Peggy Grosberg Ross

March 11, 1930January 23, 2021

Peggy Ross made a wish on every first evening star she ever saw.

She loved with all her heart and lived for the betterment of those around her. As the matriarch of the family, she modeled charity, devotion, and passion, with every breath she took.

Peggy was born and raised in St Louis in a loving family that has a deep tradition of giving back to the community. She graduated from Washington University with a degree in Psychology, something she was very proud of. She married Donald K. Ross, Ph. D. in 1950 and they spent their lives dedicated to furthering education, helping the needy, traveling to all parts of the world together and happily cruising the Mississippi River on their houseboat.

Much of her life was focused on philanthropy. After surviving a near death experience in a fire, Peggy created the Edna Malen Scholarship Fund for the Goldfarb School of Nursing at Barnes-Jewish College. Peggy gave credit to Ms. Malen, her lead burn nurse, for saving her with her care. In the 55 years of the scholarship there have been scores of the most gifted nurses graduating with the assistance of this fund.

Her generosity extended to the Jewish Hospital (BJC) where she became a lifelong member of the Auxiliary that raised millions of dollars for clinical development programs. Many of the campaigns were led by her. Her fundraising skills also benefitted the Scholarship Foundation of St. Louis where she spent nearly 25 years as an active supporter, board member and advisor and was instrumental in leading programs to provide interest free loans to college-bound students. These were based solely on qualifications and need; not race, religion or gender.

She was very proud of the Jewish Federation’s Grosberg award, given to young leaders in the St. Louis Jewish Community. This award was created in honor of her parents David and Roselin Grosberg. In 2004 she was honored for her lifetime of commitment by being named one of St. Louis’ Women of Achievement. She became active in that outstanding organization that recognizes women in the community who’ve distinguished themselves by unselfishly giving with no thought of reward.

Peggy leaves behind her adoring daughter, Pamela Toder, son-in-law Craig Toder (she called him her son), Grandchildren Paige Noel and her husband Stuart, and Spencer Toder and his wife Courtney, and her 3 great grandchildren, Sawyer, Piper and Avery. She leaves a family who cherish her memory as they celebrate her incredible life and all the wisdom and love that she passed down.

Peggy was the sister of Gene Grosberg and Ada Friedman. Peggy passed away January 23rd, 2021 at the age of 90 from the Covid virus.

We wonder what she may have wished for on all those stars--one thing is certain, her wishes were selfless, impassioned, and virtuous.

A private family service will be held.

Donations may be made to the Scholarship Foundation of St. Louis


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Robert Senior

February 6, 2021

Peggy did a wonderful job heading up the Clover Ball for the Jewish Hospital Auxilliary about 30 years ago. The proceeds from the ball were crucial to the pulmonary research program at Jewish Hospital. As Director of the Pulmonary Program I appreciated her dedication to making sure that the Ball would be successful, and it was.

Robert M. Senior, M.D.

Walter Lamkin

January 26, 2021

To Pam, Craig and family,

While I wasn't acquainted with your mom, I am with you, and know that Peggy must have been a most special person. From her obituary I learned that she was bright and educated and was perhaps a classmate with my mom and WashU. From knowing you, I am quite aware of her qualities as a mother. I send you wishes for your journey to find peace and I also send a reminder. Peggy is not really gone. She has simply gone ahead.

In sympathy,

Walter Lamkin

Fran Slutsky

January 26, 2021

From the moment I met Peggy she made me feel like I was part of the family. In high school, I loved being at the Ross house because Peggy made me feel special. It was simple-- if Pam loved me, then Peggy loved me too.

When Pam and I ventured off together to three different colleges -Peggy made sure all of our apartments were set up properly. She insisted that we "establish a butcher" and set up weekly meal plans.

Peggy Ross was truly a sophisticated and elegant women who was a model of her time. She left her mark on the world through her philanthropy and her love of her family. She left her mark on me by showing me what an educated, confident and gracious women looks like.

Wilona Cooper

January 26, 2021

A wonderful and dearing person that loved good music and good friends, a wonderful soul that I really enjoyed the last three years. Rest In peace my beautiful angel.

Colleen Murphy

January 26, 2021

I was the daytime Information Desk employee at Jewish Hospital starting back in 1970 and LOVED Mrs. Ross!!!!! She was so kind and had a special twinkle in her eyes.... Now I know it was a reflection of her wishing on all those stars!!!!! I'm 67 years old and still remember her with much fondness and will look for the 1st evening star tonight and wink back at her. You are all in my thoughts and prayers, Fondly, Colleen Murphy