Carl Frederick Schoenfelder

April 4, 1972July 25, 2021

Carl Frederick Schoenfelder – April 4, 1972 to July 25, 2021

We all grieve the passing of our beloved son, brother, and friend, Carl Frederick Schoenfelder. He suffered a fatal heart attack at age 49.

Carl is survived by his parents, John and Diane Schoenfelder, and his sister Katherine Anne Schoenfelder. His beloved poodle, Kosmo, suffered from thyroid cancer and died in April of this year. Carl’s identical twin brother, David Rankin Schoenfelder, died in 2002.

Carl was a graduate of The Pathway School in Audubon, PA, the North Penn High School in Lansdale, PA as well as the Upper Bucks Vocational Technical School in Perkasie, PA. When he was twelve years old, he convinced the owners of Merrymead Farm to hire him, and he loved his work there with the cows and pigs. He formed an amazing friendship with a Rottweiler named Rott during those years.

After high school, Carl was employed as a laboratory technician by Smith Kline Beecham. At one point he was named as employee of the month, and was written up in the company newsletter.

When Carl moved to Cape Cod, MA in 2005, we all realized that he was an extra-ordinarily gifted lobsterman, shellfisher and fisherman. He joined the Cape Cod Salties and loved their meetings and competitions. His walls were covered with the awards that he won. Carl also very much enjoyed his work with the Barnstable Association for Recreational Shellfishing (BARS), where he served as a good volunteer and board member.

Carl will be remembered as being kind, hardworking, and a very good friend.

A service to celebrate his life will be at the Nickerson Funeral Home, 77 Eldredge Park Way, Orleans, MA, at 3 PM on Wednesday August 11, 2021.


  • Celebration of Life

    Wednesday, August 11, 2021


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John and Tacie Sternbergh

August 6, 2021

Our earliest memories of Carl are from family get togethers when the two adorable, identical little boys (Carl and David) would burst in the house wearing the same outfits, in (thank you, Diane) different colors. It was impossible to tell them apart, so we would try to remember who was wearing which color when they walked in the door. Our younger daughters could never tell them apart in those early years. After a tussle one time, our daughter came up and cried, "Mommy, the blue one hit me!" Thankfully it was a little easier to tell them apart as they got older, but to us, one thing never changed. Their quick grins and ready smiles were always there.
We did not get to see Carl as much when he was older, but when we think of him now, we will always remember that smile. It does not surprise us that he had many good friends who will miss him and remember him fondly. He was one of the good guys. He worked hard and found the things that he did well and that made him happy. He was an animal lover, a proud firefighter when he was younger, and then a great fisherman!
To John, Diane and Kathy, we are so very sorry for the loss of your wonderful son and brother.

Wendy Gothan

August 2, 2021

Lynn ;
So sorry for your loss. Carl left this world much to soon. You are in my thoughts & prayers.

John Cutrone

August 2, 2021

I am saddened to hear this news. What a genuinely nice person and family. Please know that Carl is remembered by so many in such good ways. I am thinking of him and his family. John Cutrone

Rebecca Holmes

August 2, 2021

Dear Diane and John,

I was so sad to hear of the passing of your beloved son, Carl. May cherished memories sustain you during this difficult time.


Nicole Benner

August 1, 2021

Words cannot express my sympathy for your family. I always loved visiting with you guys and my heart is breaking with this news.
Kathy, please give me a call when you feel up for it(your numbers are not working for me).
Love and miss you,

Deanna Bigelow

August 1, 2021

My fellow Aries. Thank you for making my mom so happy the past seven years. From ganging up on her together, to watching you with my two adorable nephews, who were just as sad to have heard of your loss. Thanks for coming to Dustins baseball games, and sharing Goldfish with Monty. You were taken way too soon, but clearly God needed you in heaven. Next time I take mom to Grumpys, we will think of you, we will go to celebrate you and enjoy an extra chocolate chip muffin in your honor. I’ll miss you around when I go to visit, but thank you for being so kind to my mom and to me as well.

Until we meet again,

Jim and Deanna Baxter

August 1, 2021

We shared many happy memories with Carl and Lynn, our daughter, when we visited the Cape and when they visited us in Maine.
One special memory was when we took them to New Harbor, Maine. Carl and Lynn visited with the lobstermen as they delivered their catch. We won’t forget that big smile on Carl’s face. It was the highlight of the trip, The delicious lunch serving the fresh seafood was a winner too.
A quote comes to mind that expresses our sadness…”Those who touch our lives stay in our hearts forever.” We are happy that we met, and we lost you way too soon.
Jim and Deanna Baxter

Sheila Snyder

August 1, 2021

John, Diane & Kathy; You have my deepest sympathies in the passing of Carl. May the many fond memories fill the void in your hearts and one day bring a smile. HUGS

Joan & Gil Stone

August 1, 2021

We grieve with John and Diane on the loss of their fine son, Carl.
He was always very kind to us and we appreciated his company.
Joan & Gil Stone

Larry and Jeanne Hayward

July 31, 2021

Dearest Diane and John,
Your son Carl was a beautiful presence in this world - a gentle, kind, and loving soul. We mourn his passing, and we want you to know we are here for you. Larry and Jeanne Hayward