Haywood Ray Starling
January 3, 1923 – November 24, 2019
Haywood R. Starling, WWII Veteran and a former Director of the North Carolina State Bureau of Investigation (SBI) passed away at Morningside of Raleigh on Sunday, November 24, 2019 at the age of 96.
Haywood was born in Wilmington, NC on January 3, 1923 to Arthur J. Starling and Gabrielle King Starling. He was preceded in death by his parents, his wife, Valyne Fales Starling, and six siblings, including Arthur J. Starling, Jr., Vera Starling Britt, William (Billy) Starling, Ruth Starling Taylor and Genevieve Starling Robinson. This makes Haywood the last of the Starling Family’s “Greatest Generation.”
After graduating from New Hanover High School in 1941, Haywood joined the WWII effort as a Quartermaster assigned to various US ships in the European and Mediterranean Theaters. He served his country well and received an Honorable Discharge from the US Army Transport Command in 1944 when the war ended.
In 1947, Haywood married Valyne Fales Starling and moved to Raleigh after being recruited from the Wilmington Police Department to join the NC State Bureau of Investigation (SBI) as a Special Agent. After 37 years of distinguished service in the SBI, he retired in 1985, with his last 10 years served as the first SBI Director to be selected from the Special Agent ranks.
Upon retirement from the SBI at age 62, Haywood formed a new consulting business, Carolina Forensic Science where he continued for the next 30 years to provide professional investigative and forensic expert services to clients nationwide requiring impeccable credentials and unimpeachable honesty. He retired this business in 2015 to focus on staying healthy and making sure his loved ones had his full attention and wisdom whenever needed.
Haywood was a kind and honorable man who served his country in harm’s way, loved his extended family and never stopped sharing his knowledge and possessions with those in need. He encouraged almost everyone he came in contact with to eat healthy foods, exercise regularly, get plenty of sleep, treat everyone with respect, take care of family and follow the Golden Rule.
Until three months ago, Haywood lived by himself (with some part-time help) in the same home where he reared his family since 1960. After a few unexplained falls and bruises over the past summer, he agreed to move to Morningside for a while to get his strength and balance back. Last Sunday, he was called to a higher duty in Heaven. Haywood will be greatly missed. Haywood’s immediate survivors include his eldest son: H. Ray Starling, Jr and wife Pamela Garrison, of Kailua, Hawaii; daughter: Harriett Coley, of Raleigh; son: Ron G. Starling and wife Elizabeth A. Starling, of Raleigh; granddaughter: Jennifer Capps, of Raleigh; grandson: Brad Coley, of Raleigh; granddaughters: Cara Starling and Allison Starling, of Raleigh; and great-granddaughters: Georgia Coley, and Kimberly Coley, of Raleigh, and Jayden Piper, of Tennessee. He is also remembered by his nieces and nephews: Irene Britt, Jerry Britt, Joe Starling, Bobby Godfrey, Miriam Taylor, Billy Starling, Brenda Taylor, James Robinson, Julie Robinson, Sherryl Taylor, David Starling, Jeff Starling and John Taylor (deceased).
Visitation will be held at Mitchell Funeral Home on Tuesday, December 3, 2019 from 11am-1pm, with funeral services to begin in the funeral home chapel at 1pm. Interment, with Military Honors, will follow at Raleigh Memorial Park.
In lieu of flowers, please consider donating to a favorite charity of your choice.
- Ron Starling
- Jeffrey Starling
- Arthur Starling
- Josh Capps
- Brad Coley
- Brian Thompson
- Receiving of Friends and Family Tuesday, December 3, 2019
- Funeral Service Tuesday, December 3, 2019
Haywood Ray Starling
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December 6, 2019
I send my condolences and prayers for comfort to all of the family. I did not know Mr. Starling Senior, but Ray Starling Jr. was my boss and the reason I came to work in Raleigh, when Ray was the head of the Carolina Power & Light Legal Department. I think I better understand now why Ray, Jr. was so kind and generous and a great leader and mentor for me. He had a great teacher as a father. Ray and Pamela have always been gracious and kind, and I hope they are doing well. I pray that God will comfort Ray, Pamela and all of the family and extended family at this time of loss, and that this is also a celebration of cherished memories of Ray's and his siblings' father. God be with you all, with prayers for peace and grace. Steven Carr, Raleigh