Patricia Ann Ehlers

December 30, 1945November 26, 2018

Patricia Ehlers, 72, of Laurens, NY passed away peacefully after a long medical fight.

Pat retired after working 20 years at Half Hollow Hills High School West in Dix Hills, NY where she was a special school monitor. She was often described as a mother to everyone. She loved to sew and quilt and was the treasurer of the local quilters group.

She was preceded in death by her parents William & Norma Myers and her daughter Sondra Ehlers.

She is survived by her loving husband of 53 years, Donald Ehlers, her beloved daughters Donna Cianciotto, Denise (David) Tanguilig, brothers Michael (Patricia) Myers, Stephen (Jane) Myers, Sister-in-law Elizabeth Ehlers, 5 grandchildren, Dale Tanguilig, Randy Cianciotto, Dylan Tanguilig, Dawson Tanguilig and Jake Cianciotto along with cousins, nieces & nephew.

In lieu of flowers, the family is requesting donations be made to St. Jude Children’s Research Hospital.


  • Funeral Mass Saturday, December 1, 2018

Patricia Ann Ehlers

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Cook Dabreau

January 5, 2019

I have fourty plus years of memories of my good friend . Almost all of them filled with fun and laughter . We camped ,skied
Drank wine 🍷 all the while surrounded by friends and family. I always got a help with a problem If everyone had a friend like Patty Cake they would be rich indeed. Pat leaves a great void in my life
But am sure she is in a much better place and we will all meet again
Miss you !!

Don Ehlers

December 31, 2018

You are the Love of my life.
I will miss you forever.
Sorry for stuff I put you through.
Thanks for the constant love you gave back to me.
Love you Always-
(aka Don)

Logan Myers

December 27, 2018

I'll always have fond memories of my time as a kid running around Aunt Pat's backyard in Dix Hills. From the pool to the hammock to that player piano in the living room. I loved that piano as a kid. I'd spend as much time as I could sitting at it pumping the pedals making it play "I've heard it through the grapevine." But I think the thing I'm going to miss the most is Pat's laugh. She had the best laugh and you could get it out of her with the stupidest jokes. Every time I would talk to her, I'd think of a joke just to see if I could get her to cry laughing. I love you Aunt Pat. Rest well.

Harry Shaver

December 16, 2018

For many years our careers overlapped at High School West. Pat was stationed in the hall outside my door to keep the peace and run the elevator. As I would stand in the hallway between classes we started the most amazing friendship with 2-3 minutes conversations. It started with polite talk of weather leading to “joke of the day” moments and ultimately made it to family issues of joy and pain. We shared them all. She wrote the kindest of words at my retirement party and we continued to keep in touch via email and the mandatory Christmas letter/cards. On one of her road trips to Florida she and Don stopped at our North Carolina retirement home and brought us a box that Don had made from wood we gave Pat from an old family barn in upstate New York. The box remains a permanent fixture on our living room coffee table to this day. Pat -- there will always be a special place for you in my heart.

Georgia Czerwinsky

December 12, 2018

I met Pat while working at High School West. She was always a positive, happy and loving person. She always went out of her way to help and give a hand to everyone whenever she could.
She taught herself how to crochet left handed so she could teach me, a lefty. She laughed at me for standing up while I crocheted.
I spend many times at her and Don’s Christmas parties, which were so much fun.
After she and Don moved upstate, we would still stay in touch.
I will miss her and will always keep the fond memories we shared within my heart. ❤️

Wendy Lang Craighill

December 7, 2018

Pat always had something positive to say to me - with a big smile and a loud laugh at my and my family's antics. Aunt Cook's life will be quieter without her joyful 'noise.' Rest in Peace, Pat. Don, we are praying for your comfort. I know that Pat is in good hands - she was an angel here on earth and will surely be missed by many - but mostly by you. May you be surrounded by your friends and family as you navigate these new and strange waters, without her by your side.

Gene Guerra

December 6, 2018

Rest in peace Pat.
Joan and I will cherish the memories of your summer get-togethers and Christmas parties. Your constant smile will always be in our mind's eye. It's simply unforgettable. You were by far one of the nicest, most giving and loving person we knew. You will be dearly missed. Again, rest in peace.

Renie Handler

December 6, 2018

I remember meeting Pat when I was about 10 years old in Laurens at Cook and Bob's house for a summer barbecue. She was painting her nails and talking about something while sitting at the kitchen table. I thought how beautifully she was taking care of her nails, as mine where dirty and chewed on. I thought about how sweet she was to her 3 daughters and how much they loved their Mom. Even all the way back them, I had such a great first impression of her. She was funny and always spoke of her family with much pride and love.
Through the years of me getting married and moving to Long Island (living only 10 minutes away from her and Don) we became very close. She taught my daughter Jamie how to knit, crochet and read a pattern. Her patience was golden. Her and Don would come to our house for meals and us to their was always a fun time. I will never forget her laugh. Jim had a great ability to crack her up and she just loved laughing so hard at his jokes. She used to say...." ribs hurt from laughing!" I know Jim will miss her as his audience. :(
Every year we always knew that her Christmas card would be our first delivered the day after Thanksgiving. Right on the doubt....that envelope would arrive. This year was the first that it wasn't there. I certainly missed that and I miss her!!!
I will miss her advice and companionship and the love she always showed towards me and my family. My kids lovingly referred to her as "Aunt Patty Cake" and that's exactly who she was. She was an Aunt in their eyes. She is special to all of us and we'll never forget her....EVER!!!!
I always remember her having a half birthday because of hers falling on December 30th, she said "It always got forgotten. Now I celebrate on June 30th because maybe everyone will remember. " We won't forget you sweet friend!! Promise!!! Love you! xo

Matt Handler

December 5, 2018

Aunt Pat Gave My 4 Daughters SOO Much Love!
Sooo Many Great Memories throughout their Childhood
Jeanne & I Loved her Sooo Much!!💓💓
"Aunt Pat" Will ALWAYS Have a Special Place in My Daughters Hearts
Affectionately Known in Laurens as "THE GIRLS"

Melanie Carreras

December 4, 2018

What a lovely woman. Very thoughtful. Raised some amazing children. Prayers from my family to yours. Till we meet again.