Mary J. Deshane

October 13, 1932January 19, 2021

A celebration of life for Mary J. Deshane, 88, of Knapp Station will be held in the spring with a burial to follow at Visitation Cemetery in Norfolk, NY. Mrs. Deshane passed away Tuesday night (January 19, 2021) with her caring family by her side. Mary is survived by her children Alex (Angela) Deshane Jr. of Massena, Elizabeth (John) Guiney of Knappstation, James (Cheryl) Deshane of Knapp Station, and Jennifer (Michael) Jones of Knapp Station; 11 grandchildren, 15 great grandchildren, a brother Francis Wolfe and a sister Rose Wagstaff, both of Norfolk. She was predeceased by her husband Alex Deshane in February 2019, a young son Thomas Deshane, brothers John Wolfe II, Winslow Wolfe and Joseph Wolfe, as well as a sister Thelma Burkum. Mary was born on October 13, 1932 in Norfolk, NY to the late John and Rose (Roshia) Wolfe. She attended Norfolk country school and was an avid harness horse racer during the late 1950s. She married Alex R. Deshane on March 14, 1959 at the Church of Visitation in Norfolk, NY. Mary was a dedicated homemaker who selflessly loved and cared for her family. Mrs. Deshane was a member of The Jolly Agers, and was a former 4-H leader in Knapp Station. She enjoyed spending quality time with her grandchildren and great grandchildren, and greatly enjoyed when her children would play their guitars and piano at family gatherings. She enjoyed gardening and running her hobby farm. She will be remembered for her friendly personality, her warm attitude and loving heart. Arrangements are with the Garner Funeral Service. Memorial donations in Mary’s name should be made to Hospice and Palliative Care of St. Lawrence Valley, 6805 US-11; Potsdam, NY 13676. Memories and condolences can be shared with Mary’s family online at


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Jordan Drummatter

January 25, 2021

You will beyond miss grandma! You will always hold a special place in my heart. Love you so much!❤️

Emily Page

January 25, 2021

We love you, grandma

James Deshane

January 25, 2021

There is so many wonderful things about mom I don't know where to start. At 4ft,11 mom was the strongest person I ever knew,i thank her for being the mother she was,the wisdom, care and love to her family and others as well. I feel so blessed having you as mother, and know your love will always be installed in me forever. Till we meet again mom i love you.

Angela Deshane

January 24, 2021

My sweet Mary..
You became my mother in law and my friend and a grandma to my 2 daughters Emily and Kristen.. July 2011 when I married your eldest son Alex..
We loved you from the start.
Always there for us..
Our memories of you will never fade..
Hoping you are at peace now and dancing in heaven with your sweetheart..
Love you momma deshane .♥️grandma .♥️emily page
♥️kristen page

Alex Deshane

January 24, 2021

To Mother with Love..
May you now rest in peace with Dad and all the others that have gone on before you.
Thank you for the inspiration to keep me going with my music.
Your loving Son Alex...

Nancy Aumell-Fraser

January 23, 2021

Mary was the first Mother i remember,. I met her at the age of 3 years old when my brother and sisters and I became foster children in her mothers home. She protected me, fed me, bathed me and kept me alive those early years when my mother wasn’t able to. She was the bravest person I ever met and to me a giant. I was able thank her as a grown woman and we spoke often and I was able to let her know how important she was to me and that she was the first person I remember loving in my life.. I will miss her sweet voice. Mary left her children a beautiful legacy in that they are the children of a GREAT WOMAN.......

Randy & Barb Agen

January 23, 2021

So sorry for your loss. Mary was a little tiny woman with a great big heart.

Debra and Michael Connor

January 23, 2021

Sorry for your loss. Mary was the sweetest lady. She will be remembered by many.

Mary Jane Purves

January 22, 2021

So sorry for your loss. Mrs. Deshane was always such a friendly,caring lady. She will be missed by many.

Elizabeth Guiney

January 22, 2021

I remember all the love you gave us and Dad ,now your with him and your sweet Thomas I will miss you with all my heart .
You'll be forever with me.