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Jones, Rich & Barnes Funeral Home

199 Woodford Street, Portland, ME

OBITUARY

Robert Carl Bruder

May 2, 1963September 25, 2019

Robert (Bob) Bruder, age 56 of Cumberland, passed away unexpectedly on Wednesday, September 25, 2019 at his home after a long battle with depression.

Bob was born on May 2, 1963, in Bridgeport, CT to Robert and Doris (Van Sise) Bruder. At age 12 his family moved to Lewiston where he could be found helping his father at Gene’s Corner Store when not in school. He Graduated Lewiston High School in1981 and continued his education at Husson University earning his degree in Computer Science. He joined a fraternity (TKE) and building life-long friendships.

Bob spent his professional career working in technology for the State of Maine, LL Bean, WEX, TD Bank, NTT Data and most recently as Director of Sales for Arkatechture.

Bob met the love of his life, Karen, while working at LL Bean. He embraced and enjoyed being a father-figure to Karen’s three children. They were married on July 3, 1999, and had two beautiful children together. He was so proud of each member of the family they shared and their many achievements and spoke lovingly of them, often.

Bob enjoyed spending time with friends and family, playing golf, watching the Patriots and the Yankees. Bob was blessed with an incredible ability to connect with people. The impact of this ability was far reaching and in both his personal and professional lives Bob will be remembered for his gentle soul, his kind and generous spirit, and his love for his family.

Bob is predeceased by his parents Robert and Doris Bruder. He is survived by his wife Karen (Lessard) Bruder and children, Adam and Stephanie Bruder of Cumberland, Rachel (Daren) Dionne of Cumberland, Kate (Patrick) Griffin of Scarborough, Eric (Halee) Storey of Cumberland and five beautiful grandchildren. He is also survived by his two sisters, Carole Bruder of Poland, and Laurie (Bill) Dumont, a niece, Paige Dumont and Nephew, Hunter Dumont all of Minot.

A celebration of life will take place at 1 pm on Saturday, October 5, 2019 at Greely Middle School, 351 Tuttle Road, Cumberland Maine. Please show your love and support for Bob by wearing New England Patriots or New York Yankee attire to this celebration.

Please go to www.jonesrichandbarnes.com to share your thoughts, memories and condolences so that these are captured for Bob’s children and family in one place.

In lieu of flowers, please make a donation in Bob’s name to White Pine Community Church (94 Cumberland Rd, North Yarmouth, ME 04097) or The Family Restored (17 Bishop Street, Suite 202 Portland, ME 04103 or thefamilyrestored.org)

  • DONATIONS

  • White Pine Community Church
  • The Family Restored

Services

  • Celebration of Life Ceremony Saturday, October 5, 2019

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Kim Gustafson

October 7, 2019

Karen, Adam, and Stephanie: we are thinking of you and your family, and sending all our very best wishes. We have really appreciated getting to know you all through the Greely XC and track community, and we will always have warm memories of seeing Bob at the meets. Much love and light to you all. Jim, Kim, Jack, and Sophie Gustafson

sarah martin

October 5, 2019

Karen and family ... i am so sorry and devastated to hear about Bob's passing. i have so many great memories of working with bob. Presidents club trips, Toronto client visits, holiday parties and my first visit to Maine. "Bob the builder" is what his client called him. He got that nick name because he brought everyone together with calm, grace and civility. Bob would always greet me with a giant bear hug and ear to ear smile. I hope i never took that for granted. Bob was truly a legend in our business; there are very few people who accomplished the level of success he achieved. There is a reason why he was so successful; he was a magnet that attracted people toward him. You wanted to be in Bob's inner circle. I can't grasp that he is no longer on this earth but truly hope that he has found peace. hugs to you all.

Todd Haney

October 4, 2019

I worked with Bob for over 10 years starting with Cue Data Services and lastly NTT Data. Bob was a people person and he was very successful at what he did. Over the years, he was always very easy to work with and we made a lot of deals together in the staffing business. We were referred to as "Todd the bod" and "The Bob" when a new deal was announced. I liked the fact that very rarely did Bob ever get upset, he was always very even keeled. I considered it to be a great work relationship we had over the years and 3 months ago when we said good by to that work relationship, I never thought it would be the final good by. It was very had to see Bob go, but not as hard as the day I found out he was gone. My heart goes out to the family and I pray that you will find the real peace and joy that comes only when you have a person relationship with our Lord and Savior Jesus Christ.

Sincerely,
Todd Haney

Peter Grinnell

October 3, 2019

In the Spring of 1985, I joined Tau Kappa Epsilon. My stay at Husson University was coming to a close, however. My life had to change for many reasons. I am shocked at Mr. Bruder's passing, and would like to share that he along with my "older" brothers, gave me the support to successfully join TKE and make some lifelong friends. He enjoyed a laugh, Looney Tunes reruns, made us all smile..shared a cold brew. One day I was working on an old amplifier for a friend replacing some electronic components. Bob observed what I was doing, with solder, volt meter and soldering iron at hand. He waited to "laugh" at me at the moment when it was time to power the unit up and test for life...with a smile and sarcastic laugh a trademark of Bob. The unit worked, played loud and clear! He gave me a thumbs-up-disappointed-laugh because it worked! But of course, he wanted me to be successful. I regret not having the chance to know "WAZ" better! My big heart and comforting thoughts go out to the families, friends, and my TKE brothers during this time of sadness!

Rachel Dionne

October 3, 2019

I was saddened to hear of Bob's passing. We worked closely together in IT at WEX. Our offices were next to each other and we spent a lot of time together. After I left WEX, we (usually along with Sally Emery) would get together every few months to catch up and that continued for over 10 years. He always had a smile on his face and stories to tell. He was a joy to be with. I ran into him and Steve Amsden this summer at Dockside in Falmouth and we had a long conversation. We had some good laughs about the "old days". I am going to miss seeing and being with him. My heart goes out to Karen and the children and their families.
-Dick Curry , Portland, ME

Bob and I shared the pallor of an old home in Augusta with three other people as our office space for two years (1988-1990) o the Maine financial system project. We developed a strong bond during that time. He stayed at our house in Olney, Md while attending business conferences in Washington, DC in the early 90s. Once he decided to play tennis with someone in the parking lot of the townhouse development. Luckily, no car windows in the lot got broken. He called me bonehead and that was how I referred to him also. I will miss Bob dearly.
-Robin Myaing, Gaithersburg, Md.

To our baby fraternity brother you're still in our hearts and our minds and of course you're still one with all of your fraternity brothers and loved you very very much! May you find peace and peace for your family and such a hard time. I still have pictures of all the good times and I will hold onto those. To your family my condolences my love and support and my wishes for some healing and any help that we can offer as part of Fraternity or individually do not ever hesitate to call on any of us.
-Micheal LaChapelle, Charlotte/ Hollywood, NC.

Pierre McAlpine

October 3, 2019

I moved to Falmouth for a job with TD with my family back in 2003. Bob was one of the first people I met when I showed up for work. He was smiling from ear to ear. I don't remember what he said to me but his smile said it all: 1) boy are you in for some "fun," 2) it's great to meet you, 3) I'm a troublemaker (in a good way), 4) I like to have fun whatever I'm doing, 5) I don't take myself too seriously, I'm legitimately interested in getting to know you, tell me what you need - I'll help you with just about anything.
I couldn't help but smile back. His outlook was contagious!

Doug Smith

October 3, 2019

Bob’s Payback,
Back when we were in college and TKE brothers, I had the reputation as a bit of a practical joker. We have all known someone like me. The guy who just takes things a little too far or too often. Inevitably, his actions illicit whispers of payback and revenge from those that have been the brunt of those jokes.
One day, two brothers, Bob and Rutman and a cohort of others decided they were going to restore balance in the world. I needed to be taught a lesson. If I could dish it out then I needed to learn to take it. They devised an ingenuous plan that involved a trip to the local pet store to purchase a large quantity of crickets. That night they waited until everyone was asleep and brought their crawling purchase to the hallway just outside my dorm room. The door was locked while I slept but there was a small gap at the bottom. They carefully guided each and every cricket under my door and into my dark room.
I can’t even begin to express the pure joy and elation that these two brothers had telling their story of payback to all that would listen over the next few weeks. Bob had that infectious laugh as he would describe how I had to endure the echoing white noise of crickets chirping under my bed each night.
Next time you are outside on a summer’s evening, listen to the sound of the crickets and the croaking frogs which might remind you of Bob chuckling back when times were simpler.

Laurie Dumont (Bruder)

October 3, 2019

Bert Bronn

October 2, 2019

Waz was the best man in our wedding and was responsible for handling the ring, for the vow exchange. We had an awesome week leading up to the wedding with numerous outings/events and of course jokes & pranks.

While we were dressing for the ceremony, Waz had a classic prank pulled on him that I will never forget. Our TKE Fraternity joker Doug Mehne,went into Bob's tux and exchanged the ring Waz was holding for the ceremony,with a coin. Bob noticed this just prior to the ceremony,but Doug acted like he had no idea what he was talking about.

The ceremony time came and the priest asked for the ring. Bob told the priest " I don't have it ". He reached into his pocket and pulled out the nice pouch he had put the ring in....and found the quarter ! The look on his face and that of the priest & my soon to be wife, was priceless. We then starting hearing light laughter from the crowd . The "lost" ring that Doug had swapped out, was slowly being passed from the end of the groomsman line, back to Bob. In typical Waz fashion, he presented the ring, like nothing ever happened , with a big smile on his face.

That is the guy I will always remember. There are lots of Bob's in the world. There was only one WAZ . Love you Man !

Bert Bronn

June and Bob Gabriel

October 2, 2019

We can’t image the sadness you must be feeling from your lose.
We have many good memories with Bob and your family.
May the love of all those around you help your through these difficult times.
Our sincerest of thoughts are with you today and everyday.

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