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Carol Ann Treleaven

January 11, 1956November 20, 2020
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TRELEAVEN, Carol Ann (nee Jackman) Peacefully at Lakeridge Health Oshawa, after a courageous battle with cancer on Friday, November 20th, 2020 at 64 years of age. Beloved wife of the late Micheal. Loving mother of Elyse (Wes) McLean and Nicole (Daniel) Quick. Carol will be fondly remembered by her brothers and sisters Heather, Susan (John), David, Patti (Curtis), Warren (Janet), her in-laws, many nieces, nephews, cousins and friends. Due to COVID 19 visitation and Celebration of Life will be by invite only at OSHAWA FUNERAL HOME, 847 King Street West (905-721-1234). Visitation will be held on Friday, November 27th from 12:30 p.m. until time of service in the chapel at 1:30 p.m. Please join the family to celebrate Carol’s life via livestream@ www.funeraweb.tv Memorial donations to Princess Margaret Foundation or Hearth Place would be appreciated.

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Pat Henry

November 27, 2020

Elyse and Nicole, I am so sorry for the loss of Carol. I have many memories of our extended families when we were all younger. Gord and I enjoyed the visits from you both and your mom and dad. My thoughts are with you both at this time. Love always Aunt Pat

The picture of the four of you was taken. in Hornings Mills

Pat Henry

November 27, 2020

Christina Stubbs

November 24, 2020

My deepest condolences to Elyse and Nicole and all the family at this very difficult time. Carol will be forever remembered for her genuine kindness, patience and her beautiful smile. I had the pleasure to work with her at Makita for many years. A mother is with us always, first in her lifetime, then forever in our memories.

Al Pardhan

November 24, 2020

A Very Kind, Polite, Humble, Smiling, Helpful and Positive Person

Carol was Professional In Her Work and Her Attitude Was Always Very Positive

Her Requests Were Always With A Smile And Patience

Prayers For The Eternal Soul











Janet Trower-Jackman

November 23, 2020

Carol was a walking dictionary of movie and book trivia. We could always call upon her to ask, what was that movie, with the actress?
During the many family gatherings over the years, she was the first to come and help Mom get organized. Although there were many discussions, which often became quite loud, she was able to see everyone's point of view.
I am inspired by her grace. She knew herself, faced life with courage. She was genuine.

Cathy Groom

November 23, 2020

My deepest condolences to Carol's daughters and family. Before I retired I had the honour of working with her at Makita Finance for over seven years. She was very professional and proficient in her work. But that took second place to her wonderful, warm, friendly disposition and she had a delightful laugh. She will be missed by many.

Brenda and Gord Wray

November 22, 2020

Our deepest condolences.
Forever in our hearts.
Always here for you all
Love
Brenda and Gord.


Linda O’Brien

November 22, 2020

Dearest Nicole, Daniel and family,
We are so very sorry to hear of your Mom’s passing. Your memories of her and the thankfulness that she was able to be with you and celebrate your wedding day will always be in your heart. As difficult as this time is, continue to talk, laugh and cry...your days will get easier. She will always be with you.
Love Linda and Murray xoxo

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Biography

“Seeing is believing.” For many, those words simply represent a motto. But for Carol Ann Treleaven, it summarized in every way who she was. She was modest, quiet and observant, taking in everything around her and always thinking before acting. She was a realist, someone who was efficient and practical in everything she did. She was a friendly person who truly cared about those around her.

      Carol was born on January 11, 1956 at Peel Memorial Hospital in Brampton, Ontario. She was the daughter of William and Colleen Jackman and was raised in Willowdale, Ontario, she was brought up to be tolerant and trustworthy. As a child, she learned to be conscientious, responsible and punctual. These were all traits that she would carry with her throughout her life.

      As a young girl, Carol was always aware of how others around her felt and this quality served her well. With a deep capacity to tolerate the feelings of others, Carol was generally able to avoid conflicts. It seemed as if Carol was the family member who was always working to keep stress at bay. Preferring a quiet environment where she could concentrate, Carol also had the ability to relate well with her family and friends. Carol was raised with five siblings. She had three older sisters, Heather, Susan and Patti, one older brother, David and one younger brother, Warren. Carol was constantly involved in activities with her family. Carol and her siblings had the typical rivalries while growing up but they deeply cared for each other and shared many life experiences over the years.

      Growing up, Carol was one of those children who didn’t need to be in the center of a whirlwind of activity. She was content to entertain herself. Carol was never pushy when it came to games and other activities, but rather, she was able to enjoy the pure fun these could bring. In just about everything she did as a child, Carol was intent on pleasing both the adults and the other children around her. Carol took part in a number of activities as a child. She took part in ballet lessons and highland dancing lessons. In her spare time she liked playing Barbies, watching Star Trek and reading. Carol's memorable achievements included participation in dance recitals.

      Carol enjoyed learning. She always had a great memory and was particularly skilled at retaining factual information. Carol was generally quiet in class, learning best through observation. She often showed great concentration and was competent at completing the tasks at hand. Good with details, Carol was painstaking and accurate in her efforts. All of these talents culminated in a successful high school career. She graduated from George Vanier High School in 1974. Carol enjoyed some courses more than others, having favourite subjects and teachers. Her favourite class in high school was Film Studies. Carol was in the Passion Play put on by the church in downtown Toronto at around age 15. She raised enough funds to travel to Paris, France for a school trip. While Carol did not attend college or university she did take some accounting courses to further her career.

      Most folks would say that Carol was shy until they got to know her. Those who were privileged to know her well learned that she was a solid, good friend. Carol was reluctant to generalize about people, and she based her friendships on her personal experiences. Because of this, Carol best trusted those people that she truly knew. She was concerned about how those around her felt, and she always seemed to uncover the positive side of people. She could relate to others and had the ability to see their point of view, to “walk a mile in their shoes,” as the saying goes. The friends that she made, Carol kept. While growing up, her best friend was Carol Jarvie who lived next door in Brampton. Later in life, she became friends with Ruth Yates.

      Love can’t be defined but must be experienced. That was so true for Carol. On June 28, 1975 Carol married Michael Robert Treleaven at St. Matthew the Apostle Oriole of Willowdale, Ontario. She was totally committed to Michael and maintained traditional ideals about marriage. It was as if Carol naturally sensed her spouse’s needs, and accepted those feelings unconditionally. Although Carol disliked conflict, she did not take flight from discord, but rather sought to preserve harmony even during the most trying times.

      Carol was a good mother to her children. She had “old fashioned” parental values and could handle typical family conflicts in a fair and calm manner. Because she trusted emotions, Carol was reluctant to force issues and used gentle persuasion to resolve situations. In this way she seemed to radiate an aura of warmth and caring to those around her, always thinking before acting. In addition, Carol was a master planner. No matter how hectic life around her might be, she seemed to know and track everyone’s schedule. Carol was blessed with two daughters, Elyse and Nicole.

      If you gave Carol a deadline, she would meet it. At work, Carol was always on task. Without hesitation, Carol could adhere to any assignment and see it through to its completion. Her primary occupation was in Account Payable. She was employed for 20+ years with Makita Canada in Whitby, Ontario and several years with Varta. During that time, Carol excelled in working with small groups in order to complete assignments. She was able to quickly grasp concrete ideas and could organize and plan the best way to accomplish things with remarkable consistency. Carol was good at staying on track and was considerate in listening to what others had to say. In this way, Carol had a true gift for being able to come up with practical resolutions to difficult problems. She was often the team member who managed to put forth a win/win solution for all parties.

      Carol liked to experience things first hand, in addition to simply learning about them. This quality influenced Carol's choice of leisure time activities. A methodical and patient worker, Carol preferred to set aside uninterrupted time to work on her hobbies. Her favorite pursuits were travel, movies, Star Trek, musicals, reading, Disney, attending plays and musical shows. Carol was one of the first in her family to get a VCR to watch her favourite movies.

      While thorough and measured in her approach to things, Carol often liked to physically do things rather than just think about them. She was like that with sports. She also enjoyed the statistical data and the facts behind the sports. In this way, she was something of a sports fan and enjoyed watching her favourite teams whenever she got the opportunity. Tops on her list were football (NFL), she had an in depth knowledge about players, the plays, trades and coaching. She enjoyed watching with her father and husband.

            An individual who respected and maintained traditional values, her faith was important to Carol. Her compassion, consideration and sympathy toward others was evident in her personal beliefs. She was a member of the Anglican Church from 1959 - 1970 at Christ Church in Brampton and St. Matthew the Apostle Oriole in Willowdale. She was confirmed at age 13.

      Anyone who travelled or went on vacation with Carol had smooth sailing. It was often taken for granted that she was the trip planner. She would start early and examine all of the possibilities, selecting the best and most effective options. Favourite vacations included Disney World, Italy, and a Caribbean Cruise with her sister.

      Carol had Collage, the cat, who was her best friend for 15 years. Her family was rounded out by her cat Felix who she had for a couple of years before needing to be re-homed due to Elyse's allergies. Many cats "passed through" her homes in Willowdale and Brampton. She had a fondness for a white cat who turned out to be pregnant and had three kittens.

      Carol passed away on November 20, 2020 at Lakeridge Health in Oshawa, Ontario. She fought a brave two year battle against cancer. She is survived by her children Elyse and Nicole, her sisters Heather, Susan and Patti and her brothers David and Warren. Services were held at Oshawa Funeral Home. Carol was laid to rest in Groveside Cemetery in Whitby, Ontario with her husband Michael.

      It is said that some people can’t see the forest for the trees. Carol was able to focus on each individual tree, tending to its needs, thus making the forest stronger as a whole. Carol was a trustworthy, pragmatic and sympathetic person, the kind of woman to whom everyone was drawn. She was thorough and practical. Carol Treleaven was very literal with her words. You always knew where you stood with Carol. She will be missed.