John M. Grande

October 6, 1947September 24, 2021
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John M. Grande, age 73, of Stony Brook, New York passed away on Friday, September 24, 2021. John was born October 6, 1947 in Brooklyn, New York.

Beloved husband of Kathleen A. Loving father of Christopher and his wife Kristine, Brianna Grande and Michael and his fiancée Ashley Abrahamson. Cherished grandfather of Jackson, Summer and Zoe Grande.

Reposing at O.B. Davis Funeral Homes, 4839 Nesconset Highway, Port Jefferson Station, NY. A visitation for John will be held Wednesday, September 29, 2021 from 2-4 and 7-9 PM. Funeral Mass on Thursday at 10:45 AM at St. James R.C. Church, 429 Route 25A, Setauket, NY. Cremation Private.

Fond memories and expressions of sympathy may be shared at for the Grande family.


  • Kathleen A. Grande, Wife
  • Christopher Grande (Kristine), Son
  • Brianne Grande, Daughter
  • Michael Grande (Ashley Abrahamson), Son
  • Jackson Grande, Grandson
  • Summer Grande, Granddaughter
  • Zoe Grande, Granddaughter



  • Visitation

    Wednesday, September 29, 2021

  • Funeral Mass

    Thursday, September 30, 2021


  • Cremation Private


John M. Grande

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Jeff Byrne

October 4, 2021

My heartfelt condolences go out to the Grande family.
As a friend and colleague, I will always remember my fond memories of Jack and I teaching together at the Daly school in Port Washington. Our friendship extended out to both being Ranger fans at school taking on all those kids who were islander fans during the cup years, to being partners on our Friday afternoon bowling league, but most of all, just good friends.
May god bless you and may you Rest In Peace.

Sharon Frank

September 28, 2021

Jack was a wonderful, hands-on teacher who was dedicated to his students. He believed in experiential learning and was a wonderful mentor and colleague of mine for 20 years in 6th grade at Weber Middle School. He truly was one of a kind. Jack was also deeply devoted to his wife, children and grandchildren. My deepest condolences. He will be greatly missed.

Meredith Tisch

September 28, 2021

Jack was a father figure to me during my childhood. A lot of my childhood memories are with the Grande Family. Jack treated me and loved me like I was one of his own children. And I will forever cherish all of those memories. He was the most caring man, the sweetest soul. Sending all of my love and my deepest condolences to the Grande Family.
Love you all so much, Meri
Forever the little pumpkin.

Edward Conti

September 28, 2021

I will always remember Jack’s smile and enthusiasm.
He was a creative and compassionate educator. Jack was always willing to share his time and ideas with colleagues.
He touched the future through his family, friends, and most importantly his students.

"When you lose someone you love,
you gain an angel you know"

Susan Ethier

September 28, 2021

To the Grande Family...I am so very sorry for your loss. Jack will be missed by every person who's life he touched. I have so many wonderful memories. I team-taught with Jack for eight years at Sousa. My special education students quickly became part of Jack's mainstream classroom. Jack made sure that every student was comfortable. He was an incredible teacher who taught "outside the box".Sleepaway trips to Sailors Haven and Taconic Environmental Center were all carefully orchestrated by Jack. Thanksgiving dinners...prepared in school.. from scratch.. were the highlights of each year. Gingerbread houses carefully planned with Jack's guidance.Halloween parties and Jack's "Great Pumpkin" costume were amazing! Jack frequently spoke about his family to his classes. He was so proud of his children. Kathy your support over the years made so many activities possible(shopping for 30 people for a week must have been overwhelming). When a former student of ours was diagnosed with cancer Jack sat at her bedside on many afternoons retelling many of our classroom adventures. Her parents shared with us that ...being in "Jack's class was the best time in her short life." Heaven surely added an angel❤

Marilyn Rodahan

September 28, 2021

To Kathy and The Whole Grande Family,
Please know how much Jack loved you all. He was very proud to be a dad and a grandpa. I enjoyed hearing about you all whenever we had a meeting or passed each other in the long hallways of Weber MS, his home away from home. You are all in my thoughts and prayers.
Marilyn M Rodahan

John "Jack" McCormack

September 28, 2021

Sincere condolences to all the Grande family. I taught with John for many years. One thing that I remember the most is the very high esteem his students held him in.

Josh Cover

September 27, 2021

As one of Chris’ long-standing friends from Long Island, I knew the Grande family well. I’m pretty sure I kind of got under Mr Grande’s skin (I didn’t even know his name was John…it was always Mr Grande)…cause I would take food without asking and clearly didn’t have the best manners. So I always thought of Mr Grande as the strict dad. Well, a few decades later and I have three little ones… and I am not making this up…but I think to myself often when it comes to parenting, what would Mr Grande do…his kids were polite and did chores (w/o complaining) and had blue collar skills… it was awesome.

Anyway, RIP Mr Grande… you made a lasting influence on everyone.

Doris Donohue

September 27, 2021

Jack brought joy into the lives of many myself included. He was thirteen years younger than I and tried to convince me to retire from Daly school so he could get tenure. As a first grade teacher my days were busy with school things and often problems, his smile and kind words often came at just the right time to lift me up. We also had a home in Montauk his beloved place and he did stop in to visit bringing once again his delightful personality. I am shocked to learn that he is gone but I know he will not be forgotten.
Fondly remembered,
Doris and Frank Donohue

Kevin O’Leary

September 26, 2021

As I think of our time to together Jack I can only say Thank You my friend . As our friend Tom Walsh said we spent alot of great times around a camp fire cooking something special Our canoe trips together are filled with endless memories Mr Grande the teacher , scout leader, dad and best friend to so many I hope you are resting in front of a camp fire with all those who have passed before you Til we meet ... RIP