July 1, 1982 – June 10, 2021
Phillip Aaron Hatzenbuehler, born July 1, 1982, in Oakland, California. He died June 10, 2021, in Portland, Oregon.
Phillip was a much loved and devoted father, husband, son, and brother. He graduated from Central Kitsap High School in Silverdale, Washington in 2000, and from Portland State University in 2005. That same year, he married his high school sweetheart, Katie Skiff, and they had two beautiful daughters, Lily Victoria and Maya Elizabeth.
Phillip was a family man; having many friends and co-workers who adored him. He loved to hike, bike, and wear whacky tee-shirts; he loved music, especially when he could play piano and sing with his girls.
Phil is survived by his wife and two daughters; parents, David and Patricia Hatzenbuehler of Elgin, Oklahoma; brothers, Israel Michael and Michael David Hatzenbuehler of Dallas- Ft. Worth, Texas; numerous cousins; nieces and nephews; and his lifelong bestfriend, James Riley of Portland, Oregon.
Phillip will forever live in our hearts
In memory of Phil's love for whacky graphic tee-shirts, you are invited to wear your favorite while in attendance to his celebration of life.
In lieu of flowers, the family suggests donations in Phil's name to the American Foundation for Suicide Prevention.
- American Foundation for Suicide Prevention
Celebration of Life
Sunday, June 20, 2021
June 16, 2021
My heart goes out to Phil's family and loved ones during this most difficult and sad time. Phil was such a fantastic guy. What fun we had working together at Wherehouse Music. A more positive, funny, hardworking young man would be hard to find. I am deeply sorrowful to hear of his passing, and pray that he is at peace. Happy trails my friend. David.
June 16, 2021
Phil was so incredibly special as a person. And very precious to me. He was a good friend for several years. Always there with kind words, an open ear, music, Star Trek trivia, hilariously awful 80s videos, and a shared love of MCM Architecture. I always enjoyed the time we shared in the office. Our friendship grew as we both needed companionship and humor to make our way through 2020. I knew after several months of constant, deep communication that Phil was something special, and my feelings for him intensified greatly. How could anyone not fall for a man so kind, endearing, funny, smart, handsome, charming, loving, generous, soft, patient, and good? An incredible man, a great father, and the best friend a person could ask for. More deserving of happiness and love than anyone I’d ever known. I told Phil he was a one in a billion human. The number one human. And I will always believe that.
Our friendship blossomed into love. We both had an intense connection with each other that neither of us could ignore or stop. Something neither of us had ever felt. It was like finding the other half of a whole zipper, where each tooth fit perfectly together. I had such a short time to experience and share romantic love with him. And I will never be the same after. His affection was the most wondrous gift ever bestowed upon me.
Phil, I am so sorry I missed this. I would give anything to be able to go back and stop this. I wanted you to always know that you were enough, that you were amazing and beautiful, that you were everything just as you were. I told you these things everyday, and I hope that you did know. I hope you felt loved and deserving of love from everyone that knew you. Because you were loved so deeply by so many. I hate to know that you were struggling. Thank you for sharing your love. Thank you for the time you shared with me. I am so sorry we didn’t get more of it. You will never leave my heart. I will carry you there, always. I love you.
June 16, 2021
I was Phil’s father-in-law. From the time Katie introduced him to me I knew what a great guy he was. Over the years my fondness only grew . Watching him around family and especially the girls , brought such joy to my heart. He was a amazing dad and loved the girls beyond belief. I was blessed to have been given two amazing daughters and had I had a son I would hope he would be like the Phil I know and loved. He will be missed more than than words can say.
June 16, 2021
Phil was my brother (in law) and he was the first to openly and warmly welcome me into their family. He loved his family over everything else and was fiercely loyal and an incredibly loving and kind father. No matter how far we were, whenever my family needed him, he was there. My heart aches for those he left behind. Praying his memory will always be remembered and honored for the joy and laughter he brought into everyone's lives.
June 15, 2021
Phil is my brother. I will miss him forever. It was my honor and privilege to be his brother, and I always considered him to be my best friend. Sometimes growing up it felt like he was the only constant in my life, since we moved around so much with the Navy. I'm devastated that he is gone, and there are so many things that I will miss without him. I never imagined having to grow old without my brother. I love you, Phil.