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Alfred "Al" J. Sette Jr.

July 21, 1931July 31, 2019

Alfred J. Sette Jr. (Al)- Eastham, Massachusetts , Age 88. Al was born on July 21, 1931 in Stamford, CT, the eldest child of Dr. Alfred J. Sette, Sr. and Margaret D’Onofrio Sette. He graduated from Stamford High School and earned a B.A. in Sociology from St. Michael’s College in Vermont. He returned to Stamford and worked at the YMCA while studying at Columbia University where he received a Master’s degree in Sociology. He was drafted into the Army in 1956 and was stationed in Georgia when he met and married his wife of 61 years, Kathryn Duncan Sette. They returned to Stamford to start their family, where Al resumed his work with the local YMCA and served on the school board. A job offer with the YMCA of Rochester, NY, led him to relocate the family and take positions working with local youth before starting his career in the city government of Rochester from which he retired as Budget Director in 1994. In addition to his career, Al was active in his community, serving as President of the 19th Ward Community Association, coaching Little League, and advocating for youth and social justice issues, particularly integration of the public schools. Upon retirement, Alfred and Kathryn moved to Eastham, MA, where engagement in community service, family, friends, travel, enjoying classical music, and gardening became his primary pursuits. In Eastham, Al served as a volunteer on various boards and committees supporting the community including the Eastham Council on Aging, the Eastham Board of Assessors, serving as Chairman, and the board of the Friends of the Eastham Library. For a number of years he participated in the Cape Cod Senior Softball League, playing for the Chatham Squires where he forged lasting friendships pursuing his lifetime love of baseball. He was a serious fan of the New York Yankees recognized for his keen memory for sports trivia and statistics. Second only to his love for his family was his devotion to the canine population of Eastham and their human companions, and he was frequently seen in the company of his Belgian Sheepdog, Bella, who followed Otello, Duca, and Daco. He is survived by his wife Kathryn, children Sarah M. Sette (Aaron Schneiderman), Martha K. Sette (William Knoppel), Alfred D. Sette (Judith Putman-Sette), six grandchildren, and his sister, Mary Louise Sette. At Al’s request there are no religious services scheduled, but a gathering of celebration and remembrance will be planned for family and friends at a later date. If you want to honor Al’s memory, the family suggests donations to the Friends of the Eastham Library. For online condolences, please visit www.nickersonfunerals.com.


  • At Al’s request there are no religious services scheduled, but a gathering of celebration and remembrance will be planned for family and friends at a later date


Alfred "Al" J. Sette Jr.

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Judith Brainerd

August 8, 2019

"Al was one of the good ones." That is what my husband, Dave, would have said. The three of us, Al, Dave, and I, plus canines Daco and Mandy, spent many, many late afternoons together, walking and talking along the trails in Wiley Park. It was always an interesting conversation, ranging from Eastham politics and issues to world crises to comments on the trials and tribulations of New York (or even Boston) sports teams; all usually peppered with some pithy comments from Al. When we moved to Orleans, we were very sorry to leave Al's company behind, and we missed our daily chats.
I'm sure his death has left a hole in your hearts, and I extend deep sympathy to Kathy and the whole family.
Judy Brainerd

Alan Bredekamp

August 8, 2019

I had the good fortune to work with Al in Budget. Al was an open, generous person. I recall fondly the many office summer picnics he hosted at his house. What you saw, was what you got with Al. There was never any doubt about what he was thinking or how he felt.

Mark roselli

August 7, 2019

Al I am so sorry for your loss.. I have many fond memories of your father and my experiences with him in high school. My condolences to your family. The times we had at your house growing up were epic, should be a movie... Miss you buddy !

Mel Scott

August 7, 2019

I played with Al on the Chatham Squires softball team in the Cape Cod Senior Softball league about 15 years ago and always enjoyed his intelligent commentary on the politics of the day. Great memories.

Ann Crozier

August 7, 2019

Kathy & Family, I am so sorry for your loss. Al became an instant friend when we moved to Eastham. The adventures we all shared in Sicily and Ireland will remain with us forever! I will miss his Italian wit and flavoring! Love to all!