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Dr. H. Wayne Carver II

February 21, 1952December 26, 2019
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Dr. H. Wayne Carver, II, of Old Saybrook, passed away on December 26, 2019.

He was born on February 21, 1952, in St. Louis, MO, the son of Frank B. Carver and Marilyn Mesloh Carver.

Wayne discovered a passion for science and music at an early age. He received both his undergraduate and medical degrees from Brown University, where he was the drum major of the marching band and played in 3 orchestras. It was at Brown that he met the love of his life, Deborah DeHertogh, M.D., in anatomy class. He did his forensic training at the Cook County Medical Examiner’s Office in Chicago. He went on to become the Chief Medical Examiner of the State of Connecticut, and served with distinction for 24 years. He strove to be impartial to both the prosecution and defense when called to testify, while always showing care and compassion to families in their time of need. Wayne was incredibly devoted to his wife, his sons, his sister, his family, and his friends. His sense of humor, themed Hawaiian shirts, passion for cooking, and oversized personality will always be fondly remembered. Truly a life well-lived.

Dr. Carver is survived by his beloved wife of 44 years Deborah DeHertogh; sons James Carver of Old Saybrook, and Robert Carver of Milwaukee; sister Frances Young of New Hope, PA; and his cousin Aldred Hellmich of Webster Groves, MO. He is also survived by numerous nieces, nephews, and in-laws.

Calling hours will be held on Friday, January 3rd from 4 to 7 pm at Swan Funeral Home in Old Saybrook. The burial will be private. A memorial service will be planned at a later date. In lieu of flowers, memorial contributions may be made to Sandy Hook Promise (SandyHookPromise.org).

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    Friday, January 3, 2020

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Kyla Petit

October 15, 2020

I know it’s been a lot of years but I was thinking of Dr. Carver and did a search for him and found that he had passed all these years ago. I remember getting to know him at my father’s trial when Dad was killed. He was so kind to me. Again, many years ago when my nieces and sister in law were killed in Cheshire, CT, I saw him and was so moved at his presence. He remembered my Dad and assured me that he had and would take good care of my current family. He did. I was so deeply moved, again and felt very safe in his compassionate, safe hands. He wasn’t a behind the scenes Medical Examiner. He was a wonderful human being and I am sending my condolences these many years later. I just wanted his family to know that he mattered, so much. God bless his soul and your family.

Kozi (Claudette) Kosinski

January 5, 2020

Rest in peace Doc. We spent many mornings together in Farmington and your sense of humor, knowledge and compassion made your one of the best. I learned so much from you and I passed that knowledge along to my brothers and sisters at HPD as well as others throughout my career. You were a kind soul and I will miss you!!

John Carmon

January 4, 2020

Wayne and I worked closely for all his years with the Medical Examiners office and his compassion and professionalism were a model for his profession. I was privileged to do seminars for his staff about the importance of caring for both the deceased in their care as well as their families. As a funeral director I could call him with difficult situations and he always responded with care and grace. We also worked together for Avon Dollars for Scholars and he found time to support community events. My sincerest condolences to his family and my promise for continued prayers for you and Wayne. It was an honor and privilege to have his friendship.
John C Carmon , President of Carmon Funeral Homes, and Past President of the National Funeral Directors Association.

Chaim Gewirtzman

January 3, 2020

This past week I lost a mentor and a true leader. Approximately 15 years ago after moving to Connecticut, I met Dr. Wayne Carver, the Chief Medical Examiner of Connecticut, as a part of a delegation representing the Jewish community. My group had arraigned to meet Dr. Carver to explain and discuss Jewish customs pertaining to end of life and death. Dr Carver's care, compassion, sensitivity and respect to families during their most difficult times is something I will never forget. Over the years and with my appointments as a Connecticut State Police Chaplain and a Supervisor of Chesed Shel Emes my interactions with Dr. Carver would increase, no matter the time of day, Dr. Carver made himself and his office available and would go above and beyond as he was sensitive to the Jewish laws. Dr Carver exemplified Kovod Hameis and the truest act of kindness, the kindness that can never be repaid, Chesed Shel Emes, the kindness and respect to the body after death. I will always remember Dr. Carver and those lessons I learned from him throughout the years. I strive to have the same care, compassion, sensitivity, and respect for fellow man as he did.

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FROM THE FAMILY

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Visit with Dutch cousins

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At Ally's Wedding - 2019

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Wayne with his "grand-dog" Lucy

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Aldred's birthday celebration in Mackinaw Island - 2019

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Aldred's birthday celebration in Mackinaw Island - 2019

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Baby Wayne and his Dad

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