David John Argay

January 28, 1969September 26, 2019

David John Argay, 50, of Cary, died on September 26, 2019. David was born in Schenectady, New York to the late John and Alice Argay and he was raised in Clifton Park, New York.

After high school, David attended SUNY-Cobleskill College of New York. He moved to the Cary area in the mid-1990s. Shortly after, he met and married the love of his life, Sandy Luihn-Argay. A landscaper by trade since the age of thirteen, he founded Gardenscapes, a design, build, and maintenance landscaping company in 1997.

David was a member of St. Michael’s Catholic Church in Cary. He was a devoted and loving family man to his wife and two children who were his whole entire world. Everyone knew how much he loved them as he often talked about it to others. They were his life. Being the ever-nurturing dad, he took great interest in his children’s friends, being there for many of them like a father, when theirs were not. Although not an "official" coach when his son played lacrosse, he was always there encouraging all the boys on the team. They saw him as a mentor and looked to him for encouragement and support.

David was his given name, but his friends in New York referred to him as “Goyle” and his family and friends in North Carolina called him “Davo.” He will be remembered for always being positive, happy, humorous, and the life of any party. He loved to cook for his family and friends, and found any opportunity to entertain so he could share his new recipes. David's passions were the ocean, fishing, and boating. He spent a lot of his time with family and friends at his beach house on the intercostal waterway in Wilmington, NC. He loved the smell and views of the ocean and always considered his home there as his everlasting happy place.

Above all else, David loved his family and friends with overwhelming affection and those who had the privilege to know him recognize that their lives will be touched forever.

Left to cherish his memory are his wife, Sandy Luihn Argay; children, Chloe and Cole Argay; sisters, Cheryl Julian and Sue Larger and husband, Dan; father-in-law, Allan Luihn and wife Fay; sister-in-law Cindy Toma and husband Dr. Sameh Toma; brother-in-law, Jamey Luihn; brother-in-law, Jody Luihn and wife Wendy; and several nieces and nephews who adored their Uncle David. David was preceded in death by his parents, Alice and John Argay; and mother-in-law, Donna Luihn.

A funeral mass will be held on Wednesday, October 2 at 2:00 pm at Holy Name of Jesus Cathedral, 715 Nazareth Street, Raleigh, NC followed by entombment in the family mausoleum at Raleigh Memorial Park. Following the services, the family will host a reception at MacGregor Downs Country Club, 430 Saint Andrews Lane, Cary, NC.

In lieu of flowers, donations may be made to Cardinal Gibbons High School, 1401 Edwards Mill Rd, Raleigh, NC 27607 in memory of David Argay. Any money would be designated for tuition assistance for students in need.

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  • Funeral Mass Wednesday, October 2, 2019


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Bill & Heidi Berggren

October 2, 2019

David lit up the room! He was a special man and always sincere, loving, outgoing, and friendly!

We are keeping you in prayer during this difficult time and are so sorry for your great loss! Asking for special comfort from the Lord JESUS Christ for Sandy, Chloe, and Cole!

Bill and Heidi

Natalie Bates

October 1, 2019

David and my late husband designed our backyard in Cary, circa 2000. It was a sanctuary and playground for us and the birds. David's company continued to take care of that yard until I moved in 2008.

David and his employees were the best.

Please accept my deepest sympathy.
Natalie Bates

Shawn Harrison

October 1, 2019

Our family had the pleasure of meeting Dave through lacrosse. Our boys initially met Cole and were eventually introduced to “Mr. Argay”. Then after the ribbing and bantering back and forth he became “Mr Davo”. Every time we ran into Davo there was always a handshake and a hug. I will miss the conversations and the texts back and forth. Our deepest condolences to Sandy, Chloe, Cole, & the family. Rest In Peace Brother. The heavens received another angel.

TJ & AB Parker

October 1, 2019

Rhythm of the Reel

Misty morning solitude, fog lifting off of the water
Fond memories with a son and a

First cast -spin and hiss
The rhythm of the reel
and the magic that you feel

Good times on the surf
Open seas with the wind on your
Life moves at a different

Peace and tranquility
Friends and family
Sunny days and hard goodbyes

The boat ride home
Bathed in sunset
Revel in Gods Glory

The rhythm of the reel
And the magic that you feel
Absolutely he lived it well...

Bettie Toma

October 1, 2019

When God calls people to heaven he picks the best people first. David was the best! I have known David for over twenty years. He was the life of the party always. He gave the best hugs and he always had a twinkle in his eyes when he was making us laugh! David was truly an angel on this earth-he loved his family first and foremost but with his huge heart he let everyone know he truly cared for them. He filled us with his joy for life, his wonderful humor and his love.
David will be sorely missed by everyone. Even though David’s twinkle may be in heaven I know he will be with us in our hearts!

Sophie Snead

October 1, 2019

I was given the blessing of knowing Davo and will forever remember his kind heart, generosity, and the way he was always positive and happy.

Davo is a friend to all - no matter how young or old - how long you knew him - or how frequent you visited - he was a friend to everyone. Even 33 years older than me - he was my buddy. I’ll forever keep a watchful eye as they fish, I promise.

Thank you davo.

Doug Smalley

September 30, 2019

I grew up with Dave, met him in 7th grade. I sat next to him in study hall and were friends from there on. We were very close for a long time, lots and lots of memories together. We lost touch over the years but I will think of them often.
So sorry to his family and friends.
Rest in peace Dave.

Meghan Lawhorne

September 30, 2019

When I think of Dave I see a devoted dad and husband with a generous heart. I think of how much he loved watching Cole play lacrosse and how much he loved and was involved with his family. Thank you so much for taking Tanner under your wing so many times and being a second father to him in so many ways. I will never forget when Tanner told me that he was “working” at the Argays beach house this past summer. I was skeptical at first and wanted to know what this was all about but when Dave told me that he was “putting the boys to work” I knew that he had it under control. I didn’t know how long this would go on for and was a little concerned when Tanner mentioned staining a deck especially since he had never done anything remotely like this before....but I’ll never forget Tanner coming home and being so proud of himself (and exhausted) and showing me pictures of what he had accomplished. It makes me so grateful that he had this time with Dave to learn things he probably never would and that Dave saw this as an opportunity to teach the boys. Thank you for opening your home and heart to our family as you did to so many especially Tanner who loved you so much. Dave was a huge presence in so many peoples lives and will be missed by so many.

Carrie Martone

September 29, 2019

Many memories of us camping visiting in Clifton Park David was family to me im at a lost of words my condolences to the family love to all peace be with you David

George & Nicolette King

September 29, 2019

Praying fiercely for all of you at this very difficult time. Trusting also that God will comfort you in this terrible time of loss. Our hearts are broken along with you.