Jay Patrick Kennedy

May 6, 1941September 20, 2018
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A life well lived, and a man well loved. A man that you would want at your side, a man that never faltered in his love, his strength or his honesty. The kind of guy you wish you were, or at least you could call in a pinch. He approached life with wit, humor and a sparkle in his eye. And he approached death the same way. Jay was born in Paterson NJ, the son of Dr. Eugene T. and Helen M. Kennedy. Jay’s father, as a general practitioner in a small town, was witness to many miraculous things, including the birth of his future daughter-in-law, Polly Stewart. Jay and Polly became high school sweethearts, lovers and best friends, who just celebrated their 55th wedding anniversary. Jay attended St. Bonaventure University, where he was an active member of the ROTC. After graduation, he and Polly were married at Saint Mary’s Church in Pompton Lakes, NJ and were stationed at Fort Sill, Oklahoma where Jay served as Allied Liaison Officer and achieved the rank of First Lieutenant in the United States Army. Fort Sill was the starting point for their family, where daughter Liz was born and the launch pad for their next two wonderful daughters Mary Cate and Megan. For work, most of Jay’s time was spent at IBM as a salesman for everything from typewriters to mid range computers. An original Garden Stater, he and Polly retired to Cape Cod in 2002, where they embraced a whole new life joining Chatham Harwich Newcomers Club with its myriad of new friends and activities, Cranberry Valley Golf Club, the Mid-Cape Men’s Club and a woodworking group that faced challenges like creating a 3 foot long wooden screw for the gearing of a windmill. Jay was a regular volunteer at the Family Pantry of Cape Cod, Meals on Wheels, and Chatham First Night. He and Polly loved to travel from here to there, from the Grand Canyon to China, hand in hand, on foot, on a bike, on a whim. Jay loved to tinker. He loved to fix. He loved to make it right, exactly right. He was an engineer without a degree. He inspired, he made us laugh, and he made us better people. That is about as good as you can ask. He was an inspiration of patience, of humility, of fortitude, and of love. Jay leaves behind a legacy of love that includes his wife Polly, daughters Megan, Mary Cate (Devey) and husband Larry, Liz (Thornton) and husband Kevin, his cherished grandchildren, Jay and his wife Katherine, Matthew, Kelly, Cate, Sean, Ryan and Luke, and his devoted bedside companion Bailee. He also leaves behind his beloved siblings Sister Marigene of Olean NY, Rhe of New York, NY and Terry and wife Beth of Poughkeepsie NY, sister-in-law Meg of Ormond Beach, FL. Jay is predeceased by his brother Tim.

Friends & family are invited to an informal celebration of Jay’s life on Monday, September 24 between the hours of 5 and 8 PM. Light fare will be served. Cranberry Valley Golf Course Clubhouse, 183 Oak Street, Harwich, MA 02645

The funeral mass will be held at the St. Joan of Arc Church in Orleans, MA on Tuesday September 25th at 11 am.

In lieu of flowers, donations may be made to the Family Pantry of Cape Cod , 133 Queen Anne Rd, Harwich, MA 02645, as well as St. Jude's Research Hospital, 501 St. Jude Place, Memphis, TN 38105 or to Multiple Myeloma Research Foundation, 383 Main Avenue, 5th Floor Norwalk, CT 06851.


  • Polly Kennedy, Wife
  • Megan Kennedy, Daughter
  • Mary Cate Devey, Daughter
  • Liz Thornton, Daughter


  • Celebration of Life Monday, September 24, 2018
  • Mass of Christian Burial Tuesday, September 25, 2018

Jay Patrick Kennedy

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Linda Smith

December 3, 2018

Dear Polly,

I just "happened" upon Pat's obit when I was searching for someone else. What great memories I have of him at our gatherings with George and Barbara. Thinking of you and will be in touch more directly.
Love, Linda Smith

Lauren Stewart

September 28, 2018

My fondest memories of Uncle Pat are from the pool parties in Kinnelon - with Aunt Polly and cousins Megan, Liz and Mary Cate…and so many others. Wildly splashing those pesky horse flies away. Eating that delicious marinated steak and then having to wait the longest 30 minutes to get back into the pool. To swim in the deep end and do cannonballs off of the diving board, we had to pass the swim-the-length-of-the-pool test. I’d say, “I can’t do it!” Uncle Pat responded, “Can’t means won’t.” “Ok, then I won’t!” And Uncle Pat always came back with, “Won’t means can’t.” The day I passed that swimming test was one of the best days of my childhood.

If we were in the pool late enough for it to get dark out, we absolutely loved it when Uncle Pat lit the tiki torches.

Some of the best memories ever.

Rest in peace, Uncle Pat.


Richard & Pat Kunzier

September 24, 2018

Dear Polly,

We are sorry to hear about Pat's passing.

I fondly remember our high school years and the many good times we had together. Pat was a terrific friend, always happy, always caring, and as our yearbook stated "always had a extra seat in his car for a friend."


Dick and Pat Kunzier

Bob and Marie Becker

September 24, 2018

Marie and I will forever remember the many good times we shared with Jay and Polly, whether it was climbing the mountains of New Zealand or a glass of wine on the deck. Jay will always be remembered as the firm handshake, quick smile and sharp wit. May he rest in peace.
Bob and Marie Becker

John and Terry Fasciano

September 24, 2018

So sorry to hear of Jay’s passing. Our heartfelt condolences go to Polly, Liz, Mary Cate, Meagan, and family. We have many fond memories from Poinsettia Court. Jay was a loving husband, father and friend. He will be missed.
Our thoughts and prayers will are with you.
Love, Terry and John

Mike Pelrine

September 24, 2018

Aunt Polly, Liz, Mary-Cate and Megan
So sorry to hear about Uncle Pat. I have so many fun and fond memories of sharing time with all of you from my younger years through my teenage years. So many Christmas parties, (5-golden rings!), swimming in your pool and having fun. Uncle Pat was such a warm, welcoming and classy guy. I will always remember his sense of humor and his laugh! He will be sorely missed. Our thoughts and prayers are with all of you.
Mike, Linda, Matt and Ryan Pelrine

Meg Kennedy

September 24, 2018

My mind -full of joyful memories and my heart- bursting with love for the family who embraced me-
are with you always. Meg

Lou/RoseMary Lombardi

September 24, 2018

Remembering all the fun times at get togethers in and around Pompton Lakes. Jay has left lasting memories of those times and a lasting smile
.for family and friends. Our sympathy to you Poly , the children and grandchildren on your loss. Lou and RoseMary Lombardi

Leslie/John Hardy

September 24, 2018

We are so saddened to learn of the passing of Jay. Our deepest thoughts and prayers are with you and your family. What a wonderful man!! Love and friendship.....Leslie and John Hardy

Joan & Gil Stone

September 23, 2018

Unbelievable! Jay looked so improved at the August Mid-Cape Men's Club luncheon.
We had a great conversation about mutual interests and things to come.
Our hearts go out to Polly and family and we wish them divine comfort in these sad days.
Joan & Gil Stone