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Brenda G. Tillinghast

August 29, 1948May 21, 2020

Brenda G. Tillinghast died peacefully on May 21, 2020 at her long time residence with her second family of Briarcliffe Manor by her bedside and her devoted daughter Becky ever so present.

Brenda was the daughter of the late Delwin Harris and the late Gladys Smith. Brenda lived with MS and early stage dementia for many years and it never got her down. Her dementia was kind enough to let her hold on to the memories of the ones she loved. Brenda ultimately succumbed to Covid-19. Brenda was a vivacious ray of light that got into the hearts of everyone she met. Brenda was a selfless person and appreciated the simplest things in life. It took only a small gesture of kindness to make her day. If Brenda could make your day, that is what truly made her happy. Brenda made the best of every single day she had on this planet.

In her early days she was an avid horse back rider and trained wild horses, she enjoyed salt water fishing, photography, and camping. She could change a tire or a car battery in just minutes, wash the dirt off and look like a beauty queen later in the day. Brenda spent many happy summers with her children at Fort Getty in Jamestown, RI and she coached her kids baseball teams.

At Briarcliffe, Brenda was a card shark, unbeatable at the game of fish and always having the luck of getting a full card of Bingo while playing with her friends. Brenda looked forward to car rides with her daughter and son-in-law, just to get out for a bit and chat. Brenda anticipated the nice weather to go walking with the Johnston Cops.

Brenda leaves behind a very loving and devoted daughter, Rebecca "Becky" Cappalli-Lepre, son-in-law Jesse N. Lepre, grandson Alex E. Mazika IV, sister Bettina Hetherton of NV, son Edward R. Cappalli of FL, and a long list of a community of friends and loved ones at Briarcliffe Manor. There are not enough words that can sum up all that is "BRENDA"! I hope her positive energy lives on in all of our lives.


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Christopher Sparling

May 28, 2020

Becky and Jesse,

Sending our love and condolences to you both during this difficult time. We hope time alleviates your grief, leaving behind only fond and loving memories. Please know we are always here for you.

Warmest regards,
-Chris & Kerri Sparling

Raymond Lepre

May 26, 2020

I never had the pleasure of meeting Brenda, but feel that I knew her through the loving stories that I would hear from Jesse and Becky. They always would talk about how she loved people and life. How she was a free spirit. I know that spirit will live on as will the love that she had for her family. Please accept our deepest condolences.

The Lepre Family
(Ray, Mare, Jacob, Isabella)

Felicia Lepre

May 26, 2020

Dear Daughter In Law, Becky and my Son Jesse. I'm so sorry about the loss of your Mom. The first time you meet her, you love her. I had a great day with her, and I'm so glad that I had met her. Her first words were do you want to play fish. She will be missed by so many. Just remember Becky, she will always be with you. There is no greater love then a mothers love for her child. Rest In Peace Brenda. Till we meet again. Love Felicia


May 25, 2020

I met Brenda when my mom was in the nursing home and she was an inspiration to my mom who loved her very much and used to call her mama I'm going to miss her very much I would like to extend my condolences to the family my heart and soul go out to you I lost my mom on May 4th now they will be both together again Brenda was loved by everyone my heart and soul go out to the family again may she rest in peace God bless

Nina Capaldi

May 24, 2020

Brenda was a very special person in my childhood. Her and my mom were very good friends. I have great memories of us going to Jamestown and breavertail. Also our sleepovers at Brenda's house and all the fun we had. She was a great person and i will never forget all our great times together.
My love always


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