OBITUARY
Max Andrew Bernstein
August 4, 1996 – July 10, 2021
Beloved son of Dr. Keith Bernstein and Dr. Hui Hua Shu; dear brother of Alexander Bernstein; dear grandson of Evelyn Efron Bernstein, the late Marvin Bernstein, the late Dr. Pu Shu, and the late Limei Shu; dear nephew of Karen and Brent Comensky, Joseph and Leah Bernstein, Dr. Rachel Shu and Michael Moore, Dr. Hui Kuo Shu and Dr. Chi Ming Chang, Hui Min Shu and Sony Tan, and Dr. Huidy Shu and Lalita Suzuki; dear cousin and friend to so many.
Funeral Service Thursday, July 15 at 10:30 a.m. at Congregation Temple Israel, 1 Rabbi Alvan D. Rubin Drive. Interment is private.
Memorial gifts may be made to the Max Bernstein Memorial Endowed Scholarship at Washington University in St. Louis through the internet at https://gifts.wustl.edu/. Please enter “Max Bernstein Memorial Scholarship” in the text box for gift designations. Gifts made by check may be mailed to: Washington University, McKelvey Engineering, c/o Becky Pitzer, 7425 Forsyth Blvd, Suite 2555, St. Louis, MO 63105.
Services
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Funeral Service Available via Live Stream
Thursday, July 15, 2021
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Private Interment
Thursday, July 15, 2021
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Condolences
Thursday, July 15, 2021
Memories
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ADD A MEMORYDennis and Debbie McBee
July 30, 2021
Our Deepest Sympathy.
Our thoughts and Prayers are with the Bernstein family.
Jeff and Jenn Clodi
July 21, 2021
I am just hearing this news about Max this afternoon and I wanted to express our sincere condolences to the family. Although I did not know Max well, I always enjoyed having a brief conversation with him when I would see him. Our hearts go out to Max's large circle of family and friends that will undoubtedly miss his big smile and warm personality. If there is anything we can do to offer some comfort during this time, please let us know.
Jeff and Jenn Clodi
Brian Xu
July 21, 2021
Playing with Max has been one of my highlights of college water polo. Even though I am introverted, Max always made me feel comfortable and at home in the team by reaching out and talking to me in and out of the water. He was a great leader and a supportive teammate, and I am thankful for the experiences I shared with him.
Jake Mattingly
July 19, 2021
While remembering the times I shared with Max throughout college, the excitement of our polo championships quickly came to mind, while the shared team dinners and gatherings stuck with me longer. Max and I became quick friends through our many shared interests, and in the team dinners, concerts, and low-key hangouts that followed I came to trust, love, and know Max as one of my closest friends.
Once the flurry of activity following graduation subsided, I was glad to share STL with Max. We shared fun concerts, pool parties, summer polo, and tried new restaurants together, and whenever work or post-college social life was difficult, I could lean on Max as a constant source of support. Max was a close and true friend, and I'll never forget the impacts he had on my life.
My deepest condolences and love to the Bernstein and Shu families.
Tyler Schon
July 17, 2021
Max glowed with kindness and always made an effort to help me in classes. Max was reliable, smart, and a good friend. Memories of his bright smile and laughter still touch me today and will continue to do so forevermore.
Ryan Welish
July 16, 2021
Max and I were roommates sophomore year at WashU; I'm heartbroken to hear about his passing.
Max was one of the first people I met freshman year on Dardick 4. His smile and compassion could make anyone feel welcome. We had countless nights watching movies and playing FIFA, which I wouldn't trade for anything. I loved being around Max because you could tell he genuinely cared about those around him.
One of my favorite memories with him was a sunny Sunday morning trip to the Olivette Diner. I had been complaining about missing diners like the ones we had in New Jersey. That weekend, Max took a group of us in his car to the Olivette Diner. For something as simple as a trip to a diner, it meant a lot to me. It was one of the first times that I felt like I had a family at school; thanks to Max.
Shelley Stone
July 16, 2021
I was so sad to hear that Max is no longer with you. I will always remember that infectious smile that he had and what a nice and wonderful young person he was. I didn't get to know him as a young adult, but I can only imagine what a treasure he was to your family and to those that called him friend. My thoughts and prayers will be with your family as you navigate life without this dear young man.
Coach Stone, Forsyth School
Donna Militello
July 16, 2021
We were so shocked and saddened to hear of Max's sudden passing. He will always be remembered as such an amazing and well-rounded young man. He was kind, intelligent, handsome, athletic, and above all, he was loved deeply by a dedicated and wonderful family. I watched the service from New Zealand and wanted to be there so badly to give you all a big hug. We send our love and sincere condolences.
Donna, Chris, Mitch, and Andrew
Ed McCarter
July 15, 2021
Max was a true friend, and the times we spent together are memories that I will always cherish. I met him at a difficult time in my life, and I know that the compassion and support that he gave led me through it. The positive impact that he had on everyone's life around him will never be forgotten
Kathy Diemer
July 15, 2021
Keith, Hui His and Alex: The Diemer family is heartbroken. Max was a great person and water polo player. His bright smile will not be forgotten. Kathy, David, Ann E and Daniel
Ron and Carol Bjorseth
July 15, 2021
Dear Alex, Hui Hua and Keith:
We share in your grief and sadness in the loss of your beautiful and extraordinary son, Max. May your memories of him console you and as the days go by we pray you find peace in those memories. We were able to attend (via live stream) the funeral service for Max. It was so meaningful, that we watched it again.
We extend our sincerest sympathy and love to all of you.
Ron and Carol Bjorseth (The Olaya's parents)
Joslyn Olaya
July 14, 2021
Our hearts break and words fail to capture the sadness we feel on the loss of Max. Many fun times were shared with Max and his family, especially during WashU water polo. His meaningful impact on our lives will not be forgotten. Our deepest sympathy to Keith, Hui Hua, Alex and all Max's family.
Hector, Joslyn, Christian and Eric Olaya
Kristin Robbins
July 14, 2021
I had the pleasure of getting to know Max during his sophomore fall in high school when he attended Swiss Semester in Zermatt, Switzerland. He was a true gentleman and scholar who was always interested in getting more from every experience. When it came time to do solo hikes, Max wanted to do the most challenging and wanted to make sure it was longer than his brother's had been:) He was an active participant in all class discussions and didn't hesitate to let you know where he stood, but most of all, Max was kind and thoughtful to everyone around him and had a strong moral compass. He made all those who knew him that much better by example. My thoughts and prayers are with the Bernstein family and during this difficult time.
Thinking of you,
KR
Jeanne Wilkinson
July 14, 2021
Max touched so many hearts at Camp Sabra. Our camp family is heartbroken. Though I haven’t spoken to Max since our time together as campers, I will always cherish those memories dearly. Max had such a positive spirit, and could always make me laugh. I am thinking of his family at this time.
DON AND SHIRLEY RAKEY
July 14, 2021
WE ARE SAD AT THE NEWS OF MAX PASSING. OUR CONDOLENCES TO ALL OF THE FAMILY. HAVING DR. KEITH BERNSTEIN AS OUR DOCTOR FOR MANY YEARS, WE KNOW HOW DEDICATED ALL OF HIS FAMILY ARE TO EACH OTHER, AND HOW MUCH MAX WILL BE MISSED.
SHIRLEY AND DON RAKEY
Jim & Abby Susman
July 14, 2021
Evie,
We are heartbroken for your loss. You and your family are in our thoughts.
Jim & Abby Susman
Kim Kaemmerlen
July 14, 2021
The family of Internal Medicine Associates lost a wonderful friend and coworker. Max was a kind, loving and respectful person and we are grateful for the time we spent with him and the memories he left behind. Our hearts go out to his parents , brother Alex, family and friends.
Ron Cytron
July 13, 2021
Max was an amazing scholar and mensch. I had the joy of working with him and studying computer science with him. I am so sad at his passing, and I send my heartfelt condolences to his family and friends.
Michael and Caryl Jordan -Bjorseth
July 13, 2021
We are saddened to hear of Max’s passing. We have distinct and fond memories of his stellar performance at the Middlebury Collegiate Water Polo Championships. He was clearly an MVP of that event but more importantly inspired his teammates and the fans showing confidence and skill that led to that victory.
Janet Ansehl Shulman
July 13, 2021
We send our love and thoughts to you all. Our hearts ache as we pray for healing.
Janet, Neal, and Darcy Shulman