Jones, Rich & Barnes Funeral Home

199 Woodford Street, Portland, ME


Lois M. Gay

June 23, 1926September 4, 2020

Lois M. (Buck) Gay, 94, passed away on September 4, 2020. Born in Portland on June 23, 1926, Lois was the daughter of Archie O. and Madge T. Buck. A graduate of Deering High School, Lois grew up in Portland and was one of three children. Her siblings, Phyllis (Buck) Barton and Richard T. Buck pre-deceased her. Growing up, she took dance lessons from Three Arts Studio for 13 years and performed locally to entertain various groups and at the USO to entertain the troops during World War II. Lois spent many happy summers on Peaks Island where the family had a cottage. It was there that she met Francis, a born and raised islander. She worked briefly as a secretary until her marriage to Francis in 1947, became a full time mother and raised four children. Later with the children grown, she worked as a secretary for the St. Joseph's Church. She was an avid reader, knitter, bridge player and bowler. She belonged to a bowling league for many years. Walking was her passion, as well as Francis's, and there were many walks around the island and after Thanksgiving dinners, habits that her family keep today (mostly!). Lois also volunteered for many years during the summer as a docent at the 5th Maine Museum on Peaks Island, her “happy place.” Francis pre-deceased her in November of 2018 after 71 years of marriage. Lois is survived by her children, Marcia F. Gay and Kathleen M. Gay of Seattle, WA, Dianne (Gay) Konon and her husband, Michael from Hampstead, NH and Kevin Gay and his wife, Deborah of Elton, Peterborough, Cambridgeshire, England. She also had 2 grandchildren, Keith M. Konon of Hampstead, NH and Jaimey L. Gero and her husband Ryan of Derry, NH, as well as 3 great grandchildren. The family would like to thank all the fabulous staff at Avita of Stroudwater, as well as Compassus Hospice for the loving and compassionate care Lois received. No services will be held. Lois was a lover of all animals and specifically donated to local organizations. Anyone wishing to make a donation in her memory could be made to: The MSSPA (Maine State Society for the Protection of Animals) 279 River Road, Windham ME and/or the Animal Refuge League, 217 Landing Road, Westbrook ME 04092.


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Lois M. Gay

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Kathleen Mayhew

September 18, 2020

I am so sorry to hear of your Mother's passing. My Dad Joe Mayhew knew Hap and Lois for many years and always enjoyed their company. I met them at our house several times and was fortunate to meet Kathleen (at school, I think.) I know it is always too soon to lose a parent but I am glad you had her with you for a long time. My dad died in 1980, so we lost touch. Please know that many of us are grieving with you. Kathleen Mayhew

kathi gay

September 18, 2020

Mom was the sweetest most gentle soul I've known in my life, and I always felt her love and acceptance whatever I did . ( But yes, Ellen, she did boil kidneys for the cat and I can still smell it today!)
Bye, Mom. I love you. Hi to Dad.

pictured are Mom with her siblings on Sixth St. I'm the one in the carriage and Marcia in the stroller

Jeanne Adamson Sawtelle

September 18, 2020

Dear Lois,
You have certainly earned a rest. So many years we shared time on Peaks, You, Fran and Ida are some of my happiest memories of my childhood on Peaks. You are all together again and I'm sure it was a happy reunion. Rest in peace, dear one.

Ellen McGrath

September 18, 2020

Dear Kathy, Marcia, Dianne, and Kevin,

I fondly remember your mother as one of the kindest and prettiest mothers in the neighborhood. And how happy Sammy the cat must have been with those frequent boiled kidney treats! Our mothers found enjoyment in each others company in later years with their shared interests and neighborhood history.

With deepest sympathy for your loss, the McGrath family sends our love.

Fondly, Ellen McGrath

Sylvia Harlow

September 16, 2020

Dear Lois, I so fondly remember the 26 years we worked together at St. Joseph's Parish. We loved "our favorite secretary", and had so much fun in our office. So sorry for your family's loss of a lovely lady.
Love, Sylvia Harlow

Jill Starbird Clarke

September 15, 2020

Dear Lois
As my second Mom I will hold you in my heart forever.. Rest In Peace with Hap.
Love you💜🙏🏻

Patricia Konon Carroll

September 15, 2020

Dear Lois,
Thank you for opening your heart to us! So many holidays, summer reunions but mostly being a kind soul.

You will be missed but you are always in my heart.


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