Sandra "Sandy" Josephine Ostby

May 23, 1951June 15, 2012

Sandra “Sandy” J. Ostby, 61, passed away unexpectedly on June 15, 2012. She was born on May 23, 1951, in Memphis TN. Loving daughter of the late Joseph Smith Ostby, Jr. and Viola Childress Ostby.

Sandy attended Overton High School, in Memphis TN. She received a Bachelor’s Degree from the University of Tennessee, a Masters in Food Sciences from Colorado State University and a Masters in Business Administration from Memphis State University. Sandy worked at the Murdoch Center in Butner NC, as the Food Services Director.

Sandy is survived by her 2 brothers, Joseph Ostby and his wife Ann, of Oxford NC, and Steve Lee, of Ft. Lauderdale FL. She will be dearly missed by her niece, Angel Rollins and husband David and her nephew, Lonnie Glover and wife Christie; and her 4 great nephews, Christopher and Johnathan Glover and Joey and Cameron Rollins; as well as her beloved dogs, Minnie and Sammie.

A Celebration of Sandy’s Life will be held at 3:00 pm on Saturday June 23, at the Chapel of Mitchell Funeral Home, 7209 Glenwood Avenue, Raleigh NC, with a reception to follow the service.

Flowers are accepted, or memorial donations can be made to: American Cancer Society, Inc., in memory of Sandy.

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Doc Searls

September 16, 2019

I met Sandy at a dance in 1983. She grabbed me out of a crowd and we just started swinging. I was a spaz and she was a pro, so she led and I followed. That was my first and last experience of feeling like a good dancer. We got to be friends after that, but fell out of touch after I moved to California in 1985. Yesterday I looked her up, because I thought it would be fun to get back in touch. Instead I found her obituary and this memorial page. It was a wrenching discovery.

It's natural to wonder what happened, but I can respect family and friends' wish not to discuss it. It is good to know, however, that one mystery in her life was solved. The last I talked to her (I'm guessing in 1985), she thought her brother Steve, then already long missing, was possibly dead. But Steve is one of those writing kind words here in this series of remembrances. It is also good to read here as well that Sandy and Steve had recently reunited.

Sandy was such a good soul. I'll never forget her smile, her voice, her laugh, and her goodness toward everyone. My best to all who knew her.

Joe Ostby

July 16, 2012

You were my best friend and I really miss you. Thanks for the time I was able to spend with you through both the good times and the bad and thanks for the memories I will cherish for the rest of my life.

Life seemed to throw you a lot of curves, but you always handled situations with grace and dignity and usually came out on top. I sincerely believe you made the world a better place through the way you reached out to help others and I think they appreciate it more than you can imagine.

I have found a good home for you dogs; I think you would be pleased. I am sorry you had to leave so soon; I would have liked to see you retire and enjoy life. I wished you would have let me help you more, but I also understand you liked to be independent.

I think you had a life well lived and I am very proud of you. I will not say goodbye because you will continue to live through me and others whose lives you have touched.

I love you and you will always hold a very special place in my heart.

Ben and Marsha Vampatella

July 9, 2012

Dear Ostby Family,
I have only met Sandy in person one time in my life, although, my wife and I have had many wonderful conversations with her. The occasion was when she came to Florida to meet and adopt her dog Minnie. From the time we spent talking I could really sense the kind of loving, caring person that she obviously was. Our animals are very dear to us, and we do not place them into homes lightly. We are very happy that we found Sandy and that she found us, both as a loving owner for one of our pups, and as a person that truly has had a positive and uplifting affect on our lives just knowing her and interacting with her through our common love for animals, and Minnie in particular. We will miss her very much.

Kathy Childers

June 28, 2012

Dear Family,
I'm so sad to hear of Sandy's passing. It's been some years since I've seen her, but she was always a dear person. I fondly remember some summers we spent together at Bill and Norma's in Urbana. I always admired Sandy, even when we were kids. My heart goes out to you all.

Bill Childers

June 28, 2012

Sandy, I will always remember the fun times we spent together as children when you would come to visit Grandma. Your southern charm and beautiful accent stay with to this day. I wish he had stayed in closer touch over the years.

Nicola Elwood

June 24, 2012

Sandy will be greatly missed by her huge extended family. She was a very caring, positive, hardworking person who knew just the perfect thing to say when challenges were sent her way. To her family, my condolences.

Josephine Wilson

June 23, 2012

Sandy was a beautiful, special person. Sorry for your lost. She will truly be missed. We will hold you in our prayers. May God continue to bless you and your family !! Tyrone & Josephine Wilson (Oxford N.C.)

Margie Hicks

June 22, 2012

Sandy will be greatly missed by all who had the opportunity to encounter her beautiful presence. She was truly the epitome of beauty, inside and out. She will be remembered...

Steve Lee

June 21, 2012

I love you and I miss you dearly. I am so grateful for our long phone conversations in the last few months that we both enjoyed so much. You have been a great inspiration for me. Your help, encouragement, and wise advice have enriched my life. Love always. Your brother, Steve.

Janice Clark

June 20, 2012

Dear Sandy,
I am grateful to have known you as a friend. Thank you for your encouragement and talks that helped me through my sister's trying times with cancer. I will miss you, but I'll never forget your care for the residents at Murdoch.