Max Andrew Bernstein

August 4, 1996July 10, 2021

Beloved son of Dr. Keith Bernstein and Dr. Hui Hua Shu; dear brother of Alexander Bernstein; dear grandson of Evelyn Efron Bernstein, the late Marvin Bernstein, the late Dr. Pu Shu, and the late Limei Shu; dear nephew of Karen and Brent Comensky, Joseph and Leah Bernstein, Dr. Rachel Shu and Michael Moore, Dr. Hui Kuo Shu and Dr. Chi Ming Chang, Hui Min Shu and Sony Tan, and Dr. Huidy Shu and Lalita Suzuki; dear cousin and friend to so many.

Funeral Service Thursday, July 15 at 10:30 a.m. at Congregation Temple Israel, 1 Rabbi Alvan D. Rubin Drive. Interment is private.

Memorial gifts may be made to the Max Bernstein Memorial Endowed Scholarship at Washington University in St. Louis through the internet at Please enter “Max Bernstein Memorial Scholarship” in the text box for gift designations. Gifts made by check may be mailed to: Washington University, McKelvey Engineering, c/o Becky Pitzer, 7425 Forsyth Blvd, Suite 2555, St. Louis, MO 63105.


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Dennis and Debbie McBee

July 30, 2021

Our Deepest Sympathy.
Our thoughts and Prayers are with the Bernstein family.

Jeff and Jenn Clodi

July 21, 2021

I am just hearing this news about Max this afternoon and I wanted to express our sincere condolences to the family. Although I did not know Max well, I always enjoyed having a brief conversation with him when I would see him. Our hearts go out to Max's large circle of family and friends that will undoubtedly miss his big smile and warm personality. If there is anything we can do to offer some comfort during this time, please let us know.

Jeff and Jenn Clodi

Brian Xu

July 21, 2021

Playing with Max has been one of my highlights of college water polo. Even though I am introverted, Max always made me feel comfortable and at home in the team by reaching out and talking to me in and out of the water. He was a great leader and a supportive teammate, and I am thankful for the experiences I shared with him.

Jake Mattingly

July 19, 2021

While remembering the times I shared with Max throughout college, the excitement of our polo championships quickly came to mind, while the shared team dinners and gatherings stuck with me longer. Max and I became quick friends through our many shared interests, and in the team dinners, concerts, and low-key hangouts that followed I came to trust, love, and know Max as one of my closest friends.
Once the flurry of activity following graduation subsided, I was glad to share STL with Max. We shared fun concerts, pool parties, summer polo, and tried new restaurants together, and whenever work or post-college social life was difficult, I could lean on Max as a constant source of support. Max was a close and true friend, and I'll never forget the impacts he had on my life.

My deepest condolences and love to the Bernstein and Shu families.

Tyler Schon

July 17, 2021

Max glowed with kindness and always made an effort to help me in classes. Max was reliable, smart, and a good friend. Memories of his bright smile and laughter still touch me today and will continue to do so forevermore.

Ryan Welish

July 16, 2021

Max and I were roommates sophomore year at WashU; I'm heartbroken to hear about his passing.

Max was one of the first people I met freshman year on Dardick 4. His smile and compassion could make anyone feel welcome. We had countless nights watching movies and playing FIFA, which I wouldn't trade for anything. I loved being around Max because you could tell he genuinely cared about those around him.

One of my favorite memories with him was a sunny Sunday morning trip to the Olivette Diner. I had been complaining about missing diners like the ones we had in New Jersey. That weekend, Max took a group of us in his car to the Olivette Diner. For something as simple as a trip to a diner, it meant a lot to me. It was one of the first times that I felt like I had a family at school; thanks to Max.

Shelley Stone

July 16, 2021

I was so sad to hear that Max is no longer with you. I will always remember that infectious smile that he had and what a nice and wonderful young person he was. I didn't get to know him as a young adult, but I can only imagine what a treasure he was to your family and to those that called him friend. My thoughts and prayers will be with your family as you navigate life without this dear young man.

Coach Stone, Forsyth School

Donna Militello

July 16, 2021

We were so shocked and saddened to hear of Max's sudden passing. He will always be remembered as such an amazing and well-rounded young man. He was kind, intelligent, handsome, athletic, and above all, he was loved deeply by a dedicated and wonderful family. I watched the service from New Zealand and wanted to be there so badly to give you all a big hug. We send our love and sincere condolences.
Donna, Chris, Mitch, and Andrew

Ed McCarter

July 15, 2021

Max was a true friend, and the times we spent together are memories that I will always cherish. I met him at a difficult time in my life, and I know that the compassion and support that he gave led me through it. The positive impact that he had on everyone's life around him will never be forgotten

Kathy Diemer

July 15, 2021

Keith, Hui His and Alex: The Diemer family is heartbroken. Max was a great person and water polo player. His bright smile will not be forgotten. Kathy, David, Ann E and Daniel