OBITUARY
Jeffery Paul DeVito
April 17, 1979 – December 20, 2012
Jeffery P. DeVito, 33, of Warwick, RI passed away unexpectedly on Thursday, December 20, 2012. Jeff is survived by his parents, Pat and Pattie DeVito of Portsmouth, NH, his sister and brother in law, Melissa and Chris Alekna of Richmond, RI and his partner, Steve Ryan and their dog, Gunney of Warwick, RI. He also leaves behind his Aunt Mary, Uncle Arthur, Cousins Alex and Becky of PA and his Aunt Margaret and cousin Steven of MA. Jeff was a talented artist and a licensed cosmetologist and barber who had worked in several Rhode Island salons. He loved to cook and tell stories. His smile was huge, his laugh was infectious and his big brown eyes were warm and loving. Jeff will be truly missed and is loved with all of our hearts and souls. A wake will be held at Swan Funeral Home, 1224 Boston Post Road, Old Saybrook, CT on Thursday, December 27, 2012 from 5-8pm. A short service will be held immediately following the wake. Please visit www.swanfuneralhomeoldsaybrook.com to leave an online tribute or condolence.
Services
- Visitation Thursday, December 27, 2012
- Funeral Service Thursday, December 27, 2012
REMEMBERING
Jeffery Paul DeVito
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January 23, 2013
I had not seen Jeff since high school, however was deeply shocked and saddened when I just heard of his passing. My thoughts and sympathies go out to his family and loved ones.
January 22, 2013
Pat & Pattie,
My deepest sympathy ~ may you find strength thru faith, family & friends. ~ Hold tight to your fond memories of Jeff ~
Diane J.C. Bertozzi
Dave Condit
January 22, 2013
Mr. and Mrs. DeVito, and Melissa,
Please accept my deepest sympathies for your loss. Words cannot describe the sadness I feel in learning of this. You all were like a second family to me when we were kids and Jeff was like a brother. Growing up sometimes means drifting apart as life takes us on different journeys. Sadly for Jeff and I, this was the case. However, in the years we spent joined at the hip, he had a huge impact on my life; he picked me up when I was down, and helped me laugh when I could not. That is just the nice kind of kid he was. Now, as an adult, I think of those times often and I will hold on the wonderful memories we shared forever.
You have my thoughts, prayers and love
Anthony Mitchell
January 18, 2013
DeVito Family, please accept my love and deep sympathy and condolences for Jeff. He was such a compassionate, courageous, funny, kind-hearted, self-sacrificing and just plain outstanding guy. His humble and happy spirit will never ever be forgotten in my heart. We will miss him very, very much. I know Jeff will truly be safe in God's memory until He brings him back to life to enjoy perfect health and youthful vigor forever in His coming paradise on earth very soon!
Anonymous
January 10, 2013
May you fly with the angels. God bless you.
January 9, 2013
i am so sorry for your loss. May God bless you all in these hard times.
Gary DeGostin
January 5, 2013
Dear Pat, Patty and Melissa,
I just heard about Jeff. I am so very sorry for your loss. Losing a child and a brother so young must be just heartbreaking. Please know that you are in our thoughts and prayers.
Gary, Charlotte, Matt and Lorraine DeGostin
Diana Crowley
January 5, 2013
Dear Pat and Family,
Please accept my most sincere condolences on the passing of your son Jeff. May your family, friends and memories sustain you at this difficult time.
With Deepest Sympathy,
January 4, 2013
Our thoughts and prayers are with the family and friends of Jeff.
From his family and friends from Empire Beauty School. He will be sadly missed.
John and Rosalie Oswald
January 3, 2013
Dear Pat and Pattie, we are so sad to hear about the loss of Jeff. Our thoughts are with you and your family.
Carina Using
January 1, 2013
Jeff will be missed by all of us and we will continue to carry with us the memory of his strength and bravery in the face of adversity. He was kind to everyone and accepting of all. His loss is a loss to the family, his friends, anyone he touched, his community, and to the world which needs more people like him, not less.
December 31, 2012
Dear Pat, Pattie & Melissa I am so saddened to hear about your loss, I will always remember him coming into get his haircut with Brenda he was such a great kid, My thoughts and prayers are with you. Sincerely Mona Caruso
Pattie Murphy
December 30, 2012
Dear Pattie,
I have not seen you or talked to you in many, many years. I just wanted to extend my sympathy to you and your family.
Austen Bourassa
December 30, 2012
My deepest sympathy to all of you. I know there are hardly words to express the hole left by the loss of Jeff. I hope you can one day take comfort in knowing that he was well-loved and inspired many people.
Paula Sommers
December 29, 2012
Dear Pattie and Pat and Mary and all your family, I am thinking of you and praying for you.
Becky
December 29, 2012
Jeff loved you all so much. Jeff always made me laugh and smile and I looked up to his free spirit and positive outlook. I wanted to talk to him more often but always put it off for stupid reasons. Please know that I love my entire family very much and will do anything to show my love and support in the wake of this loss. I love you all-- your little cousin
Harold & Janice Hebert
December 28, 2012
Dearest Patti & Pat,
We really do not have any words to describe our shock and sadness for your loss. Please know that you are in our thoughts and prayers during this most difficult time.
With sincere sympathy,
Harold & Janice
Cassandra Tribe
December 28, 2012
I am sorry for your loss. I met Jeff several years ago when he worked at a local cafe and his spirit and life made a lasting impression on me. My condolences.
December 28, 2012
rest in peace jeffery
Bruce and Mary Hart
December 28, 2012
We remember when Jeff was born, then playing with Stacy, and all through school. He was always kind and respectful. Pat, Pattie, Melissa and family, we can't tell you how sorry we are about Jeff's passing so young. May you find peace and comfort in your memories and may he rest in peace.
John CIOE
December 28, 2012
SO SAD AND UPSETTING, ALTHOUGH I HAVE NOT SEEN HIM IN A LONG WHILE, HE WILL BE MISSED. HE HAD A FANTASTIC SMILE AND GREAT HUMOR. SYMPATHY TO HIS FAMILY & ALL WHO KNEW THIS WONDERFUL MAN
Peter Deffet
December 28, 2012
I was so, so sorry to hear of Jeff's passing. He always had a smile and a kind word for any and all and he will truly be missed by many in Rhode Island. Our thoughts are with you, his family, in your grief.
Peter Deffet & Michael Watson
Kathy Broderick
December 28, 2012
I remember Jeff as a wonderful student. I am so sorry to hear of your loss. The thoughts and prayers of many are with you at this time of sorrow.
December 28, 2012
Melissa, I am sooo sorry for your loss.... My prayers are with you and your family at this time.
Marci
Stacy Hart Talamo
December 28, 2012
Born only six weeks apart, Jeff and I grew up across the street from one another. He was my first childhood friend...from playgroup to high school classes, I will forever remember Jeff as a sweet, kind, and gentle soul. My deepest sympathies to his family; may you find peace and comfort in your memories.
December 28, 2012
Pat and Pattie, I am so sad to learn of Jeff's passing and add my condolences to the many that have been expressed here. Hugs to you and Pattie. Janet Carroll Cranston, RI
John & Donna Boulmetis
December 28, 2012
Pat, Pattie & Lissa, We just learned about Jeff's passing and are filled with grief and shock. We are so sorry for your loss. We remember Jeff as a child and young man who was friendly, loving and respectful. Please accept our deepest sympathy. Our thoughts and prayers are with Jeff and you. John & Donna
Paula Faber
December 28, 2012
Dear Pattie, Pat and Melissa,
My heart goes out to you for your loss of this beautiful, young man. I have very vivid memories of Jeff in his baseball uniform, such a sweet little boy. May the love and support of friends and family help and sustain you through this difficult time.
Mary Ann Cionfolo
December 27, 2012
Dear Pat, Pattie and Melissa,
My deepest sympathy in the loss of your son and brother. There are no adequate words to express my sincere sorrow for you. Please be assured that you and your family are in my thoughts and prayers..
Terry Koussa
December 27, 2012
Dear Pat & Pattie-
Sorry to hear about our loss. Seeing the pictures of jeffrey- he really grew up into a fine young man. With deepest sympathy.
Terry Tudan Koussa
Mary Ellen Sacco
December 27, 2012
Dear Pat, Pattie, and Melissa--We are so so sad--please accept our sincere condolences. Wish we could hug you--love, Mary Ellen Sacco and Harold Kemble
Susan Marrinan-Carlson
December 27, 2012
Pat, Patti, Melissa and Steve, I was so shocked and saddened by the news of Jeffrey's passing. I babysat he and Melissa often and have some great memories of baking cookies and playing in the yard. He was such a happy young boy with a smile that lit up his face. My thoughts and prayers are with you all. God bless.
December 27, 2012
Dear Pat & Pattie, Words cannot adequately capture the sorrow we feel for your great loss. May your faith, family and friends sustain you and your treasured memories support you. Our hearts and prayers are with you. Love, Ron & Janice Baker
December 27, 2012
Dear Patti, Pat and all the rest of your wonderful family. There certainly are no wise words of wisdom at this time, but my most very deepest sympathies to you. He is now an angel looking over you and loving you very deeply. With strong love and strength. Judy Glass and Henry
Kathy & Rene Lapierre
December 27, 2012
Our deepest sympathy to Pat, Pattie, and Melissa for such a great loss. Our thoughts and prayers are with you during this difficult time.
December 27, 2012
Pat and Pattie,
Our thoughts are with you at this difficult time. We never had a chance to meet Jeff but your love for him and pride in him were always evident. Our deepest condolences on your loss.
Martha and Ray Rodon (Durham, NH)
Daniel Leone
December 27, 2012
Pat and Patty, I am so very sorry, please accept my condolences. I am shocked and saddend I noticed the posting from Steve Govoni. I love you guys.
December 27, 2012
Pat and Pattie,
I am so sorry to read of Jeff's passing. You are in my thoughts and prayers.
Lorna DiGiorgio
Todd Brown
December 27, 2012
Jeff, you were the bestest friend a guy could ask for. I will truly miss our days hanging out, cleaning the apartment with you blasting the radio singing to your hearts content, or watching Family Fued laughing @ Steve Harvey. We always had fun times, I will never forget!! Hugs bud, safe travels. ~Todd
December 27, 2012
Sincere condolences for your loss. May your love and memories bring you comfort in the coming weeks and months.
Rhonda Mahoney
December 27, 2012
Mr & Mrs DeVito and Melissa,
Jeff was one of the most positive, loving, and accepting friends I've ever had, and his beautiful laughter is a sound that I will never forget. I am just so incredibly glad that he was a part of my life, and I take comfort in the great memories I have with him. My heart goes out to you all in this unbelievably difficult time.
December 26, 2012
I am so sorry for the loss of your loved one. Please find peace and comfort in Psalms 65:2.
Steve
December 26, 2012
Jeff
I wish I could tell you just one time how much I will miss you. Our house feels empty without you and Gunney is still waiting by the door for you to come home. I am very sad and I love you very much. The times we spent together were the best times and it is just too soon to say goodbye. Your smile, your laugh, your stories and kind heart are in my memories and with me forever. I love you ~
Laura Howe Cropper
December 26, 2012
With deepest sympathy and compassion, I am so sorry for your loss.
David Kaletski
December 26, 2012
I am so saddened to hear of Jeff's passing. Jeff was an old childhood friend and we had so many fun memories as kids. Please know your family is in my thoughts and prayers during this hard time. God Bless.
Dona and John Manuck
December 26, 2012
May God give you the strength you will need at this time. Know that we are keeping all of you in our thoughts and prayers. Jeff had such a great smile....wonderful pictures posted....hang on to those great memories.
Heather Sischo
December 26, 2012
I consider myself very lucky to have met Jeff a couple years ago and become friends with him through Steve. He was always so open hearted and comforting and the two of them were so fun to be around. His laugh always made me smile and would keep me so enticed in all his stories. Jeff thanks for the great meals and awesome memories my friend. Rest in peace~
Jeny k.
December 26, 2012
Melissa,
Your brother had a way to make me smile through my tears and his hugs made me forget me worries. He was a great friend and the best roomie a girl could ask for. My thoughts are with you and your family at this time. I will miss him very much.
Erin Hannon Reslow
December 26, 2012
I am so very sorry to hear of Jeff's passing. I will never forget what a kind hearted and passionately creative young man he was. Praying you find peace and comfort through love and memories.
Pat Ross
December 26, 2012
Dear Pat and Pattie: My heart aches for you and your family. I wish you peace and fond memories.
Stephanie Ryan Cole
December 26, 2012
"May the road rise to meet you,
May the wind be always at your back,
May the sun shine upon your face,
The rain fall soft upon your fields and,
Until we meet again,
May God hold you in the palm of His hand."
XOX
Stephanie Ryan Cole
December 26, 2012
There are no words to express how deeply sad we are all feeling. Jeff was a part of our family. Memories of his laugh & great stories will be with us always.
Love, Steph, Linda, Allie, Kassie & Jordan
Joe Bifulco & Mike Crane
December 26, 2012
It is difficult to express how sad we are to learn of Jeff's passing. We knew Jeff from his time at Reflections Cafe. His cheerful smile and friendly manner always raised our spirits. He was a likable lovable guy, and we always looked forward to seeing him. Our sincerest sympathy to his partner and family. We loved him.
December 26, 2012
To Pat and Pattie: Our deepest sympathy and sincere condolences. May he rest in peace.
Mark Dupuis
Cathy Sarault
December 26, 2012
To Pat, Patti and Melissa,
We were shocked to read of Jeff's death. Please know that you are in our thoughts and prayers at this time of sorrow. He will be missed---may he rest in peace! Marie and Guy DiBiasio , East Greenwich, Rhode Island
Nick Hieter and Andrea Bowker
December 26, 2012
Our hearts are with you all in this difficult time.
Terry Nuccio
December 26, 2012
Memmories of an adorable little boy, with an amazing personality, sitting at the dinner table will remain with me forever. Rest in peace,Jeff.
Tim Crockett
December 26, 2012
Dear Pat and Pattie,
My thoughts are with you. Please take solace and comfort knowing that there are many of us who are with you in spirit during this very difficult time.
Todd K. Brown
December 26, 2012
My condolences to the DeVitos, Aleknas and the rest of his family...Jeffery has been one of the most important people in my life. He was a wonderful friend who NEVER judged me nomatter how crazy i might get sometimes. Always willing to help in any situation, even if it wasn't necessarilly something he felt like doing. Jeff loved people unconditionally, was willing to go the extra mile to make someone happy and could do so sometimes just by laughing in that deep chuckle. I am going to miss him as much as i would family, because to me, Jeff was family. Bye buddy, i love you and will miss you.
Melissa Alekna (DeVito)
December 25, 2012
I will always love you my sweet baby brother. You are my heart. I love you ... May you rest in peace, Jiffy Pop. Love, Liss
Mary Dublin
December 25, 2012
I will miss Jeff's smile and laugh. He was such a genuine person. That openness was part of his charm but often made life and relationships hard for him. I am so glad he met Steve. Jeff seemed contented with their shared life. We will all sadly miss him.
Jen & Alex Dublin
December 25, 2012
Rest in peace
Maggie Baez
December 25, 2012
Ahh Jeff... I'm going to miss your laugh.. you were such a sweet beautiful boy with an amazing spirit. Thank you for having spent time in my life and meeting my mom. Mr. and Mrs. DeVito - My sincerest condolences for your loss. May Jeff's memory light your path to peace.
Patti & Mike Camara
December 24, 2012
Words can not express the sadness I feel for your loss. I hope your happy memories, of times spent with Jeff help comfort you in this difficult time.
Pauline Fallon
December 24, 2012
Mr. and Mrs. DeVito, Melissa and Chris,
Please accepted my deepest sympathies for your loss. I feel like I had the opportunity to see Jeff grow, seeing as I got to meet him when he was in high school. May you seek solace in your happy memories, stories, and love for each other.
Love,
Pauline
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