Joseph "Joe" Francis Grates Jr.

November 8, 1973June 12, 2019

On Wednesday, June 12, 2019 Joseph Grates, Jr., loving husband and father of four fur babies, passed away at age 45.

Joe was born on November 8, 1973 in Herkimer, New York to Joseph F. Grates, Sr. and Maryjane Erb (Parsons). He graduated Herkimer High School in 1991. On March 20, 1997 he met his future wife, Ami L. Hardy and on May 20, 2006 with their family and friends present, they were married. Together they raised their fur babies: Herbie, Scooter, Jeter and Moe.

Joe had a passion for trading stocks and options, recently retiring from his full time job to pursue his passion. Joe also had a passion for baseball and had an extensive baseball collection including cards and memorabilia. He shared his passion for the game with Ami and together they watched a home game in every current baseball stadium in America as well as many former stadiums totaling 33 stadium visits. He also had a passion for music which took the couple on some adventures to see bands like Metallica, DMB, The Foo Fighters, Aerosmith and the Eagles. He also loved to travel and hike- recently he and Ami traveled to Utah, California and Las Vegas. He was known for his quick wit, intelligence, infectious smile and his kind and compassionate spirit.

Joe was preceded in death by his grandmother, Pauline and his best fur baby, Herbie.

He is survived by his wife, Ami; their three fur children, Scooter, Jeter and Moe; his father, Joseph; mother, Maryjane; a mother in law who loved him as her own, Kathleen (Trina) Lynch; father in law, Lyndon Hardy; siblings, Terri and William as well as several aunts, uncles, cousins, nieces, nephews and friends.


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Joseph "Joe" Francis Grates Jr.

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Dean Kelsey

July 3, 2019

Ami...our biggest condolences! I have known Joe for what seems forever in grade school. A few years back I had the pleasure of meeting Joes wife Ami as they took time out of there busy schedule to meet me at downtown disney when I was on vacation. Thanks for the fun time and memories.

Kevin Bluett

July 3, 2019

Joe was a coworker and friend. When he would visit NY he would stop and see me and my family. He was loving and caring, finally found Ami who helped him be an even better person. I will always remember him driving my son and I to a Boston game while he drove his new Camaro. It was great to share a ball game with Joe! I will miss him! So sorry Ami!

Sas Rush

July 2, 2019

Sure will miss your witt at family gatherings. We always had fun going to games whether football, baseball, soccer or nascar races or concerts it was good times.
Until we see you again Joe you are loved and missed greatly. Watch over Ami and your babies plus your Yankees and Dolphins.
Love you, Aunt Sas

Kathy Jameson

July 2, 2019

Words can not express how grateful I am that you were in my cousins life, and thru her the rest of our family.

The jokes with you were never ending and I'll never forget how you would "wave" as your truck drove through Colorado.

Thank you for trying to teach me the ways of stocks. Sorry I never had the time to truly learn from you.

But most of all thank you for creating such wonderful memories with Ami. I loved seeing pictures of all your adventures together. We will all miss you.
Love ,

Jenn Frenyea

June 24, 2019

You will forever be my movie buddy and my cheering partner. I will miss your company and friendship.