Barry Steven Oxenhandler

May 25, 1941November 1, 2019

On Friday, November 1, 2019, Barry Steven Oxenhandler, loving husband and father passed away at the age of 78. Barry was born on May 25, 1941 in Saint Louis, Missouri to William and Sarah (Steinbaum) Oxenhandler. He married Mary Patricia Oxenhandler on December 15, 1969. Together they raised their two children Kate and Jim.

Barry loved being a pilot, playing music, photography and most of all his family. He was sweet, funny, full of love, and will be remembered for his kind compassionate spirit.

He is survived by his wife Pat, his two children, Kate (Bob Karn) and Jim (Julia Arrotti), his grandchildren, Sarah and Claire, his sister Natalie (Neil Handelman), many nieces and nephews and a large very close extended family. His passing leaves a hole in the heart of everybody who knew him. He will be forever missed but he will never be forgotten.

Graveside service Tuesday, November 5, 1 p.m. at Chesed Shel Emeth Cemetery, 7500 Olive Boulevard. Memorial contributions preferred to Wings of Hope, 18370 Wings of Hope Blvd.,St. Louis, MO 63005.


  • Graveside Service

    Tuesday, November 5, 2019


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Don Ehler

November 14, 2019

I was sad to learn of Barry passing, and wish my condolences to the family. I met Barry when he was selling one of his Falcon model airplanes. We became friends because of our love of Aviation and I thought he was a Great guy. He sold me several models and when I got my Man Cave set up I send him pictures. I also had him come out to Spirit one time when the company I worked for was working on a Navy Trainer. He will be missed.

susie and jim cooper

November 13, 2019

we will always love you Barry.
the day you were born is the day God decided that the world could not exist without you.

Kj Rink

November 12, 2019

Mary Pat, many blessings to you, your family and Barry.
~ Kj Rink, Maryville College, Class of 1967

Harlan Green

November 3, 2019

This year marks 50 years of Friendship with Barry. In 1969, Barry taught me how to fly. He was my first flight instructor. I could tell you stories about those early days of our friendship and flying that could keep you laughing for hours . I will never forget them . We have remained friends ever since. Not only was he the finest pilot I've personally ever known, but he was also one of the finest human beings I've ever known. Barry excelled in everything he did, from flying, photography, music, and shooting. Barry was funny, witty, and extremely smart. He was always willing to help someone who asked for it. My life has been truly blessed by knowing him. I will miss our frequent lunches together and his warm smile. I know I will be just one of many who will think of him often. Rest in peace my friend.

Jo Beck

November 2, 2019

To the Oxenhandler family,
So sorry for your loss - he was a wonderful musician and all-around great guy. He will be missed! Don always said that he learned so much about music from Barry.
Jo Beck

Friendly Henrys Marlene and Steve

November 2, 2019

We love you, Barry! Dangit, we will miss you so much! What a neat guy, and such a kind person, always amazingly positive and a joy to be near. Frickin' amazing musician, intelligent beyond most anyone, and a fabulous mentor, too! We were LUCKY (blessed!!) by having known you, and gratefuly humbled and honored by having gotten so much time playing music with you. Hope you get to make music where you are. You will for sure play on through us.

Barbara and Bob Bishop

November 2, 2019

Bob and I send our condolences, he was a wonderful man who adored his family.
With deepest sympathies,
Barbara and Bob Bishop

Lois Constantz

November 2, 2019

A talented, funny, feisty friend who will be missed more than words can say...perhaps music will be a better testimonial.

David Carr

November 2, 2019

We were blessed to have Barry be a part of our lifes playing music almost every week for the past 17+ years. He gave all who knew him great memories that will not be forgotten. We were lucky to have known him!
God bless his family with our deepest condolences.
The Monday Night Jam Crew.