John Snider Wilkins

October 14, 1964November 19, 2018

John Snider Wilkins age 54, died Monday, November 19, 2018 in Raleigh, NC.

He was born to Dr. and Mrs. Kenneth Wilkins in Goldsboro, NC. He graduated from Goldsboro High School in 1983 and attended Appalachian State University and graduated from NC State University with a degree in civil engineering. John spent his career in commercial construction and worked with Kaufman Lynn where he was regional senior vice president.

John is survived by his best friend and wife of 28 years, Pat Merritt Wilkins, and his children Jackson and Emma as well as Lilly O’Brien, all of Raleigh. John was all about sitting on the dock in Beaufort, fishing for whatever would bite and, of course, random animal data and the occasional rattlesnake. Just ask and everyone will tell you how he was always willing to help out, no matter what.

Also surviving John are his 4 siblings: Ken and Dru Wilkins; Hannah and Charlie Rouse, Brandt Wilkins and David Alexander, and Charles and Sandra Wilkins. His Mt Olive family also survives him: Betty Hughes Wilkins, Jay and Pam Wilkins, Doug and Geri Wilkins, Billy and Barbara Wilkins, and Randall and Gina Wilkins.

The memorial service will be Friday, Nov 23, 2018 at 11 a.m. at Hayes Barton United Methodist Church, 2209 Fairview Road, Raleigh, NC 27608. Visitors are welcome after the service in the Fellowship Hall.

Pat and her children extend their gratitude to all their many friends and family for their love and support.

In lieu of flowers, memorials may be made in John’s name to SAFEchild: – a local non-profit.

John – an incredible husband, father and friend – always kept his people close. Now we must do the same with his memory.

Arrangements by Brown-Wynne Funeral Home, 300 Saint Mary's St. Raleigh, NC.


  • SAFEchild: – a local non-profit.


  • Memorial Service with reception to follow Friday, November 23, 2018

John Snider Wilkins

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January 18, 2019

I remember him my classmate always HAPPY REST NOW NO MORE WORRIES

Savvas Roubanis

December 5, 2018

I am EXTREMELY saddened by this news. My touch point with John from 2006-2008 was at the AE Finley YMCA where we'd wake up in what felt like the middle of the night to huff and puff while doing the fitness fanatics class at 5:45am every week. John made the class fun with his sense of humor and competitive streak. A great athlete, he was bitten by the Ironman triathlon bug and was training his butt off. We went on a few long runs together, helping each other keep our minds off the pain and eyes on the target. My strong recollection is that John was genuine and authentic--nothing superficial about him. A gifted people person who made you feel as though no one else existed when he was talking and engaging with you. I am grateful to have shared time with him. To his wonderful surviving family, I extend to you my heartfelt condolences. May his memory be eternal.

Betty Norris

November 27, 2018

Pat and family; I had only met John at another sad event (Jo Ann). Sadly I never got to know him.
Just want you to know my thoughts and prayers are with your family. God bless each of you as you go through the days ahead.

Heather Steele

November 26, 2018

My daughter was fortunate enough to have Coach John as her leader on the YMCA soccer field!! I cannot describe the impact he had on those girls. An incredible sportsman, athlete and encourager he most definitely was. I remember him hoisting the girls up on his y’all shoulders when they had a good play or scored a goal. He also gave kudos regularly to girls on the other team and acknowledged their successes too. John always made a point to come hand deliver the trophies at the end of the season, personally congratulating all girls on a season well done!! His mentored on and off that field....truly spectacular

Richard Proctor

November 23, 2018

I had the opportunity to know John and his family since kindergarten. His dad, like so many in Goldsboro, delivered me into this world. I enjoyed many afternoons playing at the family home. Although time requires us to take different paths, memories remain. John was a good friend from childhood. I send my prayers and condolences to the family.

Aileen Lawrimore

November 22, 2018

Such a wonderful human. Such a tremendous loss.

Brian Wilkins

November 22, 2018

Rest in Peace John. God needed an Angel and he wanted the best.

John Anthony Spencer

November 22, 2018

John Wilkins was not just an average person. John Wilkins was a great friend, a great brother, a great teammate, a great student, a great son, a great dad and a great husband. But more importantly, John was a great man as well as the great human. I played basketball and ran track with John from 1980 to 1983. I wasn’t much on the track, but John excelled. He excelled in everything he did. After moving back to North Carolina from playing so many years of basketball in Europe, spinning so many years playing basketball in Europe, I was fortunate to have John as one of the first people that I ran into that was familiar. He was a little bit more bald but still fit. We gave each other a hug. We talked about GHS and the “fellas”. And he always extended his heart every time I saw him. John helped us all learn how to break down barriers, and leap over boundaries that the mind can sometimes imprison. A charming smile, and a big laugh, he was a blessing. And he will always be a blessing. So from your brothers from other mothers, we love you and we stand as a foundation for your family. 1982-1983 4A Men’s Basketball State Runner Up GHS Cougars. Thanks for being our “Rock”.

David Braswell

November 21, 2018

I met John at my first RN Rouse Christmas Party when he was told how my wife thought he was so handsome. He walked over and kissed her hand. That started a friendship that has continued for 30 plus years. We worked as Superintendents together on projects and later on became my boss. What a great leader he was and proved you can be a leader and a friend as well. We shared so many laughs and jokes on each other through the years but he always remained the one I would call for advise both professional and personal. God only knows how much I will miss those occasional stop by and let’s go get some hot dogs Braswell. I will miss this young man and will have a huge void in my heart for a long time but I am so thankful for the memories I will always have of a great person I got to call My Friend. I love you buddy and will see you sometime.

Carol Artis

November 21, 2018

John was a dear high school friend. He was so genuine and well liked by everyone. I can remember cheering for him on the basketball team. He was always cool and thoughtful on and off the court. We shared several classes, and we talked almost every day of high school. His parents and my parents served on many civic boards together and I just seem to always remember knowing and loving all the Wilkins family. I send my sincere sympathy to them, and Pat Merritt Wilkins, also a dear high school friend. Please know that my love and prayers are sent to you all. God bless you, and give you strength and comfort. Sincerely Carol Hayes Artis '82