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Swan Funeral Home

1224 Boston Post Road, Old Saybrook, CT

OBITUARY

Matthew Bowes

November 10, 1962November 29, 2019
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Matthew Brian Bowes, 57, passed away unexpectedly in his home on November 29th, 2019.

He is survived by his son Matthew, daughter Susan, their mother Lisa, and grandson Donovan. He is also survived by his brothers John and Mark Bowes, sister Susan, many beloved nieces and nephews, and hundreds of wonderful friends. He was predeceased by his parents John and Darlene Bowes.

Matthew was born on November 10th, 1962 and raised in Old Saybrook, CT. He was the life of every party and a light to those around him. Even those who only met him briefly could attest to his larger-than-life personality and his unparalleled sense of humor. He came to every conversation prepared with a cache of jokes and his delivery and wit were unrivaled. Even in the darkest of situations he could offer us levity - something which is particularly missed in this time. He was an avid marksman and a motorcycle enthusiast. Much to the chagrin of his Bears-fan children, he was also a lifelong supporter of the Green Bay Packers. He was a farm boy on the inside who loved spending summers in Missouri with his family. He loved his children more than any father in the world and will be greatly missed and fondly remembered.

Visitation will be from 5:00 until 8:00 PM at Swan Funeral Home, Old Saybrook, on Thursday, December 5. Funeral services will be at St John’s Catholic Church in Old Saybrook on Friday, December 6 at 11:00 AM. Burial will follow at St. John Cemetery, Old Saybrook.

In lieu of flowers please make memorial contributions to : https://www.gofundme.com/f/funeral-fund-for-matthew-bowes?utm_source=customer&utm_medium=copy_link&utm_campaign=p_cp+share-sheet

Services

  • Calling Hours Thursday, December 5, 2019
  • Mass of Christian Burial Friday, December 6, 2019

Memories

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Marianne Bowes

December 6, 2019

Marianne Bowes

December 6, 2019

Robert Chapman

December 5, 2019

Remember Matt loved riding his Kawaski motorcycle. you were loved by alot Matt.

Chris Diamond

December 5, 2019

Matty , they broke the mold with you , in fact there is no other
Through good times and bad , you always had my back and loved me like a brother
Your sense of humor and quick - wit , would brighten up the day
We started up Club 44 , you were the Infamous Joey K !
Our trips to Block Island and the club meetings were a blast
These adventures stay close inside my heart where they will always last
Now until we meet again my friend , and I hope we someday do ..
I ‘ ll treasure all the memories and know I love you like a brother too !!!


Chris “ Legs “ Diamond
- 44 -

Chris DIAMOND

December 5, 2019

Susan Bowes Clement

December 5, 2019

We talked recently about what happens after death. You thought it was most likely the last chapter...total darkness...but you weren’t sure. I told you we will see our loved ones on the other side. I really do believe that Matt.

I’m rambling. No one left to talk to about the good old days on Ferry Road. Miss you and love you immensely Matthew.

Susie/Sis/Sissy/Susie Pie

Susan Bowes Clement

December 5, 2019

...Trips to the doctors office; keeping track of medicine and doses.
...Looking at the “K” room stuff at your apartment; I loved it. A mini-museum.
...Worrying about you for over 30 years on the motorcycle.
...Our lifelong dream to someday live side-by-side in Missouri...gone.
...Cemetery visits to see Mother and Father. Our conversations always went back to them❤️. We saved anything that was touched by their hands. I kept Mother’s bag of curlers from the 60s and her ponytail from 1967 when she cut her hair. We talked about how comforting it is to actually be able to touch a real part of her all these years later. It’s a wonder, Matthew, that you and I weren’t on an episode of Hoarders...or Dr. Phil...because we just couldn’t part with anything sentimental. We couldn’t let go of the past!!
...Brian saved your voice message for me from your phone and I still call you multiple times a day so I can hear you say, “El Lobo Cattle Company... thank you for calling”.
...“Santa’s Back In Town” by Elvis!!!...max volume... in the car every year. I have my home video of you dancing to it with Matty as a baby in Mother’s kitchen!! Paulie said you told him, “He ain’t called the King for being second best!!! 😂😂
...“Happy” by Pharrell Williams... another max volume. You couldn’t sit still in the car when that came on... smiled from ear to ear. Such an appropriate song for someone who was always so upbeat like you were.
...We talked about what would be worse...having so many wonderful memories or not having them, because if you don’t have them your heart can’t be broken. Many hearts are broken today, Matt, including mine. Suffice to say that you were the best, most loving, brother a girl could ever, ever, have. Always there...always optimistic...always looking at the glass as half full not half empty. You are leaving a huge void Matthew. I wonder if you ever knew how special you were.
(continued...like our lengthy chats!)

Susan Bowes Clement

December 5, 2019

Matthew, my dear brother... I am so sorry this happened to you. I’m not ready for this Matt.

The wonderful memories are too many to mention here, but some come to mind immediately.

... You told me through the years how much our “Jet Club” meetings meant to you when you were a little boy and needed someone to play with at home. I created our own special “club” and we would meet in my room at 4:00 almost every afternoon and you had to do our “special knock” (1,2,3...pause...4) before I would open my door. Then we’d put on our “official” Jet Club” pins...handmade...for members only of course... and play Candyland or checkers or we’d just color. Decades later you teased me about a day that you did something that made me mad so I cancelled our meeting. You were five...and I was in seventh grade. Being a kid myself I didn’t realize how much I’d hurt your feelings. You told me you sat on the cellar stairs, head in hand, and cried as you watched your tears land in the dust on the cellar floor!!

...movie night last month...your apartment...pepper/onion pizza...light crust...from Pizza Palace watching Major Payne. Laughed like fools throughout the whole movie. You imitated Damon Wayans perfectly!!

...August driving through Flanders in your car. Laughing so hard about something totally ridiculous that we were crying and you said to me, “Oh jeez!! I gotta pullover, I can’t see where I’m going!!” You pulled into the Stop ‘n Shop parking lot, we finally got control of ourselves, pulled back onto the road, and about 100 feet later it happened all over again...we just couldn’t stop!! We laughed and cried all the way to Niantic...and beyond!!!

...Many morning phone calls asking me, “Are you watching Andy Griffith? Did you see what Barney just did??” Then we’d laugh our butts off as you proceeded to describe the entire scene in perfect detail!! You’d say, “Do you think other people get as big a kick out of this as we do??!!! Haha!!
(cont’d...)

Paul W. Clement

December 4, 2019

Matt, my pal, my friend and we were Brothers according to him! Loved this man and he loved life more than anyone I have ever known and he loved hanging out with me and my Dog Scruffy! We spent many hours together in the last year or so and all of it was an adventure in his life of enjoying Family and Friends! Everywhere we went we ran into old friends who all greeted him with a hug and a warm greeting! He seemed to know hundreds of them. He has left this time and place with a huge void in it! He will be missed by everyone he touched and loved! I know I miss him so much, I can’t get him out of my thoughts! Every time I play”Hello Stranger” which we had to listen to every time we got together, I will think of him and how much he loved that song! Every time I hug my dog I will think of him and how much he loved her too. Rest In Peace my Brother! I will never forget you and I will remember all the good times we had together!❤️❤️

Marianne Bowes

December 4, 2019

To the proudest "BOWES" I ever met, Matt you've left a void that can not, will not be filled.
Nobody loved family like you loved family, and to all the Bowes', family and friends I'm truly sorry for all of our loss.
When Matt walked in a room, everybody took note, couldn't be helped, he'd let you know he's arrived!! Miss him more then I knew I would. Till we meet again in the "Joe Kripsky" room, rest well...love your Cuz ❤ Marianne Bowes

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