her life to staying home and raising her five children. A lighthearted women, she had a loving and gentle nature with a great sense of humor. She will be most remembered for taking care of 105 foster children. In addition to her husband Bruce, she is survived by her two sons; Richard Spash and his wife Elizabeth Fernandes and Robert Spash; three daughters; Lisa, Kaitlyn and Elizabeth Spash; grandchildren; Harmony, Keylanna, “RJ”, Gabriela and Adriana; as well as her special pets; Prickers, Butter Cup and Noel. Betty’s family would like to express their deep gratitude to the staff at Yale New Haven Hospital for their wonderful care along with the family and friends who showed many acts of kindness and support during her illness. A celebration of Betty's life will take place on Friday, November 2, 2018 from 5 p.m - 8 p.m. in the Swan Funeral Home, 1224 Boston Post Road, Old Saybrook, CT. To leave an online condolence please visit our website at


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Rita Lafemina

November 16, 2018

Betty (mom) took me in when i was 15 and pregnant before then i was in hospitals and a number of foster homes she was an amazing woman who taught me what un conditional love was she was and always will be my second mother i love and miss u mom

Heather Daniels

November 13, 2018

Betty, you were an angel on earth for the children you took into your home and loved. Rest in heavenly peace.

Liz Daniels

November 2, 2018

I met Betty when I was a young child as I was friends with her daughter Kaitlyn. She was always very kind. She was the kind of mother to make you feel welcomed and comfortable in her home and it meant alot to me. My deepest sympathies to her husband and children. She will be greatly missed by many. Rest in peace Betty.

Sharon Shuford

November 1, 2018

I only know of Betty through the eyes of Elizabeth. I can tell she was a very warm, loving and caring person, and especially a wonderful Mother. I know she touched the hearts of many and had a positive effect on their lives. My heartfelt sympathies are extended to my dearest friend Elizabeth and her entire family. I know of no words that can help at this time. But know she has served well here and is now resting with God. Through your memories, she will always be with you. With God’s Love, Sharon

Natalie Slater

October 31, 2018

Betty was one of the good ones. She was one of the most kind, wonderful, and loving person you could ever meet. She was awesome and I will miss her so much.
Much love goes with you
Much love remains behind
Much love will be remembered
Until the end of time.

Lisa Spash

October 30, 2018

My mom took me in at 6 days old and she has been the best mom a girl could ask for I miss you everyday mommy and I love you with all my heart i know you are watching over us I love you so much mommy

Angela Bertelli

October 30, 2018

Words can't describe what Betty meant to me. She was a very special person who cared for everyone. Betty took me in when I hit rock bottom and gave me hope and always told me it gets better. She was a second mother to me and a grandmother to my children Alex and Hailey who will miss her dearly. Even though she is gone to be in heaven she will always be with us to make sure we are ok. We love you mama Betty and we will keep you alive with the great memories we have made with you. RIP sweet angel.💕💔

Allison Newcomb

October 30, 2018

Betty was a very special person in my life. I’ve known Kate for 10+ years and me & Betty hit it off right off the bat. The Spash’s became my second family. Betty was a mother figure to me and always will. I miss her dearly. She took me in like her own daughter and I could never thank her enough. She did so much for me. Her passing has broken my heart and I can’t imagine life without her. I love her so much. Thank you for everything. 💕

Kaitlyn Spash

October 30, 2018

She was the greatest mother ever. Mom I will miss you so much. You took me in and didn't even have to. You are and always will be my hero. I'm blessed to have had you in my life.

Rosetta Johnson

October 30, 2018

I could never thank betty enough for adopting my two grandaughter and raising them in a home filled with love she was one in a million and will forever have a place in my ❤ you are a special angel rest well and fly high