Thomas Peter Carlin

June 14, 1962September 4, 2013

Carlin, Thomas P.

Incredible father, brother, son, soul mate and friend Thomas P. Carlin passed away unexpectedly on September 4, 2013 at the young age of 51. He leaves behind his beloved children and the light of his life, Tess (20) and Bryan (16). He also leaves his soul mate and fiancé Nicole Kilborn, her children and his lifelong friend, Jim Hack.

He was born June 14, 1962, spending his early years in Miller Beach, Indiana and moved with his parents and siblings to Arizona in 1970. Tom graduated from Alhambra High School in 1980 and went on to Arizona State University. He spent most of his professional career at American Express where he met Jim and leaves behind many treasured friends and coworkers.

Tom was known for his compassion, humor, integrity, loyalty, his voice and his music but most of all for the love, pride and hope he had for Tess and Bryan, and for the years yet to come with Nicole and her children. Tom was an avid biker and will be severely missed on a very special 20 mile stretch of canal that he rode with passion everyday. This loss leaves a tremendous hole in so many hearts that may never be filled.

Tom also leaves his parents; Randall and Sharon Carlin, sister Janis Clark (John), brother Randy (Debbie), brother Jeff (Chris), Tess & Bryan's mother Debbie and a legacy of aunts, uncles, nieces, nephews, great nieces & nephews that will forever miss him and the way he filled our lives.

A special thanks from our family to Nicole, Jim and Kathy Mason for their strength and support of Tess and Bryan and the rest of our family during this difficult time.

For my brother and my friend -

"we wept when it was all done..... for being done too soon for being done too soon"

Safe passage Tom. We love you and will miss you so much until we see you again.

Arrangements are being handled by Shadow Mountain Mortuary in Phoenix. Please join us for a celebration of Tom's life on Saturday, September 21st at 11:00 AM at El Pedregal at the Boulders Resort, Tohono Conference Center, 34505 N. Scottsdale Rd., Scottsdale, AZ 85266. Please bring and share your favorite stories or memories of Tom's life. Casual dress is suggested. In lieu of flowers, Tom would be honored with a donation in his mother's name to the Alzheimer's Association, Desert Southwest Chapter;


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January 19, 2014

Tommy I miss you every day. My birthday is coming up. But of course Valentines day. My ever so special VD cards.

Randy Carlin

September 23, 2013

To everyone who attended the Celebration for Tom on Saturday, thank you for making it such a special event for his family, friends and co-workers that gathered together. The stories that were shared were a reminder of what he meant to a lot of people. We will move forward with Tom in our hearts and the memories that were rekindled on Saturday. Again thanks so much for such an outpouring of love for Tom and concern for his family. To my brother - until we meet again, I will miss you and think of you often, especially through the songs I play and hear that remind me of you and our time together.

Lyle & Ann Crosby

September 17, 2013

We have so many memories with Randall,
Sharon and family. We would get together often and had great times.
Also, shared the fellowship through church. Tom, we will see you again!!!

Lyle & Ann Crosby

Melissa Stewart

September 14, 2013

My sincerest condolences to Tom's family during this difficult time. My heart goes out to Bryan and Tess, especially. Namaste, Tommy.

Tom Williams

September 14, 2013

My sincerest condolences to the family! Tom was a great person, and a good classmate at Alhambra High School.

Cheryl Crosby-McAvoy

September 13, 2013

I have so many great memories with Tom. I had the privilege of being his girlfirend in our early highschool days. He loved to sing and play the guitar for me! Neal Diamond, Cherry, Cherry was his favorite song to sing to me! I too will never forget riding in the butterscoth convertable that he was so proud of! We had a close knit group back then and managed to stir up quite a bit of trouble. Later as we grew older Tom got to meet my first born baby daughter, who is now 26! I still have the pictures of him holding her. At that time i didn't know if he would have children of his own. We lost touch over the years but managed to reach out to eachother a couple of years ago through email. All he could talk about was how much he loved his kids and how proud he was! We made plans several times to get together and meet but between the two of us something always came up. I miss you Tom, but I will see you again, I will! My deepest sympathies to the whole Carlin family and to his closest friends.

Cathy Sargent

September 13, 2013

My heart goes out to Tom's family, friends & loved ones. I met Tom at work in 1981. He was an immediate friend, warm hearted, kind & funny. I had the pleaseure of having lunch with him not to long ago to "catch up" and was reminded of the dinners and the many guitar entertainment sessions he provided for me and my parents. A life that was cut way to short, Tom, you will remain always on our minds & forever in our hearts.

Debbie Button-Haupt

September 12, 2013

My heartfelt condolences to the Carlin family.


September 12, 2013

Tommy, so many good memories are coming to mind. So many crazy things we did. So proud to be your brother. I think of all the rides to school in your butterscotch lemon. I remember the time you called me to see why that Midget would not start and I found the carburetor hanging loosely off the side of the intake. You asked me if that was the problem. I still laugh when I think about that. I will never forget golf balls and pumpkins and Moosehead in the AHS auditorium. I remember listening to Dr Demento or ball games on with our transistor radios under our pillows. You were a good brother Tom.

Suzan Morris

September 11, 2013

Bryan and Jimmy,
I am so sorry for your loss. Tom was an amazing father and friend and I know the void of his presence in your lives brings you such unspeakable sadness. My thoughts and prayers are with you both, as well as the rest of Tom's cherished family.