Robert A Dubay

February 1, 1924May 2, 2013

Robert Arthur Dubay Old Town - Robert “Bob” Arthur Dubay, 89, died peacefully at his home in Old Town on Thursday, May 2 of cancer. He was born on Feb. 1, 1924 in the family home on French Island, the youngest child of Josephine and Charles Dubay, Jr. At an early age, he moved to Millinocket to live with extended family where he discovered and developed a passion for Baxter State Park that he later passed on to his children. Bob moved back to Old Town where he attended and graduated high school. It was at St. Mary’s Church, where he had served as an altar boy, that he met the love of his life, Rachel “Joan” Hoit. After sending her a telegram and an engagement ring from his military post, they were married on Oct. 1, 1945. Bob attended the University of Maine until he enlisted in the US Navy and became a pilot. One of his many stories was that his flight instructor was Ted Williams and his battalion commander was Johnny Pesky. As a result, his admiration for the Red Sox was solidified. Later, he served in the Army & Air Force Reserves. For the next 20 years, he sold insurance for Metropolitan Life and returned to UMO to earn his business degree. After training with H&R Block in Boston, he introduced the company to Maine and subsequently opened numerous offices throughout the State. After 25 years of service with H&R Block, Bob retired in 1987. He spent most of his retirement traveling with his wife, visiting their children and grandchildren across the country. Bob had a profound appreciation for the natural beauty of Maine and delighted in treks with his kids to Cold Stream Pond, Bar Harbor and Mount Katahdin. He was constantly working on household projects, acquiring many useful skills over the years. The quintessential handyman, Bob was always eager to share his knowledge by offering a helping hand to others. He volunteered at Baxter State Park, where he helped construct camping facilities and trail improvements. Throughout his life, he was known for his quick wit, intellect, curiosity, and his remarkable ability to engage in conversation with everyone he met. Bob was a devout Catholic who demonstrated his Christian faith through his unwavering compassion and generosity. He participated daily in services and was well respected by his church community. He had a special friendship with Father Joe Khoury. Bob was predeceased by his beloved wife of 60 years, Rachel Joan, his baby daughter, Caroline Jean, his parents, his brother Roland and sister Lorraine. He is survived by his children: Mark (and Shelly) of Milford, NH; Roberta (and Rob) Strout of Conyers, GA; Paula of Lynchburg, VA; Christina of Waynesboro, VA; Peter (and Debbie) of Seattle, WA; Susan (his primary caregiver) of Old Town; Monica (and Willem) of Baraboo, WI; Patrick (and Debbie) of Stillwater, ME; Juliana (and Joe) Dobinski of Fernandina Beach, FL; his 23 grandchildren: Mark Dubay, Kathleen Dubay, Alisa Reynolds, Joseph Dubay, Sarah Forstner, Amanda Tunnell, Erica Strout, Jessica Miller, Andrew Brown, Jeremiah Horton, Caleb Horton, Kara Good, Jennifer Evans, Melissa Dubay, Matthew Dubay, Luke Duplessis, Rachel Meakin, Christopher Skinner, Samuel Skinner, Bryan Dubay, Kristi Brown, Michael Dobinski, Caroline Dobinski, and 16 great-grandchildren: Caitlin, Patrick, Shea, Tyler, Megan, Allison, Jane, Eleanor, Gabriella, Jocelyn, Aubrey, Madeline, Luke, Eli, Noah, and Carmen; a special cousin June Whittier, other cousins, nieces and nephews, as well as several lifelong friends, especially the Spruces and the Needhams.

Friends may call 2-4 and 7-9 PM Tuesday at the Birmingham Funeral Home 438 Main St Old Town where members of the Knights of Columbus will recite prayers at 7:30pm. A Mass of Christian Burial will be celebrated 11AM Wednesday at Parish of the Resurrection, Holy Family Church, Old Town. Immediately following the mass all are invited to the Parish hall for a light luncheon and continued fellowship. Burial with full military honors will be conducted 10AM Friday at Maine Veterans Memorial Cemetery, Augusta. Notes of condolences may be left at


  • Visitation Tuesday, May 7, 2013
  • Mass of Christian Burial Wednesday, May 8, 2013
  • Graveside Committal Services Friday, May 10, 2013

Robert A Dubay

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June 2, 2013

Dear Monica and family,
I sorry to hear about your Dad's passing. Please excuse my tardy note. I recall many a summer evening enlivened by Bob's always entertaining Red Sox commentary wafting from the den. I know that you will miss him. I hope that you are all well. Fondly, Michael Boucher, Freeport

May 8, 2013

My deepest sympathies to you and your family on the passing of your dad.
Louise Rozene

Jennifer & Peter Crichton

May 8, 2013

May your hearts soon be filled with wonderful memories of joyful times together as you celebrate a life well lived.

Wyatt Sylvester

May 5, 2013

My condolences on the passing of your Dad.

May 5, 2013

Pat, Deb, Bryan, Kristi and the Dubay family, your father and grandfather touched so many lives. He sure touched ours and made it so much brighter. Our thoughts and prayers go out to all who had the good fortune to know him. Love to you all. The Perkins Family

David Glover

May 4, 2013

To Roberta & Rob Strout, daughter and son-in-law to Robert A.Dubay wishing to offer my condolences and sorrow in the passing away of Bert's father on this past Thur. May God give the peace, strength, and comfort at the deeply sadden time,

May 4, 2013

Paula, I remember your Dad as a child growing up on High Street in Old Town. He was so kind, especially when you fell off the swingset and broke your arm....I was at your house that day. My prayers are with you, Mary Margaret (Cyr) Colman Minotola, New Jersey

Steve Campbell

May 4, 2013

I was lucky enough to hang out with Pat several weeks ago and he shared with me what a special relationship he was having with his dad over these last few months. Your dad was a very nice man and quite the character. My heartfelt condolences to the entire Dubay family. Thinking of you.

Tim and Mickey Hogan

May 4, 2013

Sue, Peter, and family,
Sorry to hear about your Dad. You are in our thoughts and prayers.

Virginia King

May 4, 2013

To Bob's wife Joan,Paula,and the entire family,please except my condolences for the loss of your husband,dad,grandfather and more.Paula it has been forever since I have seen you.Bob,your dad was my dad's God Father.You use to come to the house with Frankie and Susan years and years ago.I believe that was the last time I saw you was at Beech Hill.I know you and the family have so many wonderful memories,let them bring you comfort at this time.My thoughts and prayers are with you.Virginia Blake King